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Loving myself no matter what

Monday, February 04, 2013

This morning I clicked on a Biggest Loser ad and signed up just to see what it was like. I was reading a member's blog who was wishing her boyfriend would get on board with healthy eating and exercise. A few people commented and this blogger came to the conclusion that there was a "man mentality" which involved loving yourself no matter what.

I really disagree that this is a "man mentality" because if one loves something, one takes care of it. I have an advantages response card pinned on the wall next to my computer and on it I have my reasons as to why I want to be healthy and fit. Why? Because I love myself and I only have one body that is starting to show signs of wear and tear and I need to take care of it.

I am married to a man who has a weight issue and due to some physical issues he is very sedentary. I understand that he does not want to move because it hurts, but he is also carrying 100 pounds of extra weight everyday. In my adult life, I had gained 45 pounds and when I dropped 25 he commented on how I walked with a lighter step. I believe those extra pounds weigh one down emotionally as well as physically.

I do not cook all of his meals for him because he is still capable of doing some things on his own. When he does cook for himself, he will usually make eggs and sausage. When we go out to eat, he will usually order something that is very high in calories and fat. For instance, the last time we went out for lunch he ordered a bacon cheeseburger. These are not the best choices for losing weight.

He knows those are not good food choices and yet he chooses them anyways. One time I asked him why he does not eat better and he told me it was because I do not cook all of his meals for him.

Sometimes I think that way too, I want someone else to do the hard part for me. I often thought if only he would get on the same page then things would be so much easier for me because there would be less temptations for me and I wouldn't have such a struggle to make the right choices day in and day out. I often think, "Why doesn't he help me out with all this?"

However, I cannot depend on someone else to take care of me, especially if that person is not taking care of himself. If I loved myself no matter what, I will take the necessary steps to achieve those goals I have on that notecard:
1.) Reduce the risk of chronic diseases
2.) To have less aches and pains
3.) Mobility
4.) Eliminate and/or control cravings for junk food
5.) Get rid of excess body fat
6.) To have a positive attitude about myself
7.) To have a sense of control, physically and emotionally

Achieving those goals all starts with the first step of loving myself no matter what. Today, I am not where I want to be in terms of my weight and diet; but I am going to keep on working towards those goals. Why? Because I am worth it. (Now, I sound like a hair coloring commercial ~~~ oops, my age is showing)

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    It must be so frustrating when you are becoming more educated in health and fitness and the "love of your life" is living an unhealthy lifestyle. Unfortunately, he has to be the one to make the choice to be healthy. You stay strong and hopefully he'll get hooked on the benefits of making better choices by watching you!
    1807 days ago
    I have a husband a lot like yours (without the physical issues). I try to be a good example but I find that often his bad choices affect the choice I make as well. I've decided that 2013 is all about me. I'm making healthy choices for me. If he doesn't want to that's ok for him. I need to finally get myself to where I am not consuming sugar and wheat. I know it is best for me. Good luck! I know you can do it too.
    1807 days ago
  • SPATTEN2001
    I truly believe that we have to love ourself first before we can love others or others can love us! Stay strong!
    1807 days ago
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