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What do I do now.....

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Friday, February 01, 2013

Often people reach a goal and think the above thought. They have worked so hard to get to an arbitrary number and realize they may be smaller but they still aren't happy. They still see all their flaws and none of their successes. I feel that happens because you trade one addiction (food) for another (diet and exercise). Without addressing the why or how you got where you were in the first place.

You have to fight the real reasons you aren't happy. Often this has zero to do with weight loss. Because no matter how much weight you lose you won't be happy. You have to learn to be happy with who you are in your entirety now. Not at goal weight or anything else. Food addiction is just like any other addiction it often is a tool for we use to numb ourselves from some sort of pain in our life. Some sense of guilt or not being worthy or what ever it is.

To be truly successful at LIFE (not only weight loss) We have to strive to banish those demons. Forgive others and ourselves and let go of past pain, heart ache and guilt. No exercise routine to fix that and it is often a hard and emotional journey.

You have the power to change your life in ways you wouldn't even dream. 2 years ago I was 350+ pounds and miserable. I have lost 100+#s and am living a life better than I ever dreamed. I didn't win a lotto or get surgery I started making very conscious decisions to do what made me happy. to do what made me feel good about myself. To stop defining myself by anyone else's terms. To take power over the only thing I have control over and that is MY life. The mind is the most powerful tool we have. unfortunately many of us have been hard wired to use it against ourselves. To make it limit us. To make us define ourselves in negative ways or worse yet to define ourselves by the reflection in someone else's eyes.

This whole journey isn't easy. It's not magic. It's hard work both internally and externally. We have to do the work on both sides of the equation. The goal of life is TO BE HAPPY. That's it. you do that you win. hands down. Not to collect the most cars, houses, jewelry but to fill that hole inside that many of us attempted to fill with food. That hole is a lack of happiness we can't fill it with money, fame, relationships, toys or anything else. we have to fill it with what makes us individually happy. We have to seek out and find our happiness. We have to practice doing what makes us happy. We have to take risks of falling flat on our faces sometimes to be happy, But once you are truly happy and you have changed your mind set and emotions on what really matters to you. You will be in absolute awe of what you can accomplish. Not only in weight loss but in life.

Then your mind isn't fighting against you it is fighting for you. then you can not only build yourself up but build up those around you. Then you aren't afraid to try thing because you know whether it works or not you will take something positive away from it. What ever you truly want in life you can have. It may not be in the way you thought you would get it but you can get there. I for one am living proof...











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FITWITHIN 3/21/2013 10:43PM

    Loved the blog! Job well done! Keep up the great work! emoticon

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FEMISLIM 3/21/2013 10:31PM

    You have done real good dear friend!

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TOKIEMOON 3/21/2013 10:05PM

    What a story! With your insights, I trust you will make this a permanent life change. As you said - it' s not just a weight loss. emoticon

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MOMMY2MADILYN 3/21/2013 9:59PM

    You are so inspirational!! Thank you for reminding me to keep sight of what is truly important in this life. You are so AMAZING!! emoticon

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CM_GARDNER78 3/21/2013 9:54PM

    What an AWESOME post!!!! You are SUCH an amazing inspiration!! You look fantastic - congratulations on all you have achieved so far! :-) ((((((HUGS))))))

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SPRINGAPPLE 3/21/2013 9:53PM

    Wow, You give me hope!!!!!

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ANGELONE11 3/21/2013 9:51PM

    emoticon emoticon Reading your blog is motivation and encouragement to continue on this journey and not give up!! emoticon

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DREAM2BE 3/21/2013 9:38PM

    Loved reading this! emoticon for sharing! I needed to read this today! emoticon

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MORTONDH 3/21/2013 9:22PM

  Great super insightful blog. Thank you!

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DOTTIEJANE1 3/21/2013 9:17PM

    emoticon you have done an amazing job and thanks for sharing your journey with us. emoticon emoticon

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MITCHARVEY 3/21/2013 9:14PM

    emoticon well said

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DEFININGMYSELF 3/21/2013 9:08PM

  Great job! You are fabulous. Enjoy your new life and all of the good things that you have worked so hard for.

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MICKEYH 3/21/2013 8:51PM

    Thank you so much for sharing your encouragement blog for you and for us. I have lost quite bit of weight just like you. My fame is petite, so it's not a lot of weight compare to yours. But more I get close to my goal weight, I feel something is unsecured about me. Like you said, " What's next?" Right now, that's a big ? Mark for me. I am realizing that I need to be happy regardless of my weight. Tanks again and good luck on your journey.

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JOYFUL452003 3/21/2013 8:37PM

    Thank you for sharing.
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Keep up the good work. Muriel

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NDKARIKARI 3/21/2013 8:22PM

    this is such an amazing blog post. thank you for your insight and strength. you have come a long way and it is because you hit the nail right on the head. replacing one addiction (food) with another (exercise) is extremely dangerous and I think many of us have done/are doing exactly that. We have to figure out what is causing the void, otherwise we are doomed to an endless cycle of weight loss/gain/ and heartache.

you inspire me greatly, thank you!

-Nana

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    emoticon emoticon emoticon absolutely emoticon blog!!

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DIBO2011 3/21/2013 8:01PM

    CLPURNELL,

I loved this blog! You're an inspiration! Congratulations to you for all your successes on and off the scale!

I am learning to enjoy the journey instead of waiting for a magic number. I have SP to thank for that.

Keep spreading the spark!

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TEDYBEAR2838 3/21/2013 7:52PM

    You are a great example of what we can do.

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LILSHINE 3/21/2013 7:49PM

    Awesome blog and awesome job at making changes. I'm guessing that's where I find myself right now. Truly examining what's wrong on the inside. I pray I reach the point that you did and it clicks for me too. Thanks for sharing an awesome point of view.

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SVELTEWARRIOR 3/21/2013 7:45PM

    Fantastic!!!!!!!! You are a true inspiration!!!!!! Thank you for sharing.

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for sharing
YOU are VERY INSPIRING !

Keep up the GOOD WORK

Hope you had a Terrific Thursday !
Have a Fabulous Friday !


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LOVE and BLESSINGS !

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STODD251 3/21/2013 7:33PM

    Awesome!!

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REALKIEKEY 3/21/2013 7:28PM

    It sounds like you have found your "magic pill". Keep up the great work!

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YICHE12 3/21/2013 6:51PM

    What an amazing story. I enjoyed reading your blog. Thanks for sharing it with all of us. You are truly an inspiration. emoticon

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WRITEAWAY 3/21/2013 6:40PM

    Congrats on your hard work, *and* finding the peace and joy within. Thanks for sharing this~!!

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JERICHO1991 3/21/2013 6:37PM

    Good documentation of your progress.

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MCANDIES 3/21/2013 6:14PM

    I do believe what you are saying is true. It is a hard thing to do though. Congrats to you though! You look great!


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PATRICIAANN46 3/21/2013 5:55PM

  What an emoticon job you have done. And....... emoticon for the great advice.

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ABRANNEWME2014 3/21/2013 5:49PM

    You are so amazing I'm so glad I read this thank you for sharing

Tema

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LOLAJO54 3/21/2013 5:32PM

    You know it!
You are emoticon !

Happy to be your spark friend

You look fantastic ..

Your right on about liking--loving yourself and doing what makes you happy..
I am really working on being good to me and no negative talk about myself

Thank you for sharing -- we need to hear this ..

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oh --going away with sis and some fellow sparkers for a week in the sun..
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RUTHEY01 3/21/2013 5:19PM

    Great blog. Congrats on the awesome transformation!

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CORNERKICK 3/21/2013 5:14PM

  Awesome...Way to go!!

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ALIHIKES 3/21/2013 4:57PM

    Amazing blog! Thanks for sharing. I really appreciated your insights about the total journey, and that weight loss doesn't fix every problem.

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UPTOME6 3/21/2013 4:52PM

  Nothing tastes better than happiness. It just takes some of us a bit longer to figure that out. Thank you CL .....PS...you look fab!!

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SIDRA61 3/21/2013 4:46PM

    Thank you for the inspirational words. I have felt the same way, that is why I have been doing the yo-yo for so many years. Your words has aspired me to keep going and achieve my goals. Keep up the great work!

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    Keep up the emoticon work! emoticon emoticon

You are an inspiration to everyone! Good luck on your continue journey to a healthier life style and on your goals! emoticon emoticon emoticon


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EVIE4NOW 3/21/2013 4:21PM

  you look awesome. will try to live my your words.. very motivating. thank you so much.

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MARILYNROBERT 3/21/2013 4:15PM

    Thank you Chris emoticon

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CLAIRE1141 3/21/2013 4:05PM

  You are right
I should have been reading blog all along. Keep up the good work.

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JEFFD10 3/21/2013 4:03PM

  Well Said CL !!!!

you look great and keep up all the hard work :)


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ELIELECTRIC 3/21/2013 3:53PM

    #preach! so true, dude, thanks for the realtalk.

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LAMEJOR5 3/21/2013 3:47PM

    First guy I have seen on this site(so exciting) since I've joined. Awesome job!!!!

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  That I GREAT news. So , so glad for you!!!!! emoticon emoticon

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