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Wednesday, February 06, 2013

One of my team's has a challenge this week for a blog topic: Can I forgive myself for the past? How will it affect my successful journey to better health?

I have delayed writing this all week because I am not feeling too generous towards myself lately. I don't know if I will ever forgive myself for regaining the weight I lost a couple of years ago with SP. But I have a feeling that if I don't make progress on this, I will not be able to get back to that place either.
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    Energy put into beating ourselves up emotionally for gaining weight is energy wasted. We are in the fight of our lives to live healthy. Let's put our energy in a positive direction. Forgive yourself and spend your precious energy on winning this war.
    1839 days ago
    The past can hold you back, it is time to let it go, forgive yourself through gritted teeth if you have to, but doing it at least once daily and in time it will become to have meaning for you.

    Forgive, forget and move on

    1839 days ago
    emoticon because you are worth it! emoticon
    1839 days ago
    Just happened to read your blog. We can do nothing about the past. I think today is all we have. Letting go of the past is so refreshing. If I don't do just one thing different than the last time, I will end up with the same result. This is all a learning journey, and not a perfect one.
    Good luck - you can do this ................
    1839 days ago
    we can do it! one small forgive at a time. You are worth forgiving !!
    1840 days ago
    Come on Sweet Lady and lets take that step into the future..... We can do it, I just know we can! emoticon
    1840 days ago
  • _KATHY
    Self loathing can be so harmful and prohibitive to moving on. Blame is heavy and difficult to carry around everyday. Forgiveness is freedom. Freedom is the lifting of burden. Free to smile and move on and feel good. You are deserving of that lifting of spirit and soul :)
    1840 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/7/2013 12:44:25 PM
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    1841 days ago
    emoticon emoticon TOGETHER we can do it. emoticon emoticon
    1841 days ago
  • HEATHERL0219
    I struggle with this too, you aren't alone! Good thing is we're here and we're taking it day by day! :)
    1841 days ago
  • NEWME0519
    I think that many of us struggle with forgiving ourselves! We are more willing to justify someone else's actions than we are when it comes to accepting that we are not perfect!
    1841 days ago
    FlyLady talks about this A LOT, and she sees it as just another ugly face of perfectionism. I think a lot of us still, in a corner of our minds, think that being a perfectionist is a positive thing, which makes it that much harder to recognize the vicious circle. Perfectionism is a curse and a sin.

    "if you can't do it right, don't do it at all" is our motto! If I don't have time to scrub the entire bathroom with disinfectant (the right way!!) then I'm not going to do it today. Then today becomes tomorrow, and then another day, and pretty soon the bathroom is a nightmare to clean.

    "If I can't eat perfectly on plan and run 2 miles today, then I'm not going to worry about it and I'll eat whatever and watch a show instead! I'll start again on Monday" It's "throwing out the baby with the bathwater" syndrome.

    Debb, in some possible future are you planning to "never forgive yourself" because your health declined and you became disabled? You'd better not!

    You don't have to "do it" perfect you just have to "do it". No excuses. And no guilt either. And if you can't forgive yourself for your own sake do it for your kids and grandkids and family and friends!


    1841 days ago
    I forgive you. Do you forgive me? We're nicer to each other. You're better off than someone who isn't here at all. You are here! We are here! emoticon Even if we stumble - being on the path to health is a great path to be on.
    1841 days ago
    I wonder. Maybe that is my problem too. I will have to think about that. I have never been good at forgiving myself at all. But not forgiving myself will never work. I am sure of that!
    1841 days ago
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