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Somedays i wonder if i do anything right.......... Feb 1, 2013

Friday, February 01, 2013

This morning was a nightmare- Michael ( my 14 year old son) decided to push all my buttons while getting ready for school. All that is required of him is to shower, get dressed and eat- yet, some mornings it is WAY too much for him (insert sarcasm) i completely went over the edge when his response to my question was yeah, whatever... get over it - i was screaming and shaking- and sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo frustrated!!!!!! After dropping him off and my daughter Jess, i just wanted to blow off my scheduled run. i seriously considered going to Dunkins for a 50 count of munchkins. Luckily the drive through line was insane. I ended up back at home and vented to my hubby Tim. I decided that screwing up my running schedule was ridiculous. I am still dealing with a ton of emotions as i type this. Most days, i feel like i can't do anything right- don't know if its because i am bi polar or i am just unable to effectively deal with a teenager. I am going to need these skills asap in May Jessie will be 13.
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    I have a 15 yr old and one that will be 13 next Monday. Feel your pain and yes they know how to push buttons. We actually went to counseling for my oldest for about 3 thing ever! Heck we have had battles because he wanted me to do his hair and I'm thinking your 15, do your own hair. So know that you are not alone. Proud of you for not doing the DD...that just shows you are on the right path. ~hugs~
    1815 days ago
    Teenagers can be such a pain, I know from experience because I was one :)

    Good for you for venting instead. We're here for you!
    1817 days ago

    You did at least a couple things right. You didn't get those munchkins. Even if you drove there and then decided the line was too long, you still allowed that to deter you long enough to head home. You vented to someone rather than keep the frustration completely bottled up. You decided you aren't going to screw up your running schedule, so hopefully the run you do gives you an outlet for some of the emotions.

    Teenagers at their most contrary could make a saint go through emotional turmoil, so don't expect yourself to be unaffected by it. There is no magic answer that makes us able to handle teenagers effectively all the time - whether we're bipolar or not. In fact, being bipolar would make it even more challenging for you.

    One thought - do you have access to counseling of any sort related to the bipolar diagnosis? Dealing with a teenager can be challenging for anyone, but special coping mechanisms might help. With help, you might find ways to defuse your buttons so even if they're being deliberately pushed, you can choose how you want to act rather than reacting and feeling out of control.

    Good luck!
    1817 days ago
    I do remember when my first was 14 years old! they know where the buttons are.. and they love to push them. You did amazing not stuffing down all that frustration with food!! emoticon Give yourself loads of credit for that!!

    Yep.. there will always be something to push us...this time it was your son. It's how we choose to react/respond to what the pusher is doing. I found IF I MOVED the daughter didn't know what to do. I did not respond in the way she expected.

    You CAN and DO so many things right. Teenagers have a way of making us doubt ourselves.. if we let them. Super you went and talked with your hubs! I hope he gave you a big hug and tons of support!! PLUS, I hope you got out there and RAN..remember we have half marathons to do in March!!! emoticon emoticon
    1817 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/1/2013 6:34:04 PM
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