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I Keep Overeating But The Weight Gain Takes SO Long!

Sunday, February 03, 2013

"I keep overeating but the weight gain takes so long."

Ever say that?

Me neither.


Let me park right here for a second to say that IF you or someone you know has been trying to GAIN weight, this isn't a post for you or them.
I ABSOLUTELY know there are folks who struggle to gain weight.
While her two brothers are big guys, someone I know has been at times in her life underweight.
And weight gain has been a challenge for her.
This is, of course, not the norm here in the USA, but it is a reality for some people.
I wish those folks well in their efforts to gain weight in a healthy way.

Back to the post.


So I'm going to assume that you and I haven't said that ever.


Well, beyond the absurdity of a guy who has struggled with obesity his entire adult life and spent an considerable amount of time dieting saying something like that...

People just don't say things like that.

Because we simply don't think about actively trying to overeat.
We don't think about TRYING to GAIN excess fat.
And we don't FIXATE on what we are eating and why the food consumption doesn't result in as much weight gain as we expected.

Because that's kind of silly, huh?

And yet...

We PILE ON UNNECESSARY STRESS about weight loss all the time.

We get it in our heads that weight loss is supposed to just happen a certain way based on our PRECONCEIVED NOTIONS.

We decide that something is wrong when things don't seem to be working like we THINK they should.

Let's stop that nonsense!

My point here is that you and I are not racing to some finish line.

We are LIVING.

And our focus - our FOCUS - should be on creating POSITIVE HABITS and STRONG MINDS.

And if we do that.

The weight will come off.

Without creating all that drama about how fast it "SHOULD" be coming off.
And without making things harder on ourselves mentally.

REALIZE that what I'm NOT SAYING is that we don't need to be mindful about how much we are eating and what sort of weight loss that will bring about.

I ABSOLUTELY believe that it is both healthy and advantageous to KNOW our net calories for the day.
And it is USEFUL to know what those daily net calories equate to in weight.

For instance, I focus on a daily net calorie deficit that effects approximately one kilogram (2.2 pounds) of weight loss per week.

And, generally speaking, on average I see that sort of loss.

I'm not saying that YOU will necessarily see that same sort of weight loss rate as I do.

But that's not the point.

The POINT is that my focus is on my HABITS and my THINKING.

ABSOLUTELY NOT on the scale.

And I would encourage you...

No, I CHALLENGE YOU to stop all the nonsense with the scale.

Instead, focus on STREAKS.

Like hitting your DAILY NET CALORIE TARGET every day.

Like getting up and moving for 10 MINUTES every day.

And, honestly, try to work toward 4-6 days of exercising for at least 30 minutes.
It will do you a WORLD OF GOOD to get up and move.

Stop the scale nonsense and FOCUS on the things that YOU CAN CONTROL.

Realize that whether it takes one week, two weeks or a month to lose, say, one kilogram of weight, the point is that you are creating better HABITS and becoming more MINDFUL about your life.

And that's a good thing.

You are quite capable of losing the weight.

I'm sure of that.

Don't underestimate your capabilities.

You are strong enough to do this.

But more importantly, you are strong enough to create a better life.
A healthier life.
A more active life.

And through that better, healthier and more active life, the excess fat will come off.
And you'll become stronger physically - but also mentally.

So stop fixating on that stupid scale, realize that this is about LIFE and don't add unnecessary drama and stress to your life.

You can do this.

And hey...

Make it a great day!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BLUENOSE63 2/12/2013 6:49AM

  I find by accepting "unnecessary drama" and moving through it rather than avoiding it, my stress level is much lower

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CALLIDUS 2/5/2013 9:15AM

    Thank you for this wonderful reminder! emoticon

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INTHEGAP 2/4/2013 1:10PM

    Thanks for the veggies, Matt. :) I'm slowly adding more to my food plan. ;) Great blog, as always ~ these are great things to remember! Thanks, my friend. :) emoticon

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HEALTHIERKEN 2/4/2013 12:03PM

    Right on.

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GINGERHAWK 2/4/2013 10:27AM

  What a great reminder about this journey. As I've aged, my body had reacted in a number of ways, one of them being around weight loss. I used to lose the weight much easier in my 20s than I did now that I'm about to turn 40. Spark has helped me to be consistent with healthy eating, including calorie tracking, and exercise and I am therefore seeing gradual, healthy progress. It feels great!

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CHOOSE2LOSE2014 2/4/2013 9:26AM


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CELIAMINER 2/4/2013 8:10AM

    Matt, do you do TED videos? If not, you should with your upbeat motivational talk. This was just what I needed today, as I've been down on myself for four straight days of being over my calorie range, three of them with nighttime snacking. Thanks for starting my week off right!

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DEBRA0818 2/4/2013 6:03AM

    I just LOVE the YouTube video about confining your sitting and lying down to just 23.5 hours per day (i.e., move for 30) -- a clever way to suggest that we can add multiple health benefits to our lives with a pretty modest effort. Yes, it doesn't feel that modest when you start, but it very quickly does match the reality -- move for 30 minutes out of each 24 hours is not much to ask.

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FUNNYFLOWER1 2/3/2013 11:48PM


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FUNNYFLOWER1 2/3/2013 11:47PM

    I totally agree with you matt that gaining or losing takes concentration. Only, when I start to feel like I am losing weight, I feel hungry and empty on the inside. Any suggestions? I have a long ways to go to a healthier me!Thanks for your encouragement.


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MICKEYH 2/3/2013 11:41PM

    You are again, so right about that..don't be talking none sense, just do it. Just do what we need to do for our own good. Right ? thanks for that encouragement. For me, I need to follow my calorie renege. I have purchased some calorie counting books to help me on this. Hope I'll do better what I need to do. Thanks again. Take care. (^O^)/

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BOOKAPHILE 2/3/2013 11:21PM

    A thought provokingly different perspective - turning our weight loss struggle words into a weight gain struggle. The absurdity then becomes apparent. True stuff, and I appreciate the thought you put into presenting it well.

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BOGUSANNIE 2/3/2013 11:03PM

    My ex is one one those can't gain a thing guys and I am pretty sure my son will follow suit...don't you just want to kill them!!!! LOL

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DALID414 2/3/2013 10:58PM

    I have a make friend who can't gain weight. He's just not eating enough calories, period. It's a bit annoying to hear him say that.

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BARB5970 2/3/2013 10:48PM

    unnecessary drama" what an absolute lightbulb moment I just had.... that's exactly what happens. When the scale and I are having an argument about what I actually, weight stress, anger and frustration ensue. Your words ring so true. I haven't been able to express exactly how the scale has affected my life and now it's so obvious...It creates unnecessary drama! I suddenly feel empowered. I have the choice whether or not I want to live with the drama and at this moment the answer is a definite NO. It's time for me to put my energy towards more productive things, like exercise and eating well.

Thanks so much for sharing.

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DIET_FRIEND 2/3/2013 10:23PM

    Thanks for visiting my blog and your comments. I know that how much I eat affects my health and fitness progress.

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RG_DFW 2/3/2013 9:55PM

    Good one

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