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I said "no" to a Pusher today

Friday, February 08, 2013

I didn't even realise she was a pusher, I thought she was just being friendly and not leaving me out after offering the sweets to everyone else.
But when I said no she shook the tin, making the sweets rattle. "Go on, just one."
I said no again.
So she walked over to me and shook the tin right in front of me.
I said no thanks, I have gum at the moment.
She hovered there for a few more seconds. Then finally took the tin away.

Why do people do that? What could she possibly gain from making me eat a sweet after I've already said I don't want one?

I'm even more confused because she's the one who's been giving me all the compliments about my weight and health. If you think I look better now, stop trying to make me look the way I used to!

Anyway, today (fairly obviously) I love my strong will. Some would call it stubbornness, which I actually don't mind. If stubbornness is what it takes to reach my goals then I will be stubborn as a mule. Mind the kick : p It was my strong will that moved me up to Glasgow even though I'd never been before and didn't know anyone, and found my Home.

It was my strong will that let me walk into a salsa class completely on my own and join in. I don't quite know who I would be without salsa.

It's my strong will that's lost me 20 lbs and will get rid of the other 13.

I love it, always have and always will.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MERRY_XMAS 2/9/2013 3:45PM

    I always think:
I said "no" already... What changed during the last 2 seconds?
And to be honest, I have said that loudly sometimes....

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HA_MONICA83 2/9/2013 10:34AM

    woo hoo for you!!! love that you stood up for all your hard work and for your self!!! :) Smiling at your "stubborness" ==yes sometimes it is a WONDERFUL thing! :D

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    It is sad when this happens and a little alarming. Other people often don't "get it" because they constantly tell themselves, one won't hurt, I deserve this ice cream, etc. Your resistance makes them questions themselves and that's outside the comfort zone. Congratulations on your tenacity.

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SAINTBETH 2/9/2013 10:00AM

    Good for you! Some people are jealous of our progress and secretly want to sabbotage us. You rock!

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MELMOMOF4 2/9/2013 12:04AM

    well done. that is awesome. keep up the great job

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CMFARRELL36 2/8/2013 8:58PM

    Well done you.
Folk like that are just such losers - they don't realise it, though, which is where the problem starts.
The sweetie pushing is as stupid, though not as dangerous, as the other cretins who like to pour vodka or whatever into somebody's drink, even when the person has said no to alcohol because they are the designated driver.

Arrogance is one thing, but such cretinous stupidity . . .. to me - the folk who do that should then be charged with the dangerous driving, or whatever, when the poor soul gets stopped and had up.

Maybe there should be a series of pics that could be shown to somebody like your pusher, or my drink-spiker. Just to try to make them think.

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UWPALUM 2/8/2013 8:49PM

    Good for you! I wish everyone could be as supportive as we'd like them to be, huh? Keep it up!

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KEEP_GOING247 2/8/2013 8:25PM

    emoticon on saying No. That took some serious willpower esp. with the person in your face.

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ARW715 2/8/2013 6:31PM

    Way to go! You rock!

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JILLYBEAN25 2/8/2013 6:23PM

    emoticon Good for you! It's so easy to give in to those sorts of temptations. Good for you for sticking up for yourself, knowing only YOU know what's best for you!

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PRETTYPITHY 2/8/2013 5:49PM

    emoticon I have never been a food pusher myself, which is kind of funny because I love food. I'll encourage people to try something if I made it by hand but other than that I don't care who eats what.

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PINKANGEL73 2/8/2013 5:44PM

    If you want to eat things that aren't good for you it takes away some of the guilt if others are doing it with you. But someone showing they have more willpower than you by saying no - that brings the guilt back so you try to break the willpower down. emoticon

That's my theory - had it happen to me and even been guilty of doing myself to others in the past. emoticon

Well done for staying strong emoticon

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HEALTHY156 2/8/2013 5:32PM

    You are amazing. Great job.

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    Good for you! She may not even realize she's "pushing" but congrats for having the strength to say NO! emoticon

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