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Reconnecting and making diamonds out of coal........

Sunday, February 03, 2013

So, we've had a rough week, the husband and I. He's put well over 70 hours in this week in one apartment (we manage close to 40 properties) and a frozen heating system. Making it especially depressing was the fact that it's our anniversary today, and we'd hoped to have a nice night last night and that too was run over by this craziness that is truly just part of being a property management company owner in the middle of a New England winter. So, today, suddenly, it seems to be finally coming together, with the final test tomorrow morning, but we decided to just take a quick break today and visit with a friend (and former tenant)who is, get this, opening a GYM!! So, off we go to meet him at the new facility, to see what needs to be done to get it opened, and in the middle of a conversation about what needs to happen andwho should be brought on board we decide to call our former Best Man who isa world champion kick boxer to see if he'd like to teach at the gym, and he is immediately on board. The friend mentions that he knows a martial arts instructor who is also coming on board, but he can only remember the first he says it, my mouth pops open and I immediately spit out the last name followed by "SHUT THE F--- UP". Now, both hubby and friend are looking at me like my last marble has just escaped, when I announce, he is some one I've known my entire life, in fact he was my adopted "Big Brother"(which means he was involved with a family member, a cousin, they were engaged, and he was deeply rooted int he family when I was a child-so deeply that when he had his daughter, she was named after me). I'm following the story, but everyone else was still a bit befuddled, especially my husband who has never met this guy. So, I explained. He was there for me when my stepfather was abusing us, when my mother was a drunk, when my ex was an abusive ass, and when I needed a shoulder, and a guy to kick a bit of tail, and I both adored and idolized him. After their breakup we all lost touch and when I was a teen I reconnected with him and spent a lot of time in his dojo training and just relieving stress, but he had developed an unfortunate and serious drug addiction. Eventually, we all realized it was time for him to get help, and he turned to me. I agreed to spend one last day with him, on the condition that he allow me to enter him into rehab the following day, and that he NOT return to the city where we lived and where all his drug connections were. And so it happened-we spent a fantastic 24 hours at the beach and then at the dojo, meditating, praying, and saying what needed to be said, we made the loooooong drive to rehab the next day and said goodbye, knowing full well it may be for good. We had 2 conversation while he was there, and he did well. I heard later that he was very ill with cancer, but he was out, remarried, and she wanted no contact with any former friends/family members, understandably, so I stayed away. Tomorrow, he will be meeting our friend at the gym to set up final details for his classes, and I will be there to surprise him..........none of us are where we were those 30 long years ago, geographically, mentally, or physically, but, with God's help and a lot of faith,we will once again be spending time together training and supporting each other. God sure knows how to put a smile on my heart.

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CIERAPOET 2/4/2013 9:19PM

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Praise The Lord For This Reconnection! That's Amazing! Especially The Part About Him Living Right In The Same Area. May Your Friendship/Kinship Grow Once More And May God's Will Be Done With This Reconnection In Jesus' Name!

Enjoy Your Week And BE Happy!!!

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KYMBERLEIGH_H 2/4/2013 9:04PM

    Yes, the gym will be in Conway. Hoping to see it being opening up by the end of the week. Our reunion was bittersweet-he didn't recognize me, which was expected, and I got to meet his wonderful new wife, who would not be sharing his life if he hadn't gone to rehab and lived-they've been together since his graduation, so 30 years and they are so happy. We missed out on so much, and to find out that they actually live right in North Conway now, while we've been here in Conway Village all this time--how is it possible we never ran into each other?? God works in mysterious, it's my turn to get my ish together emoticon

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    I can totally relate. My family was in the rental business and also renovated and sold properties. My parents were snow birds and would take off in the airstream in the winter and leave me to manage hundreds of properties. Truly a nightmare. We had a maintenance man but he was horrible and my ex ended up having to do most of the work rather than have this idiot make things worse. I've seen it all. I had mom get rid of most of them before she died but she still owned one huge rental house with 11 rooms. It had been really nice but when the renters moved out the place was in shambles. They took the interior doors, the light fixtures, etc. The carpet was so gross my current hubby almost puked when we removed it. It took us 9 months to get it back in shape and instead of selling it for a $10,000 loss we made a $12, 000 profit over what she paid for it.

That is so cool that you will be meeting up with someone that was that important to you in the past. I hope it is a wonderful reunion.

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    I'm very happy for you and your family!


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BUSYGRANNY5 2/4/2013 7:26AM

    Awesome!!! Everything that happens, happens for a reason even when we don't see or understand the why!!

Have a great day!

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    That is awesome!

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RD03875 2/4/2013 1:27AM

    Where is this new gym located, in Conway?
What a great story, so glad you will re-connect!

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KYMBERLEIGH_H 2/3/2013 10:12PM

    Absolutely amazing

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ROCKMAN6797 2/3/2013 9:51PM

    It certainly was a small world today!

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