Thursday, January 31, 2013
Today in Spark Coach we are encouraged to look at those in our lives who purposely or unconsciously sabotage our healthy eating efforts.
My husband would be on the top of the list in a weird sort of way. We wants me to lose weight and do all the things I should do to get there, but he still eats food around me that is hard to decline. It is a test, it think, to see if I will stay firm or give in. Then he wallows in his own self pity when HE gives in and says HE knows he shouldn't have ate that, but not because it was around me. It's weird. If I do decide to eat whatever it is, then he'll chide me or remind me that weigh day is coming. It is a form of manipulation.
So, my job is to decide if I really want to eat whatever it is. Example- I love ice cream. He wanted to get an ice cream cone at McDonald's the other night. First, he didn't ask me if I wanted one. He assumed I didn't. (I was tempted) Then he orders a dipped cone.
Well, I knew he wanted one early on, so I had time to think about it. #1 I was at my calorie limit. #2 I had just bought some new clothes that I was feeling great in, and the ice cream didn't seem to be as important! (VICTORY). #3 I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he did not purposely mean to tempt me. End result- I did not eat the ice cream, did not feel deprived, and was not angry or upset with him. Bottom line, I was in full control of the situation. Score 1 for me!
My mother in law is a different story. Still working on that one.
And there is my beloved Aunt who doesn't do the sabotage on purpose. With her I have learned to be honest. She respects my decisions as long as I tell her! That means that sometimes I can be the one to sabotage myself! I have to decide to stick to the plan before I go. I really have to know my motivation for going to her house.