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Full Circle--2

Saturday, February 09, 2013

The reason as to why I don't Blog as often these days is because I've been bitten by the Spring Cleaning Bug--getting the Kitchen into shape made me focus on everything that needed doing--and thanks to that ,these days I'm so tired at the end of the day that by 9-9.30 p.m. I'm literally dead to the World!!Add to that my Walks every evening--it is something that I've begun looking forward to--agreed that the Pavements are pock marked with holes and one can't dare raise one's eyes from where the feet are going--but it is the beautiful Park that summons us like the proverbial Shangri-La and the 30-45 minutes spent there--- gazing at the Sunset and the Sea truly refreshes and rejuvenates both Body and Soul!!
Last 10 days I spent getting Sudhir's papers into shape.There were two huge 32" bags full of these and it really worried me because these were luscious Termite Bait--so I wanted these stacked in Sudhir's Steel Cabinets--and the Bags out!!Added to that was one of Sudhir's Juniors named Palash who called to say that there was a File which was needed by the Client so could I please let him have it?This literally irritated me--firstly I was not conversant at all with Sudhir's Professional stuff---and secondly wasn't it a bit late in the day to be asking for such important Papers--I mean it was over a year since Sudhir passed away!!However my Guilt wouldn't let me sit still and I began sifting through Sudhir's Briefs searching for that damned File.While doing so I also began making space in the Steel Cabinets--for everything was arranged by the year for easy location--but since now no one was going to reach out any particular Brief I began clubbing the Briefs together--as many as could be accomodated into each shelf--they were piled up nice and neat---- one on top of the other!!By this excercise I gained the extra space of 4 big shelves--enough to keep the entire lot stored in the two big Suitcases!!Agreed it took me about 2-3 hours in the afternoons daily for 10 days to do this--for this is pretty tiring work despite having Vanita's help---it was worth it in the end--for the first Set of Papers I came across in the first Suitcase I opened was that darned File!!However,all the Papers are now safely inside the locked Steel Cabinets--and I have given away the Suitcases to Vanita for though these are in great shape--- I don't need that size Cases anymore!!!
I have since progressed to my Closets--and restored order in some of these.We are a family of Clothes mad people.Mummy when she died left behind a hoard of unworn brand new Saries--all expensive stuff that the 3 of us had gifted her for her Birthdays,Diwali and other such occasions.She had a particular style that she loved to wear--and as she grew older preferred wearing lighter Saries--so we'd get her the more expensive hand woven Cotton Saries to wear----light and airy but beautiful to look at!!Besides she preferred colours like White,pale Cream and Ecru--- with small woven borders and Paisley or Flowery prints.Today we have a Closet full of stuff--and no one who'll wear these!!One of Mummy's cousins took some of these as did Meera one of our cousins--- but by and large these are still languishing in the Closet!!My foray into my own Closet was an eye opening event--for I too have far too many unstitched pieces of various Salwar-Kurta Materials--many of these bought when Sudhir was still alive.I have always loved Colour--and specially the vibrant shades of Green and Yellow.
Besides I love Hand Embroidery too--a result of which was my keeping a good rapport with two young Salesmen on a regular basis.One of these was Deepak whom I've known for the past 30 years and the other Amin for almost as long too.These two would bring beautiful stuff--Deepak gets delicate "Chikan" and Applique work from the City of the Nawabs--Lucknow--- and Amin brings the lyrical "Kantha" Patterns from Calcutta----both irresistible and divine!!The various forms of Embroidery and the tiny,perfect stitches used to form beautiful and rich Patterns are a Joy to hold and while I still love and enjoy the vibrant Colours, the urge to wear them has worn off----and as a result I've now begun giving these as Gifts on various Occasions---to Lotta and Sayali and also to my sisters.My biggest dread today? That I too like Mummy will leave behind a Closet full of Stuff no one will want--so I'm trying to offload these at every chance I get!!
Unlike my mother I'm trying to not hoard stuff----many of my old Vessels have been given away--and only those that I'll be using have been retained.However I have a penchant for buying Pots and Pans that catch my eye--and because of that I keep repeating emphatic "Nos" to myself every time something in that Category seems iresistible!!Besides Pots and Pans, I also have a weakness for various Perfumes--which I hoard and never use!!I have a whole set of the Stuff stored in my Steel Closet--all I do is periodically open the Box where I've stored these Vials and Bottles and run my hands over these--but somehow can't bring myself to use any of these!!Each time I bought a new bottle Sudhir would look at me exasperatedly---but experience had taught him to hold his peace!!Today all these have become more precious to me--for these show the depth of my husband's love for me--for no one knowingly spends a large amount on stuff that may never be used---but he did!!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CHERIRIDDELL 2/10/2013 12:22AM

    We must have been sisters in another life for I show exactly the same exasperating hoarding tendancies as you do !!!!

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MILLISMA 2/9/2013 8:05PM

    Another beautiful and touching story. Thank you, Komal!

hugs...Mary Anne

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RIDMYCOCOON 2/9/2013 12:21PM

    cleaning can be very therapeutic. i had to clean my mother's hoardables it was very challenging! those items sound so lovely!! I think your penchant for perfumes has a sweetness.

i do love reading anything you write. emoticon your writing transports me. you have quite a talent!! i am your biggest fan!

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MIRFA71 2/9/2013 7:42AM

    You are doing a wise thing giving away the stuff that you don't need anymore. And I am sure the person receiving these gifts is equally delighted to get them. From time to my mom and I also sort out clothes and other household stuff and give it away.

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    I too dread leaving things to be cleaned up.I was fortunate my parents enjoyed sparse living but when Dad passed I still had a 3 bedroom house to empty and sell.

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