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How NOT to eat my bad news

Friday, February 01, 2013

A few major changes are occurring in my life that are sending me on a tail spin, and I'm SO tempted to eat my through it, because food does have a calming effect, and it would be easy to eat lots of cake and send myself in to a sugar coma to combat this anxiety. In brief, my oldest child just had a birthday, which is symbolic of the fact that my husband doesn't want any more kids, and my babies are growing up. I suppose most mothers can relate. Also, a dear friend is selling her house & moving hours away.

In response to my urges, I'm blogging. The kitchen is three rooms away from me at this very moment, and I have no food upstairs with me. This is what I'm choosing: journalling on this blog.

Also, here are some coping methods I've already used today, and some plans for this afternoon:

1. Employ help: I have two of my kids at a relatives house so I can have some Me-time.

2. Visit a friend: I dropped in at a friends house, we had tea, she made the baby a snack, we talked.

3. Pray: I am praying through this because food is not the answer, God knows me & loves me. He always allows me to feel my own emotions, express them to Him, and guide me to a better way of thinking or feeling. He's so patient and kind to me.

4. Read the bible: I'm reading about how God takes our small offerings & multiplies them for His glory (in Matthew regarding the boy who shared his loaves & fishes & Jesus fed thousands). A small pebble begins only with a "thunk" in the water, but God carries that out in a ripple effect.

5. Exercise: I will do a pilates DVD this afternoon. It's not rigorous exercise, but more calming & loving movement today to honor my anxious state, yet still moving my body. UPDATE: I busted a Jillian Michaels 30-Day Shred workout AND a 20-minute Winsor Pilates DVD. I decided I needed a good a$$-whooping.

6. Drink hot tea: did this morning with a friend. Maybe a hot bath would be nice too. UPDATE: hot shower, check!

7. Rest: I will rest technology-free in my room and take a siesta.

8. Laughter: a good laugh is great medicine. UPDATE: watched a few SNL clips.

Bad news happens to all of us. Life gets stressful, gets us down. God knows.

What other ideas do you have for positive reactions to bad news?
Please share.

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    Jessica, I wish I could reach through the computer and hug you.

    Oh how I get weepy at different milestones of my babies lives, knowing that this is it. In fact, just a few weeks ago my brother in law and sister and law were given a baby to adopt through a foster to adopt program. Such awesome miraculous news for our family!! I was happy to gather up baby clothes and bottles...but I cried the whole time I did it. Knowing I will probably never need these items again, never shop in the baby section or breast feed....well, you know. The list goes on. My coping method, is often to call my mom (she's also my best friend). She's a great listening ear, and reassuring when I need it. Of course, in this instance meeting and seeing my new baby nephew was great therapy too. :)

    I know you feel sad and out of control about things that are going on in your life, but you are really handling things so healthfully!! I'm so proud of you. Great job, asking for help with the kids, getting a workout and some much deserved rest and TLC for yourself. God loves you, and you are showing yourself love too.

    Hang in there. I'm praying for you tonight.
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    1839 days ago
    that is such a great list!

    I wish I had some to give you but your list is LONGER than mine. I guess I do have one more to add, when I can I try to drive somewhere ALONE, and crank up my favorite cds like I did when I was in high school and college and music was everything.
    1842 days ago
    emoticon I'm sorry you are going through this. You appear to have it under control, just not the confidence that you have it under control. emoticon You've got this.
    1843 days ago
    These are all great ideas! I, too, have trouble when I am stressed out by life. I am very emotional, and tend to let any stress take over. I don't have any suggestions to add to your list, but I will be trying out some of your methods. Thank you!
    1843 days ago
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