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Sickness, Starting Over and Scheduling

Wednesday, February 06, 2013

Well, the move into my new apartment went very smoothly. As it turns out, I have very few earthly belongings...so loading the truck took about 30 minutes with just my husband and me and my father-in-law. Drove the truck to the new apartment and my move-in helpers weren't to arrive for another 1.5 hours. I got every single thing unloaded from that truck all by myself except for my bed, a dresser, a table and a couch. I was feeling pretty badass that day! Haha.

First night was rough with missing the kids. My 4 year old really didn't understand why I wasn't "coming home" after I was finished unpacking at my new house. He and I had been talking excitedly about my move for over a week beforehand, but he just wasn't fully grasping it. That was difficult. But...it would only be three days alone, then I'd start my first full week with the kids (we are switching off full weeks at a time). I was so blessed to have amazing friends (present and virtual) to keep me company Friday, Saturday and Sunday...so I wouldn't be alone and wouldn't have to bear the transition entirely on my own. It was a lovely distraction and a very happy weekend for me...one in which I fully embraced my new found freedom with deep and profound joy.

Even so, I was jumping out of my skin excited to go to church Sunday and see my kids for the first time and take them home with me that afternoon. They were wild with excitement over the new place. The four year old calls it "your awesome house". We have had such special and wonderful times together in that apartment these past 3 days...just the four of us. I quickly realized that my kids are just as happy in a 700 square foot apartment with very few belongings as they are in a 2,000 square foot house loaded with "stuff", as long as they feel loved and like they are the center of my world. And they certainly are.

While I don't have much, I do have everything I need to live right now and I can't complain about that. We are waiting on a shower curtain, so we are currently taking only baths...which is not new for the kids, but new for me. Haha. Funny story on beds right now, though...I have a bunk bed for the girls but only the frame. A friend was nice enough to give it to us for free AND bring it over AND install it! Waiting for payday to get mattresses, though. Right now, the girls are sleeping in my Queen-sized bed and my son has a little couch/bed that he sleeps on next to them on the floor. I try to get as much of the night as possible on the couch...but he always comes out around 2am and begs me to come into the room with them. The past few nights, I end up laying across the foot of the bed at my girls' feet...just like a cat. Haha. Hey...whatever works.

In terms of training for my half marathon, this is dicey. I was sick and missed a week and a half of training runs. Then, the move. Now, my week with the kids. I did find out that the YMCA has childcare until 8pm and my girls have martial arts 7:15-8pm Tues and Thurs. Because my 4 yr old LOVES to go to childcare (he thinks it's school), I put him in there last night and I was able to get a 2 mile run in on the treadmill (first run in over 2 weeks) and it felt AWESOME!!!

So, I plan to hit my training really hard on the weeks the kids are with their dad, definitely do at least the two nights when the kids are with me...but it's my long runs I am struggling with. I usually do them on Saturdays. I suppose I could shift them every other week to Sunday afternoon when my kids have gone to their Dad's? Anyway...it's just mass confusion right now with scheduling my workouts. But my body misses the consistent exercise and so does my mind. I found I was much more patient and able to handle the kids when they got wild last night after a good run than the night before when I felt very stressed and tightly wound. In fact, after that stressful night, I actually dreamed I was running and it felt amazing (is that a message from God or something? Haha. He was saying, "Leah...get back to it!!! Figure it out! You've got to do this to stay sane and be a good mom!")

So, at some point...if I EVER have some time to think...I am going to adjust this training schedule and find a way to get the miles in. The thought of running the Mini in May without the mileage under my belt is scary to me. I know I can do it, as I proved in October (when all I did was swim for a month beforehand because my ankle was injured)...but there was quite a lot of pain after that race that I'm not willing to go through again if I can help it.

So, there you have it. A full update. Sure have missed this blogging business. Will have to make it a point to work that in more often now too. :)

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  • v GRUMBLEGIRL
    Glad your move went well. Give yourself time to get adjusted to your new routines and you will figure out your workout schedule out. Take care.
    1202 days ago
  • v COCK-ROBIN
    That's ok. You're doing great!
    1202 days ago
  • v A-DAY-AT-A-TIME
    Busy! Busy! Busy! Glad everyone is adjusting well.
    1202 days ago
  • v IMAGINE46
    Glad to hear you are doing well. Take care of you!
    1202 days ago
  • v FITMAMA4EVER
    While it sounds like you have tons of changes to face, it's great that you are keeping as much balance as possible. Making time for yourself will actually make you a better mom too-it sounds like you're doing very well. Hang in there and keep praying too!
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    1202 days ago
  • v SLIMLEAF
    Good to hear from you. Thanks for the update - and best wishes for finding your new routines.
    1202 days ago
  • v GRATTECIELLA
    WOW! You have a lot of stuff going on right now! great insight that exercise allows you to deal with difficult situations with more grace under pressure. You're doing great!
    1202 days ago
  • v COLETTEISGREAT
    Transitions are tough, but it really sounds like you and the kids are handling it very well!
    1202 days ago
  • v KIPPER15
    The transition can be tough, you are doing great! Keep the good attitude and the schedule will fall into place. Spring is on the way with longer days and better weather. You can do it! emoticon
    1202 days ago
  • v FRANCIEVW
    Leah, remember your long run can happen any day of the week, with a little planning. Especially when daylight savings time returns next month. Don't box yourself in on the weekends. Proud of you. Keep talking to God.
    1202 days ago
  • v PEGGYO
    I've got your whole family in my prayer jar
    1202 days ago
  • v THEHAPPYSUSAN
    As someone who's been down the same road you're on I must tell you how proud I am of you. You have a positive attitude, you're flexible and wise and you are taking good care not only of your precious children but also of your precious self. Keep up the good work!

    Yes, there will be many tears when you're alone but rest assured that your children will always love you, NO MATTER WHAT, and that is the most important gift to treasure. You're a great mom and they know in their own ways that they are blessed; they're embracing your new life as much as you are and they've learned that from you, Mom! Great job!

    I'll be cheering you on, Leah! Keep Sparkling! :))
    1202 days ago
  • v EJENKINSB
    It sounds to me like you're all handling with your transition beautifully! Take it one step at a time, and you'll be back to your training schedule before you know it!
    1202 days ago
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  • v CINDHOLM
    emoticon emoticon emoticon Thanx for the update..
    1202 days ago
  • v KJELLYBEAN15
    It's just like anything - it'll get better with practice. You have had some major changes in your life and it'll be a while before this becomes the normal for you. Be strong. Be courageous. You've got this.
    1202 days ago
  • v ARW715
    I am thankful for your words and your positive attitude. Glad the change has gone smoothly. Take care of yourself. Cheering you on.
    1202 days ago
  • v KARENLEIGH32
    That was great, you will be able to fit it all in. It just takes time, but you can do it. My nephew divorced a couple of years ago, he and X trade off the weeks just as you have planned. Its working after a lot of working together for the kids. Again you can do it!
    1202 days ago
  • v AUSFAM
    emoticon you're a strong woman and a great mom!
    1202 days ago
  • v ISABELLE31
    I'm glad to hear the transition is going relatively smoothly for you and your kids. I'm sure that trying to stick to your workout routine IS helping, even if it doesn't always feel like it.

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  • v OLIVIANIGHT
    I missed you!
    I'm glad you're settling in to your new place : ) Hope you can figure out your training asap too.
    1203 days ago
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  • v MARATHONDAD
    good luck
    1203 days ago
  • v PATTISTAMPS
    So glad to hear that you are doing well... Yes, I know there are probably nights when you cry yourself to sleep - kids aren't with you, life sucks, etc. Hopefully more of your nights are filled with planning, activity and also introspection. It WILL get better, and it sounds like you are adjusting. I am really glad that you and your husband are able to do this in a civilized way, putting the kids first.

    Keep your inner spark burning - you are an amazing woman!!!
    1203 days ago
  • v DIANNEMT
    Hope you and your kids make the adjustment fine.
    1203 days ago
  • v SENIORSWIMMER
    You probably already know this. Epsom Salts. I've just started using them since OUR POOL IS CLOSED FOR REPAIR for about SIX weeks. My body is not handling the pounding of daily walking and/or aerobics. I am soaking in epsom salts a lot. I got a lavender scented bag at WalMart. My highly "natural" knowledgable next door neighbor tells me Epsom Salts are an excellent way to boost your magnesium levels.

    I can't wait until the pool reopens. I'm going to swim every day until my arms fall off.
    1203 days ago
  • v NILLAPEPSI
    You are doing fantastic, considering the circumstances. emoticon emoticon
    1203 days ago
  • v LISBETHSALANDER
    You have a winning attitude toward this huge life transition. All these major changes have both good and bad aspects, the outcome for you depends on which aspects you choose for your focus. Keep counting your blessings and choose to do this the easy way instead of the hard way filled with animosity. I am so proud of your attitude and you are making a great life for your children.
    1203 days ago
  • v GINGERHAWK
    I remember the transition period after I initially separated from my ex a decade ago. While it was tough, I learned so much about myself and actually improved my relationship with my son. You'll work through and find a groove that works for you and the kids. For now, keeping rolling and adapting and you'll get there soon!
    1203 days ago
  • v LINDAK25
    Transitions can be hard, but life in general is hectic, especially with three kids. Sounds like your okay. Change is difficult for me, but I've learned that once I accept it, things have a way of falling into place--I think you're already there, now you just have to get comfortable.
    1203 days ago
  • v SHUFFMAN126
    Starting over is hard and you are very brave! Good luck with figuring it all out. It sounds like you're well on your way!
    1203 days ago
  • v GOULDSGRANITE
    Doing your work, quietly going about your business, doing the right things, YOU ARE making your transition positive, Leah! Keep pushing!!!
    1203 days ago
  • v SLIMMERJESSE
    Enjoy your new home.
    1203 days ago
  • v DJSHIP46
    Nice to hear such positive news... I'm sure you'll get it all figured out in short order... Wishing you the best of everything:)
    1203 days ago
  • v GOING-STRONG
    Sounds like things will be under control in no time at all... so happy that things are working out for you and that you are now in a "better place".

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  • v BRIDGIEEE
    Good luck with this new direction in life. It sounds like you are already figuring it out and are well on your way to a more happy beginning. As far as the running and working out goes...do what you can but don't try to do it all. You may end up more stressed out in the end than it is worth! You'll keep up with your training though because you are dedicated!
    1203 days ago
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