How to take a compliment
Friday, February 08, 2013
How do you take a compliment? Do you put your trust in the compliment and believe it? Or do you nay say out-load or in your head? Out loud, I say all the right things, Thank you! You're so sweet! Back at you! I could hear that all day! Thank you for being so supportive. I really appreciate you.
But when I hear a compliment, the nasty judge voice in my head starts bringing up "evidence" that it's not true. Why does the judge want to make me feel bad? Maybe a long time ago, it was just self awareness, keeping me on track. But over time it's become exaggerated to the point of oppression. What I'm doing to counter-act this harsh judgement is to just observe it dispassionately. Not thinking, oh! I've gone and judged myself again, because that's getting into a circular round of judgement for being judgmental. Instead, just thinking : that's interesting, but not necessarily true or helpful. Just be the observer, and question the judgment.