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Friday, February 01, 2013

Often people reach a goal and think the above thought. They have worked so hard to get to an arbitrary number and realize they may be smaller but they still aren't happy. They still see all their flaws and none of their successes. I feel that happens because you trade one addiction (food) for another (diet and exercise). Without addressing the why or how you got where you were in the first place.

You have to fight the real reasons you aren't happy. Often this has zero to do with weight loss. Because no matter how much weight you lose you won't be happy. You have to learn to be happy with who you are in your entirety now. Not at goal weight or anything else. Food addiction is just like any other addiction it often is a tool for we use to numb ourselves from some sort of pain in our life. Some sense of guilt or not being worthy or what ever it is.

To be truly successful at LIFE (not only weight loss) We have to strive to banish those demons. Forgive others and ourselves and let go of past pain, heart ache and guilt. No exercise routine to fix that and it is often a hard and emotional journey.

You have the power to change your life in ways you wouldn't even dream. 2 years ago I was 350+ pounds and miserable. I have lost 100+#s and am living a life better than I ever dreamed. I didn't win a lotto or get surgery I started making very conscious decisions to do what made me happy. to do what made me feel good about myself. To stop defining myself by anyone else's terms. To take power over the only thing I have control over and that is MY life. The mind is the most powerful tool we have. unfortunately many of us have been hard wired to use it against ourselves. To make it limit us. To make us define ourselves in negative ways or worse yet to define ourselves by the reflection in someone else's eyes.

This whole journey isn't easy. It's not magic. It's hard work both internally and externally. We have to do the work on both sides of the equation. The goal of life is TO BE HAPPY. That's it. you do that you win. hands down. Not to collect the most cars, houses, jewelry but to fill that hole inside that many of us attempted to fill with food. That hole is a lack of happiness we can't fill it with money, fame, relationships, toys or anything else. we have to fill it with what makes us individually happy. We have to seek out and find our happiness. We have to practice doing what makes us happy. We have to take risks of falling flat on our faces sometimes to be happy, But once you are truly happy and you have changed your mind set and emotions on what really matters to you. You will be in absolute awe of what you can accomplish. Not only in weight loss but in life.

Then your mind isn't fighting against you it is fighting for you. then you can not only build yourself up but build up those around you. Then you aren't afraid to try thing because you know whether it works or not you will take something positive away from it. What ever you truly want in life you can have. It may not be in the way you thought you would get it but you can get there. I for one am living proof...











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PIPSANDMSMAMA79 3/21/2013 3:26PM

    Awesome :) This is a GREAT blog and so true. Congrats on finding happiness emoticon

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OHIOSTAR58 3/21/2013 3:18PM

  wow great jobs.

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CYNICISM 3/21/2013 3:16PM

    I can't express enough how much I needed to read this today. Thank you for sharing these words.

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GIRLYGIRL54 3/21/2013 3:11PM

    Your blog today touched a SPARK in me. Truly. I just want to HUG you! THANK YOU!!! emoticon Well done! And Congratulations on your GREAT SUCCESS!!!

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NYMERIAV 3/21/2013 3:03PM

    You' re so inspiring, and absolutely dead on in your message. Thank you for taking the time to share with us!

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ITSMYTYME2SHYNE 3/21/2013 3:00PM

    Thank you, you said what I needed to hear perfectly.

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DIANEINTN 3/21/2013 2:57PM

    You look great and I loved your message. Keep working toward what makes you happy. emoticon

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DLDMIL 3/21/2013 2:55PM

    Thank you so much for this great blog. I need to stop doing some things that are not making me happy and do more things that will make me happier. emoticon emoticon emoticon on this wonderful blog

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DEBBIE_C 3/21/2013 2:46PM

    Thanks for sharing what "IS" possible! emoticon

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TRISHMO1 3/21/2013 2:45PM

  you are so right what makes YOU happy

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GCWILLI1 3/21/2013 2:31PM

  Very encouraging blog! Keep up the great work and inspiration not only for yourself but others.

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MEWHENRYSMAMA 3/21/2013 2:29PM

    Awesome!
You are an ms oration!
Hugs,

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BAREFOOT40 3/21/2013 2:27PM

    Wow! Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for your inspiring words and encouragement. emoticon emoticon

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LSIG14 3/21/2013 2:27PM

  Great blog - Thank you!!!!

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CHOCOHIPPO 3/21/2013 2:15PM

    What an amazing blog! You speak such truth about the magical thinking of weight loss and how it's about so much more than that...we are more than that...and it's not about a collection of "stuff".

You look absolutely terrific. Thank you for an inspirational blog.

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WARRIOR4745 3/21/2013 2:06PM

  You touched a spot very close to me. I really needed to read that blog!
You look amazing!

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REDBIRDFLY 3/21/2013 2:03PM

    Thank you...I was struggling with the self talk and blogged about it today too. I only write for myself, you're much better at saying what I was thinking...heehee. Thanks!! emoticon

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NIKKSJOURNEY 3/21/2013 1:50PM

    Thanks so very much for sharing your story. It's very encouraging. Keep on fighting the good fight :-)! emoticon emoticon


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CHERYLSBUTT 3/21/2013 1:49PM

    Your perspective reminds me of a bible study where my life re-opened itself to me...
Check out Genesis 1:31....It discusses God making us and declaring that we are good!

Now focus on that, God who knows the hairs on your head before there was a head says we are good. Putting that in your heart, changes how you value yourself and allows you to give more of yourself to yourself and to others!

I am so thankful for the light that shines through your words!

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NIKKIJ55 3/21/2013 1:32PM

    Great blog! Thanks for sharing!

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SPEEDY143 3/21/2013 1:27PM

    Fight on!!!!! emoticon emoticon YOU are emoticon emoticon

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EL-E-E 3/21/2013 1:27PM

    way to go!! you look great but more importantly, you know it's not just about how you look!
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NONIE_C 3/21/2013 1:15PM

    You are so, so, so RIGHT ON!!!
I couldn't agree with you more!

Thank you for sharing this wonderful blog and congratulations on your success!!!
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HOLATERESA 3/21/2013 1:14PM

    All I can say is WOW! This post was exactly what I needed to hear. Well written! Thank you for sharing, you are an inspiration!

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IDICEM 3/21/2013 1:11PM

  Well said. Congratulations on your journey and your outlook on life. Thanks for sharing with us!
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MISSMRWHITE 3/21/2013 1:08PM

    Thanks for sharing. I think I've gotten so busy I've forgotten WHY I do, well anything. Thanks for the reminder. You look great!!! emoticon

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BECONSISTENT 3/21/2013 1:00PM

  That is it exactly. emoticon

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MELAYAHM 3/21/2013 12:57PM

    Awesome work! And what you say is so true. Funnily enough, I heard an article on the radio yesterday about a woman who lost 350 and then found she still wasn't happy. Just cos someone gets down to Halle Berry's weight, doesn't make them Halle Berry! I suppose some people don't realise they have other issues and pin all their hopes on the weight loss, only to discover when they lose the weight that it wasn't the weight that was the problem.

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J2740LOU 3/21/2013 12:57PM

    Great Blog! Thanks for sharing such wisdom. You are an inspiration. emoticon emoticon

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52114ME 3/21/2013 12:53PM

    Way to go!
You really touched me with this blog. It made me think. You are so RIGHT!
I am not taking care of what is important for ME.
Part of my journey does need to include what I want.



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WORLDSERIES11 3/21/2013 12:48PM

    Wonderful advice!! emoticon
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SUSIEMT 3/21/2013 12:43PM

    Good blog..Great Thoughts! Woo Hoo to you! Keep up the good work! You deserve much happiness!

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PSHOWS 3/21/2013 12:39PM

    Wow! Fantastic job!

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MARYHENNIG 3/21/2013 12:39PM

  Looking good there!

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1CARRIERDIET 3/21/2013 12:36PM

  WOW !! Keep up healthy thinking.

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JUSTTERRICALI 3/21/2013 12:28PM

    Amazing blog! Thank you for the encouragement to really look at this journey a different way!

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HAPPYMENOW58 3/21/2013 12:27PM

    fantastic!!!!!! Well done!!!!!!

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DEBJNC 3/21/2013 12:23PM

    I so enjoyed your blog and wonderful words of wisdom. The insight you have to a victorious happy life is very inspiring to me. Thank you for sharing. (And you look FABULOUS, Btw!)

Debbie

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DEEDEE1102 3/21/2013 12:21PM

    Great blog! You are what all of us are striving to be! It is so true that the weight is a symptom of our disease and until we deal with what it is that makes us abuse ourselves with food, we will keep yo-yoing the rest of our lives. A better understanding of ourselves and what makes us happy certainly seems like the tool that can break this cycle!
Thank you for this well-written, inspirational essay! I needed it today!
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JULIENMM 3/21/2013 12:17PM

    You are awesome, Chris! Way to go being the SP blog of the day! Woohoo!!!!

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ACCEPTHECHLNGE 3/21/2013 12:17PM

    What Wisdom and Inspiration! A true success story.
A Blog to hold onto. Thanks for sharing it with all of us who struggle.
The pictures tell volumes.

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CINJEBAR 3/21/2013 12:15PM

    Very inspiring. I liked the comment where you said that we can use of minds against ourselves, that it is the most powerful tool we have. That is true. The question we must all answer is-are we going to let our minds rule us or will we rule our minds.

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JAKESBIGSIS 3/21/2013 12:11PM

    I can't fully express how much I REALLY needed this today!!! Thank you SO much!!

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MIAJOEB 3/21/2013 12:08PM

    I really appreciated the clearing out the wreckage of the past and living in kindness and love.... I heard that in your shares.... Thank you for putting things in perspective.. But I can only do it by keeping to my plan and trusting in the Lord...

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GENEVIA5 3/21/2013 12:04PM

    Great!

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GENEVIA5 3/21/2013 12:03PM

    Great!

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