Death Does Not Speak
Monday, February 04, 2013
and we do not speak of death. We call it "passing", "going to a better place", "leaving this plane of existence", "crossing over", and other softer ways of saying someone has died.
Because we don't speak of death (and death does not speak) we have fears, unrealistic worries and we are often unprepared and unsure of how to handle our emotions.
In many societies around the world death is openly discussed. The dying person is often at home with family members. The wishes of the dying and those who remain are openly addressed.
I believe that if we talked more about death (because death does not speak) we would have less trauma and drama about the end of life. We might have a less fearful perception of how life will end. Most importantly, if we talked about death more, we might start living our lives more effectively.
We are ALL dying. We are ALL terminal cases. No one is getting out of this life alive. How would your life be different if you accepted these facts every day?
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We will die by the weakest link. Be it heart, lungs, kidneys, breasts, liver, bones, blood vessels, brains and so on, but it will come. The weakest link will be the start of the demise. Blessed are those who figured out or accidentally did something right to boost the weakest link. Then you have done your best to prolong your own life. If you had done that, there is no need for discussion. You've done your best. A lot of Monday morning quarterbacking if ones haven't done their best. That'd be my guess.
1525 days ago
Please let me know where you get these thoughts from...
1627 days ago
We often speak of death because we know what it is all about, why it came about and that it is not the end of all things. We know that the dead are concious of nothing Ecc. 9:5, Ps 146:4, death will be brought to nothing 1 Cor. 15:26, death no more Rev. 21:3 & 4. Resurrection will be either to a heavenly hope or an earthly hope on paradise earth with the possibility of life forever with perfect bodies..
1643 days ago
Thanks for your perspective. You are right that there is an unhealthy taboo about talking about death. I wish I'd been more open with my dad when he was dying. I suspect he tried to shield me and I could have been more of a support to him if we'd just accepted it. Take care of yourself. Value and live every day!! -Marsha
1656 days ago
My first thought was funny, not seemingly appropriate but it is. Your last paragraph is my father almost verbatim.
Even if you don't want to talk about death with others, all families should have open and frank discussions so there is a total understanding about thoughts and wishes.
As for if you'd live your life differently. I personally know two people who were told they would be dead within six months. One lived eight years and my grandfather lived to see all his grandchildren, about 15 extra years. So it could be dangerous to do things you might want; quit your job, buy anything you want, eat all you want, tell people off, etc. You could destroy the life you have and may have for years to come.
There are no easy answers.
1661 days ago
Thank you for your post. You have addressed a very serious and underdiscussed topic. I am a palliative nurse and have seen my fair share and then some of people in the throws of dying. I witness and am part of this process on a daily basis at work and desperately wish and pray more people will have the attitude of acceptance when it comes to the facts of dying. Your courage in discussing this is to be commended. Take care and may God bless you abundantly as you get out and live your life to the fullest.
1661 days ago
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