It is my firm belief that the biggest trigger for me, in the past, to overindulging in food in general as well as sweets, is the stress I caused myself by not accepting circumstances I really had no control over, but thought I had to. And that was other people's lives and the way they choose to live them.
I was so sure if I didn't do or say something they would end up suffering the consequences of their actions and it wouldn't be good. I thought I was saving them grief by mentioning to them the error of their ways, oh not too often or angrily , so as not to offend them or so I thought. But in my mind I told them many more times than they would liked to have heard, if at all.
In all reality I was not so much trying to "save them" grief as I was trying to save myself grief. I wanted peace and the only peace I felt I had was to change what went on outside myself. So I was constantly trying to change circumstances and others. I wanted my wayward family members to have a change of heart. What I really needed was a heart transplant for myself. I needed a 'Jesus Heart'
My problem was pride, thinking I could actually help change anothers heart and worried incessantly about what I could do or say to make a difference. I also had a problem with lack of trust and faith in God that He was and is in control and He will lead and guide those who are around me to HIS liking not necessarily mine. I thought, "they do have their agency and what if they do not choose to go the way I wish them to go. That would be a disaster!"
But then I remembered they were God's children before they were ever mine and He loves them infinitely more than I ever possibly could at this point, and He is not going to forsake them any more than He has or will me. Dying on the cross for each of us does not end His mission to bring us back home to Father again. He will never stop calling, persuading and directing aright. And sometimes He has to do that through adverse circumstances. He has done that for me. And I am greatly blessed for it.
I really feel now, I prolonged the agony by interfering with God's plan for each of my loved ones. He will allow us to be in the drivers seat as long as we want, but it will be to no avail for He wants us to learn the lesson that we must allow Him to change others in His own way and in His own time. That is not our job to be a judge. But it is our responsibility to be a light.
Since I am a late bloomer, it has taken me a long time to learn this lesson. I cannot even change myself without His help. But thankfully I have learned the valuable lesson of letting go and letting God, where my wayward family members and others are concerned.
When I am faced with the temptation to try to control another person by criticizing, ever so sweetly of course, like in my past, I remember, God is in control and He will take care of that person in His time and in His way. In the meantime I need not worry because He will also help me make it through any trial I may have by having to watch my loved one suffer the consequences of their actions. Without consequences some people just cannot learn. Even me.
Letting go and letting God, really has lifted a great burden. I am free to fly now thanks to the good Lord's patience and longsuffering with me.
What are some of your triggers? It just might help me to see the light where I am concerned. I need all the help I can get.