Don't Know What to Do
Thursday, February 07, 2013
My day has completely flopped. My 19 year old son is still sitting on his butt doing nothing waiting for someone else to find him a job. Every time I suggest a job like McDonald's, he won't do it because, "he doesn't want to work there."
He is with a new employment agency now, but he has only met with them once since January 4th. He expects them to do everything for him. He doesn't try to do anything for himself. When I told him that his money was running out and we were not going to keep paying for him to go out for dinner or take him on anymore trips, he switched back to his swearing and flipping me the finger. Then he jumps up like he is going to hit me which he doesn't do.
I have tried threatening him. I have taken away his car and the tv. Nothing seems to motivate him. He has been this way since he was young. Yes, he has special needs, but everyone he has worked for has told me that he is very competent and doesn't pull any of the stuff with them that he does with me. I have told my husband that I am not going to keep him around here all day doing nothing.
I talked to his job coach. She said he was just supposed to look for jobs he is interested in. So I took him the laptop and said that his days would be spent searching for jobs. He says again that there are none he likes. All he wants to do is play games on Facebook and he can only use my desktop to get on Facebook. I don't know what makes him think he is more special than anyone else. Maybe because he has gotten away with this with his teachers his whole life. This was always my greatest fear when he was in school doing nothing--that they would let him graduate and I would be stuck with him on my couch.
At first I had hope when we got services for him. But, that is obviously not working. He does nothing but bully around here and, if that doesn't work, he cries. The psychologist and psychiatrist say there is absolutely nothing wrong with him. He is just used to this behavior and it is a bad habit of his. He doesn't want to change. I told my husband that he could get my son up each day and take him with him or drop him somewhere so I can get some work done around here.
All of the stress of this has completely goofed up my plan today as now I am exhausted. I don't know what to do with him. I wish the weather were better so my daughter and I could go somewhere. Instead, I think I will just lay down for a while and watch tv.
I really feel like I have posted this blog before, but it just doesn't change. I can't believe I spent the money I did to take such an ungrateful person to Las Vegas.