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Saturday, February 09, 2013

I got this THREE times yesterday in a span of two hours. It is funny the look of concern and the amount of passion that came with those words. Ironically, no one EVER told me not to GAIN anymore weight when I was almost 300 lbs! My mom (who is getting sweeter in her old age emoticon ) called me and told me to stop by her job to pick up wedding money (gotta love that!). My mom does private nursing for the owner of one of Nebraska-s largest companies. The wife is the sweetest, kindest, most genuine person you would ever meet. I had every intention of just stopping at the door, grabbing the check and running errands but when my mom answers, she says, "Come let Fran see you." I was like okaay. So I walk into Fran's bedroom and she says, "Oh my word! Look at you! You look perfect. You don't lose ANYMORE weight, you hear?" When I told her I wanted to lose just 20 more, I thought she was going to fall out of her chair. She ADAMANTLY told me that is too much and went on to tell me that I basically will look like a bobblehead. Fran is the Jewish grandmother that I never had (mine is Hungarian) and so I just smiled and hugged her; she told me I was beautiful at my heaviest and she will always tell me I am beautiful because she is just that type of person. Then my mom's co-worker says that I am at my limit and that I can workout to tighten up, IF I WANT, but losing weight is a no no.

Right before stopping at my mom's job I had gotten my wedding makeup done. I felt great and loved it but couldn't get a good pic of it. After leaving my mom, I wanted Derrell's mom to see my bridal face. I catch her as she is pulling out of the driveway. I run over and jump in her car and she says, "I almost didn't know who you were! Now that is enough. You are skinny enough, no more. You done went and lost your butt." Now THAT is a true statement and I am not pleased with that. Once it gets warm outside and I can start my walkabouts, those hills will help the bootay form. But anywho. She told me my makeup was gorgeous and as we parted ways, she yells once more, "Don't you lose another pound!" WTF???

Ironically, Right after that I run into two people that I haven't seen in a long time. One, a girl I went to school with, her mom was passing me in the grocery store. I look straight at her and say "Haay!" She looks at me for a second with a confused look. Then I say it again and she looks stun and says, "Oh my gosh! You look awesome!" We talk for a second and part ways. I then run into my brother's old friend and she also tells me I look good. The moral of the story: You can't please everyone.

Before I leave, I got an idea from MISSB8604. She had tried on a pair of jeans that were a size smaller in January and took a pic and then tried them on again 30 days later and took a pic. She says she had no losses in inches or pounds yet in the first pic, the jeans wouldn't even button and in the second one, they were buttoned and zipped. I have a pair of skinny jeans that I bought in a regular size 14 a few months back. When I first got them, they wouldn't go up past my knees. In December, I was able to get them to mid thigh. I haven't tried them on since. Inspired by my Sparkler, I grabbed the jeans and the camera phone to document how far I could get into them. And what do you know??? They came up ALL the way, buttoned AND zipped (it took a lot of deep breathing).

My old red heels are now too big!
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    That's hilarious because when I tell people I want to lose about 80lbs they look at me like I've grown two heads. I always get..."No girl...maybe 10 or 15" or "That's way too much you'll look like a crackhead." No one believes I weigh the amount that I do but I know it and I'm aiming to get to my goal no matter what anyone else says. Looking at you I would not think you weigh what you weigh but that's why we are here for each other...we all understand the struggle. xoxoxoxoxo
    1826 days ago
    You look amazing! I know what it's like to keep getting the "Don't lose another pound" statement. I smile and kind of laugh, and just keep talking about whatever. Most people wouldn't be able to guess that I still weigh 200 pounds. Oh well though, we've got to keep moving on!

    Goodluck on your journey and GREAT JOB so far!
    1831 days ago
  • MAY_MAY007
    I can wait till I have those problems!!! YOU LOOK AMAZING!!! Don't stop until you are satisfied! emoticon
    1831 days ago
  • -RUBIES-
    You look fantastic! You know your hard work is paying off when you keep getting comments after comments. Just the other day, someone at work told another co-worker I look like a popsicle. :) I'll take that! It's better than being overweight.

    1833 days ago
    Good point, no one ever tells us to sop gaining the weight.. :-(
    You do look fabulous and I say... Go by another pair of red pumps because those are adorable!
    1833 days ago
    It's amazing how people think they have a right to talk about someone else's weight! Even though they are saying nice things, it's not really their business...
    Woohoo on getting the jeans buttoned and zipped! Maybe in a few more weeks, they'll be comfortable, and in a couple months after that... dare I say it... LOOSE?!?
    1833 days ago
  • ANGGEL40
    emoticon just Awesome..I so relate to your blog..I hear it all the time..if you loose any more people will think you are sick..or what are you losing your mind, because you are small enough..I think not until I think and feel comfortable with me again I will keep look AMAZING! Thanks for sharing! emoticon
    1834 days ago
  • SARAL72
    Gee I understand about the shoes! many of my favorite pairs are now too big!! emoticon
    But that's a good reason to buy more!! (I do have closets full of shoes ....but that never stopped me in the past, because at least it always looks better than clothing, on me, and I don't change shoe size that easily)...

    Regarding the comments....hum....I feel like you are the only one knowing what size you should be (and trust your bff/hubby but that's it!)....each time I lost weight in the past, I saw two kinds of people : those who say : "great for you, I'm happy for you, you look great" and those who are jealous and have some nagging to do "that's great BUT: you should not lose too much or you are going to get wrinkles.... you will have so much excess skin... your breast will shrink...etc...". Those who have negative comments are always women. May be it's not their intention to be mean, but they are. Ignore them, you know better about yourself than anybody else.

    Those jeans look great on you, you look really lovely!
    If I was that size, I would be happy, but I do get it if you want to continue and go for a size 12. Whatever you decide is great, it's you own body, you know how you feel in it,YOU decide what is your goal weight and how you feel in your skin!

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    1834 days ago
    emoticon job you look great
    1834 days ago
  • CAROLYN0107
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    You have done so well at meeting your goals!!!!!
    1835 days ago
  • LISAN0415
    That's one big wooooohooooo!!!!!

    1835 days ago
    Do what feels right for you.
    Some people think Jennifer Hudson is too small now.
    I guess the change just takes some getting used to.
    Congrats on ALL the progress you've made!
    1835 days ago
  • PURPLE180
    emoticon , I am also getting that you don't need to lose anymore weight (my dad says it at least once a week). It feels so good to see people that you haven't seen in a while & they hardly recognize you because you look so "FABULOUS". CONGRATS LADY! I know I told you this before but no way do you look like you are 200 pounds and no way you look like you where a 14/16 you look soooooo much smaller.
    1835 days ago
  • BEATRIZ269
    Nikkicole you look amazing! I know your family is very proud of you and it probably takes a little getting used to your new size but at the end your happiness is the goal and they will have to get used to it. I just went through all of your pictures and realize that you look so happy in all your pictures in all your sizes that I don't even see the extra weight. You are glowing and happy throughout your process and I am truly inspired by your sharing and your journey. I look forward to sharing more of my journey as well. I have pants that are falling off of me and I can no longer wear some of them but the scale has only moved a few numbers down. However, I feel really good, walk twice as fast to my commuter bus (cut my time in 1/2) and have started running so I feel great.

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    1835 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/9/2013 10:37:12 PM
  • BLKLILY one EVER told me not to GAIN anymore weight...

    EXACTLY...I love this fact & I say do you!
    1835 days ago
  • BRENNA84
    umm - why does everyone say you'll loose your butt when you lose weight? just curious.

    i don't think you've lost your butt, smaller yes, butt when its toned it'll be smaller and rounder, rather than bigger and flatter.

    1835 days ago
  • SPARKLE1908
    You look great!!!!
    1835 days ago
  • DALID414
    My sister said I lost my butt, too.
    20 lbs is an arbitrary number. I used to tell people I needed to lose 20lbs and they'd always say, "From where?"
    Do what feels right to you! Because you can't please them all.
    1835 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    Looking good! emoticon
    1835 days ago
    It's so funny with shoes... I understand the clothes but I had to give away some of my favorite pairs after I reached my goal! I couldn't believe that even my feet were shrinking...
    You look great!

    1835 days ago
    You look emoticon You know I've always thought you were a beautiful person, inside and out, but you can really see the physical change! I just saw you in December and you look like you've lost way more than the scale is telling you. You look so emoticon

    However, you need to do what makes YOU happy! It is nice to hear others tell you that you've "lost enough," but it's YOUR body! (Oh I lost my butt, too. I think age is playing a part on my "parts going south!" emoticon

    I think we need to have another "reunion" soon or I won't recognize you on the street! emoticon You do look BEAUTIFUL!
    1835 days ago
    Those jeans are looking great on you! Keep working on everything that makes YOU happy and feel good.
    1835 days ago
  • DONNA5281
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    1835 days ago
    You are just too cute for words! emoticon
    1835 days ago
    It's YOUR body and you should lose how you WANT to. And yes, it IS funny how no one tells you not to get fatter. As for Jewish Grandmothers, I'm pretty sure anyone who's lived through the 30s and 40s doesn't like skinny girls, lol.

    You look fantastic!
    1835 days ago
    Great! I can't wait to get those kind of comments!
    1835 days ago
    You are beautiful! emoticon
    1835 days ago
    Awesome Girl! I love it! You are looking so good! Keep up the good work and just remember that the important thing is that you feel good with the weight that you're at. It's how you feel inside. emoticon
    1835 days ago
    you are gorgeous lose what YOU think is right
    1835 days ago
  • LADYG67
    I get the same comments from family, friends, and those who are not so "happy" about my weight lose and most think that I am starving myself (NEVER THAT). When I tell them that I can't control my weight lose now because my metabolism has kicked into overdrive (Thank you LORD), they look at me as if I have two heads. As long as you feel good about yourself that's what is most important. You look fabulous - keep up the great work and keep Sparking emoticon
    1835 days ago
    You look great! Don't worry too much about what other people think you should weigh; you know what it takes to get to a healthy weight, and that's what's important -- health. Keep on doing what you're doing! :)
    1835 days ago
    That would actually make me so angry, nobody gets to decide my ideal weight aside from me.
    But yay if it made you feel good!
    Those photos look awesome.
    1835 days ago
  • JEREMY723
    My mom does private nursing for the owner of one of Nebraska-s largest companies

    For Warren Buffett? emoticon
    1835 days ago
  • TIFFA409
    Congratulations on your progress, you look great!! Just remember, this is your journey and you can do what you want with it. Take the comments as the praise and admiration they were meant to be and enjoy the moment!
    1835 days ago
    Yes, I broke into One-derland about a month ago and people are already nagging me about when I'm going to stop.
    1835 days ago
    I know the comments are confusing (I'll be glad when I get there ...LMAO). I think because these people know you and to see your transformation is pretty wierd. Your literally turning into a new person right before their eyes. Once you reach your goal weight, they will get used to the new you!

    CONGRATS!! You are doing an emoticon job!! emoticon emoticon

    PS. You look GREAT in the jeans!! (((HI-FIVE)))
    1835 days ago
  • PJ2222
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    1835 days ago
    emoticon You look great keep up the good work!
    1835 days ago
    The don't lose more weight comments are weird aren't they? I've also gotten the "I think you're too obsessed with your weight" comments, and "I think its unhealthy to lose that much weight" comments. I just nod politely and say, I'm just getting a little bit healthier. Or just don't comment at all--sometimes smiling and nodding is all your friends and family want to hear. You won't hear that on Spark though, until you really start getting unhealthy. emoticon emoticon
    1835 days ago
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