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Retraining my inner voice

Saturday, February 02, 2013

It's been 5 or 6 weeks since I went back to WW and it's going ok. I posted previously about my DH lack of support and that hasn't improved. But I've kept at it, hit some potholes, but have kept on the road.
On a quick side note, I have to share something from my meeting today. During the discussion, it came up my struggle with my husband making faces and remarks about the healthier meals that I'm trying to incorporate into our lives (even the teenager has been complimentary!). So, the leader asks if anyone has any suggestions for me. And, this is so precious, a man from the group said that I should just make 2 meals, 1 in the healthy vein & the other in the not. I laughed on the inside.
At any rate, I have learned a couple of things recently:
1) My biggest challenge will be overcoming my inner voice. I have been so negative to myself for so long, it's automatic. And any little slip I make, becomes catastrophic because my voice tells me "here we go again...that's just like last time...this is why you're always fat". It is so hard to stop & tell the voice to "Shut-up!" But that's my exercise, to stop and convince myself that it's not the end as long as I get right back on track.
One technique I have been incorporating is something I learned from a SP article. At the end of the day, I make a short list of the positive things I did that day. It can be about anything, as long as it was a positive move. I think it is a good exercise, to force myself to reflect back on my day & give myself credit for things I've done. Too often, I (& we) don't give ourselves the credit we deserve.

2) I have to learn to be less efficient. WW has this thing called the ActiveLink and you wear it all day so that it tracks all of your activities. It also creates challenges to get you to increase your activity (that's the point). When you start with it, you wear it for a week where it measures your movement to create a baseline of activity. My baseline came back a big fat 0. I knew I wasn't very active, but a 0? Yikes! I am an accountant, so I am at a desk for 8-9 hours a day. Plus I commute for 1.5 - 2 hours a day. So, I spend a lot of time sitting down. Plus, I am very busy, both at work and at home. to manage these schedules, I've worked to become more efficient, so I wouldn't have to make extra trips or get up & get something more than necessary. That's fine for getting things done, but it is not good for my health. So, I'm trying to make myself make more trips, get up from the desk several times an hour, walk up & down the stairs at work more, etc. Especially important this time of year, when it's harder to get exercise due to the weather and that it's already dark when I get home (& I still have to make dinner, straighten up, help with homework, & get everyone ready for bed). And it's really another retraining for my poor little brain.

All of that said, I believe that I'm making progress in both of these and look forward to continuing on this path. I'm trying to change my life, not just lose weight, so it really is a journey. And I'm incorporating behaviors that I can continue for the rest of my life.

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JENSAWIP 2/4/2013 8:53AM

I can agree with you that we all tend to overdo it, on certain special occasions especially. I also think it's a shame, the number of obese people around the world. Let's just remember that, especially on SP, we're in this together.

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BEESPARKLE 2/3/2013 5:18PM

    My hubby did that. My friends say it happens to them.

Well I said you do what you want but I am going to eat healthy. All I said. I said it would be nice that you support me. Like you say I am in Canada and I live in the country so we have minus. I walk in the backyard and dress warm. Other days I walking the house for 25 minutes.

Well on sat he came home with all the nutrition food. I mean the yellow veggies vs the leafy lettus.All good.

He is seeing me mean what I say. I know as women we have the harder points to lose. We work hard at it. You having to make the meal's for the children. You on your feet.

So I like your blog. You are making progress. I am so proud of you.

Sorry it was me that made the comment about the intake of so much food for the Super Bowl but it was an Amercian Station nearly everyone we turned at. . Yes Canadians are piggys as well. Yet the Americans have it so wide world how can you help think it. I am saying it is a shame. If you are offended I would remove it. I mean I get so wound up when I see the whole purpose of food as I am sure there is enough food to feed for a nation on the Super bowl.

Yes it was very distasteful on my part. I apologise.

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HEALTHYLADY12 2/3/2013 12:09AM

    Its nice to get advice from your support group. I think what happends is its hard for spouses, female or male to accept change in thier spouse. Your changing for the good but its still a change so its hard for him. Im sorry your teen is chiming in. Can you ask your husband not to do this in front of your child? I'm sorry your going through this.

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