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Monday, February 04, 2013

Week 3 and 4 - I've maintained being consistent. Monday I do home workouts, Tuesday and Thursday is yoga, Friday and Saturdays are High cardio days and also cheap days.

I have been in the greatest mood but had a slight set back on Saturday. I'm a Matron of honor in my sis-in-law's late June wedding. We had out first meeting to decide on a gown. I got measured by the seamstress for my sizing. She said I needed a size 20 because of my hips I presently fit into size 16-18 in jeans now but I expected that I would need a larger size in the gowns...It's just I have been working so hard and it saddened me to still fit in a size 20. It especially didn't help when the sales girl was yelling I found a size 24 for you to try on. All the other maids didn't have trouble finding their smaller sizes it became such a big deal to find my size in numerous gowns. The hard part was not that I'm a size 20 it was just the circus around finding my size. However, I will say that just about most of the gowns look good on my shape and that felt good. After all day being in that store we decided to try after boutique that was owned by the bride's best friend/bridesmaid's mother. This just added more salt on an already open wound. I could not try on the gowns in that store because the largest they had in the gown we were interested in was a size 8. The gown was gorgeous, the bride was very please and we loved it too. So when it came time to place the order I was told my gown would cost an additional $40 dollars very rudely. I would had have to lose 2 inches off of my hips in order to paid $20 additional dollars more than everyone else. It was just so humiliating.

It was like all my hard work in in the gym and new eating lifestyle didn't matter just at that moment. Even though I know it has made a difference in my life, I feel better, more energy, and see that I'm toning up. I had to just keep my head high and try not look at it as a personal attack because these particular gowns were custom-made for your measurement.

So from here I'm just sticking to what I have been doing and not pressuring myself to get 2 inches off my hips. I'm just staying with the program I'm on and it will come.
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    I have been there. Don't let the numbers on a dress in a bridal shop get you down. I don't know why they are so much bigger than the clothes you wear every day. It is better to have a dress that fits and needs to be tailored down to a smaller you than to buy a vanity size that you have to squeeze into on the day of the wedding. I have had friends that did that and lived to regret it.

    You will be beautiful!
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  • HHB4181
    So sorry you had to endure that.... sounds awful.....
    You're doing such great things for yourself, keep it up!

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  • DIANER2014
    Hang in there and keep doing what works for you! It will pay off and you will get in that dress! emoticon emoticon
    1843 days ago
    I was in a wedding a little over a year ago and went through something similar not only did I have to buy a bigger size it was the ugliest color orange you have every seen. Keep in mind I am glow stick white so I looked like the walking dead. ha ha! Just think that by June they will have to alter it down and that will be the best feeling in the world even if you had to pay an extra $40 for it. You have 5 months girl you can melt away an inch or two by then.
    1843 days ago
    " I'm just staying with the program I'm on and it will come."

    You are SO right and all your hard work WILL 'pay off'.
    1843 days ago
    That is so frustrating. I have yet to be in a close friend's wedding but I have thought that something similar could happen to me and I dread it. Shopping for my own wedding dress was hard enough. I ended up in a much larger size than I have ever bought before or since and even though I knew those dresses tend to run small, it was still a huge ego killer. Good for you for sticking to your workouts instead of allowing the negative feelings to drag you down! emoticon
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    Sorry you had to go through that..... When I got married, I was a size 26, and I had my wedding gown ordered and altered..... although I was blissful, I still felt very uncomfortable... I remember one of my friends exclaiming how big I had gotten....Years later I have lost weight and probably could fit into a 6-8, I still have my wedding dress, with wonderful memories attached to it. I chose to have wonderful memories, despite the negativity around me. Keep your head up, stay in the game, you will emerge victorious!!! You are beautiful!!! Always remember that emoticon
    1843 days ago
    I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I had horrible flash backs of something similar as I was reading this. Why are people always treating over weight people, "less than." Its not fair. On the bright side you are working toward becoming healthier. emoticon
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