Thursday, February 07, 2013
When each of my kids entered into a serious relationship or a friend has asked me for advice on relationships I have one standard advice that I give. It was given to me years ago and I try to live by it.
We work hard at our jobs so we can do better and advance.
We work hard on our hobbies so we can improve and enjoy them more.
Yet our relationships, the most important part of our lives we just expect to work and put very little effort into them to strengthen bonds and make sure they are thriving.
I work very hard at my job.
I enjoy my hobbies and love when I get more time for them.
My relationships with my family and friends are strong and I make sure they know how important they are.
There's one missing. My relationship to me. This really hit home yesterday when I blogged how afraid I was that a change I was pretty sure I had to make was going to derail me. I have so much trust in my business decisions, I always think how my actions will impact those around me yet I was terrified of not being able to live up to my own expectations and actually set myself up to fail.
Last week I torched my body. All totaled I ate 4000 calories for the entire week, I'm sure 70% of that was in cookies. I didn't drink water, unless you count the tonic in the vodka I had Friday night. My body flipped out and reacted accordingly and now that I'm back eating healthy and normal it's still thinking it should be in starvation mode and is hoarding calories. That's right, my body is a hoarder. The scale is reflecting that and my immediate reaction was to avoid it. Only weigh in once a week but for me that doesn't work. I really appreciate all your comments yesterday that I should do this but I know from years of experience that I do better with daily weigh ins. I am absolutely fine seeing the ups and downs, I know it will happen and analyze why it happened. Just like I would with fluctuating data at work. Just like I would with my hobbies. The big swings I saw were upsetting but I know that they aren't real. I need to give my body time to forgive what I did to it last week and wait for it to catch up to where my mind knows we want to go. Let's face it, fat cells are kinda slow on the uptake and don't take the hint easily that it's time for them to leave.