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What do I do now.....

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Friday, February 01, 2013

Often people reach a goal and think the above thought. They have worked so hard to get to an arbitrary number and realize they may be smaller but they still aren't happy. They still see all their flaws and none of their successes. I feel that happens because you trade one addiction (food) for another (diet and exercise). Without addressing the why or how you got where you were in the first place.

You have to fight the real reasons you aren't happy. Often this has zero to do with weight loss. Because no matter how much weight you lose you won't be happy. You have to learn to be happy with who you are in your entirety now. Not at goal weight or anything else. Food addiction is just like any other addiction it often is a tool for we use to numb ourselves from some sort of pain in our life. Some sense of guilt or not being worthy or what ever it is.

To be truly successful at LIFE (not only weight loss) We have to strive to banish those demons. Forgive others and ourselves and let go of past pain, heart ache and guilt. No exercise routine to fix that and it is often a hard and emotional journey.

You have the power to change your life in ways you wouldn't even dream. 2 years ago I was 350+ pounds and miserable. I have lost 100+#s and am living a life better than I ever dreamed. I didn't win a lotto or get surgery I started making very conscious decisions to do what made me happy. to do what made me feel good about myself. To stop defining myself by anyone else's terms. To take power over the only thing I have control over and that is MY life. The mind is the most powerful tool we have. unfortunately many of us have been hard wired to use it against ourselves. To make it limit us. To make us define ourselves in negative ways or worse yet to define ourselves by the reflection in someone else's eyes.

This whole journey isn't easy. It's not magic. It's hard work both internally and externally. We have to do the work on both sides of the equation. The goal of life is TO BE HAPPY. That's it. you do that you win. hands down. Not to collect the most cars, houses, jewelry but to fill that hole inside that many of us attempted to fill with food. That hole is a lack of happiness we can't fill it with money, fame, relationships, toys or anything else. we have to fill it with what makes us individually happy. We have to seek out and find our happiness. We have to practice doing what makes us happy. We have to take risks of falling flat on our faces sometimes to be happy, But once you are truly happy and you have changed your mind set and emotions on what really matters to you. You will be in absolute awe of what you can accomplish. Not only in weight loss but in life.

Then your mind isn't fighting against you it is fighting for you. then you can not only build yourself up but build up those around you. Then you aren't afraid to try thing because you know whether it works or not you will take something positive away from it. What ever you truly want in life you can have. It may not be in the way you thought you would get it but you can get there. I for one am living proof...


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EVERGREENE 10/5/2013 6:01AM

    Such an inspiration. Thank you for sharing! emoticon

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CATNCAG 9/16/2013 10:19AM

    U r emoticon ! emoticon emoticon on your weight loss! U look great! emoticon for the wonderful blog & words of encouragement!

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ADAPTINGANNIE 7/24/2013 3:27PM

    What an inspiration. Your observations were spot-on. Really gave me something to think about. Congrats on your accomplishments.

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SCRIPTEDFLIGHT 7/19/2013 10:25AM

So true! I never want to get into the trap of thinking I have to do certain things because it is the done thing, I want to fill my life with things that make me happy, not things I just need to endure.

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SUPERSYLPH 6/27/2013 10:12AM

    Great blog! It really makes me think about my own life!

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WALKINGCHICK 5/6/2013 3:13PM

    Fantastic blog - emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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223DAISY 5/5/2013 4:23PM

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    Way 2 Go!!!

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MYRNA929 4/4/2013 11:11AM

    Great Job!!!!

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SLICKEM05 4/3/2013 3:27PM

    Two years is not long at all for everything you have accomplished. I bet you never thought you would be empowering others in such an astounding way! The proof is in the pudding. People truly listen to you when they CAN SEE that you believe in YOU! Way to go with the weight loss and the realization that you are in TOTAL CONTROL OF YOUR DESTINY. you are BLESSED...


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CALGALINIOWA 4/1/2013 3:33PM

    Thank you for sharing. You are very wise and insightful.

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1954MARG 4/1/2013 11:55AM

  Well done and thanks for the encouragement!

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LOVESTOWALK49 3/30/2013 6:58AM

    Great blog

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GRANDMAPATTYV 3/29/2013 11:06AM

    Thanks for your encouragement!!

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CHANGE4FIT 3/28/2013 8:40PM

    What an insightful and inspiring post. Thank you!!

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NELLYARGY1 3/28/2013 3:28AM

  Very inspiring I print it and I read it every day
Thank you

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MCJULIEO 3/27/2013 5:24PM

    Congrats on being named a Featured Blogger!

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MELLIESUE13 3/27/2013 6:07AM

    Congratulations on your transformation, both inside and out!

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ICANDOIT1220 3/26/2013 9:47PM

    emoticon Your post was a lightbulb moment for me. I realized that I have a ways to go on really getting to the core of my own food issues/addictions. Weight is only part of it. Thanks for your insight and Congrats on your successes!

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GETINSHAPE110 3/26/2013 7:09PM

    Way to go!!! emoticon

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KARENCRANER 3/26/2013 3:06PM

    Thanks for the reminder to work on the inside as well as the out. It's time for me to take a step in the right direction!

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THEW8CANTWAIT 3/24/2013 11:20PM

    You Go Boy!!!! emoticon emoticon

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BADUREKL 3/24/2013 10:21PM

  Great going!
Great thinking!
Great sharing!

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BLUEANGEL2293 3/24/2013 10:11PM

Sometimes our light goes out but is blown into flame by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this light.

Albert Schweitzer

Dr Schweitzer was describing you when he said this.

Thank you!

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EGRAMMY 3/24/2013 9:27PM

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JESSICA_SUE 3/24/2013 8:30PM

    Most poignant thing I've ever read on Spark...Wow, well said.

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SONYALATRECE 3/24/2013 5:32PM

    Well stated

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COCOONGIRL 3/24/2013 12:38PM

    God this is so true....I can't seem to get started and stay started....I think that so much of it has to do with not being happy....I am so frustrated.....but that is ok...I will KEEP at it until I get it right!! Thank you for writing this blog to remind me it is NOT about the weight but about the reasons....thank you!!

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AJINMN 3/24/2013 9:19AM

    Very nice blog! Great thoughts put into words!

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ROUNDTOWNMOM 3/24/2013 9:01AM

    Thanks for putting into words what I think..........but not what I do................... Today is a new day and a new beginning.

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1WIFE2MOM 3/24/2013 8:04AM

    Thanks for this blog, puts into words what is so true and what we all need to think about.
You Go! emoticon

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LEANMEAN2 3/24/2013 6:30AM

    Thanks for sharing.

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BLUENOSE63 3/24/2013 4:55AM

  See you have realized what it takes most people years to .....that this journey is in the brain not the body. I have always said it is 90% eating and 10% exercise

You look great and I wish you well on the rest of your journey

Congrats on receiving a Popular Post, you deserve it.

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CATCRAZYGAL 3/24/2013 2:20AM

    Well deserve to be very proud of yourself!!! emoticon

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RUTHIE456 3/24/2013 12:58AM

  Way to go!! Thank You.. God Bless...

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100LBLIGHTER 3/23/2013 10:15PM

    Truly inspirational! emoticon

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SHARIKAYE 3/23/2013 3:02PM

    Congratulations on your incredible weight loss! And I wish you continued success! This was a great blog! I am no where near my goal, in fact just beginning. I am only 25 pounds down, but I know I have to keep in the back of my head what my true motivation is for all of this. Not to be some thin clothes horse, but to be healthy in mind, body and spirit so that I can live a longer, healthier life. You are so right about forgiving yourself and others and letting go of the past. Our life is in the here and now. I strive to enjoy the ones I am living, not just the ones I am going to live when I am healthier.
Thanks for sharing. Very insightful!

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WRITINGDIVA1 3/23/2013 2:57PM

    Thanks you so much for sharing this food for thought!

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JOS4EVER 3/23/2013 12:51PM

    emoticon emoticon Thanks for sharing. That was very inspirational. We all want to be happy. emoticon emoticon

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ABBERENA 3/23/2013 12:46PM

  Thanks for sharing. Really great words and what I need to hear today. Thank you! XOXO

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MRSCHIPPY 3/23/2013 12:31PM

    Thank you for keeping it real. I needed to be reminded of these important lessons today. Owning those empty spaces within us and working to be fully healthy is so challenging; and so rewarding when it works. Congrats on your successes. Keep on keeping on.

Be well,

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AMBERDAWN64 3/23/2013 4:28AM

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STAREYES723 3/22/2013 11:44PM

    Thank you for sharing. It was an awesome and inspiring story. Great job.

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LOVEXAVIE 3/22/2013 11:30PM

  Fantastic observations, applicable in so many ways.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom. Your weight loss and attitude are beyond amazing!
Continued success to you.

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MAYBER 3/22/2013 11:20PM

    thank you for sharing your thoughts
you are dedicated and determined
best wishes as you continue on the journey
one day at a time
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CINNAMARIE 3/22/2013 11:01PM

    That, my fine sir, is what you are! Proof! You are walking the walk and talking the talk! So very proud of you! Hugs!!!

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HOMESKIL 3/22/2013 10:46PM

  Never, never have I read a blog that inspired me more. Your insight is amazing and spot-on.

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BGGODDESS 3/22/2013 9:49PM

  Thank you for sharing those valuable insights. Often we think losing the weight will make up happy without thinking maybe the problem is inside me.

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