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#16: Mastering the mind

Thursday, January 31, 2013

Healthy living is more than just proper nutrition and physical activity, and I'm learning it the hard way.

This quarter I am ridiculously overwhelmed. It feels worse than last year, when I wasn't funded and had medical bills. Last year I was fighting the outside forces (money, etc.) which I already have some experience dealing with. Also I was getting support from my mother, both financially and emotionally. But this year I need to get myself together and come up with something creative, something original, something that will show that I'm worthy of being granted a PhD. And here I'm on my own...

Why am I ranting here, on a weight loss blog? Because it's all interrelated. My emotions go up and down, synchronously with my stress eating and avoiding the gym.

What I need is confidence and a sense of self-mastery. I need to set goals not only for my body but for my head.... and start with not what "I need" but what "I will". I can and I will.

emoticon I will reduce the amount of time I spend worrying about thing I can't control.
emoticon I will let go of the fear that some people don't like me. And even if they do, it doesn't matter.
emoticon I will avoid negative self-talk and limit whining to my boyfriend.
emoticon I will cultivate positive emotions and events that generate them.
emoticon I will always do my best.

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    It is so true! I felt that way last year when I felt like everyone around me was probably doing better than I was in my Master's program.

    Then, I got an internship and my boss really believed in me, which was a booster. But I realized that it is not good to be dependent like that on the approval of others. (I know, we can't really help it sometimes). Now, I am starting a new internship and I feel very vulnerable to these feelings again. Sometimes, I feel paralyzed by my own self-doubt. BUT, here is what I think helps me.

    "Glaza boyatsya, a ruki delaut."

    Try to think about the fact that other people's expectations of your career or other people's definition of "success" are relative and will not make you happy. Success, to me, is living a balanced life. Even if you're a genius, there might always be someone next to you who will do MUCH better. So, just do things to the best of your own abilities without going crazy to achieve an ideal that may be impossible.

    Sometimes, I get inspiration for my work, exactly at the minute that I stop stressing and take a break. Sometimes, I need to cry a little bit to get the stress out and then I feel that my head is levelled again (please be considerate to others and don't cry around them, I felt horrible when my Mom felt nervous all day after seeing me cry).

    Anyway, I think this blog is already a great start to brining balance into your life!
    1752 days ago
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