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Disconnected, and scared

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Sorry. This was one of those "just start typing and see what comes out" kind of blogs. Rather than copy it all here, I just posted a link to it.

Feel free to check it out. Basically, I need to reconnect. Use DBT exercises, and try to find my way back. Even as I write this, I can feel the "fog" and disconnection inside. It's got me worried.

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MARGIE100%PURE 1/30/2013 4:31PM

    This is the psyche. It can be a vicious cycle based from fear. This cycling can be changed if you want stronger honest relationships with yourself and others. You are stronger than that. And you will feel better for addressing it and moving on. Each little issue needs your love and attention. Discussing each with an eye for kind feelings for all parties in each issue can open your eyes and your heart for better habits to get past fear blocks. See…You feel braver on the other side. And have a successful experience to attempt the next one.

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ACCEPTINGME73 1/30/2013 3:48PM

    Blue Rose,

I feel so much empathy for you. I can relate to what you are saying. We have similarities. I am 39, I lost weight in 2009 and have since gained back and then some and got back on track losing 53 lbs. I have since gained back 15+ of that. I have been feeling a block, a disinterest in myself and what is going on around me. I also nit pick my husband I wish I knew a different way to go about getting what I need him to do. I don't know why either. Seeing your post helped me understand I am not alone. I also need to find a way back into reality and not escaping -- Idk. All I know is I appreciate you sharing your feelings. It means a lot to know there are other people out there that can relate.

Please feel free to add me as a SP friend. I have been digging in to SP these days looking for support when I thought I was alone and so many people have reached out.

I found a team I just joined today called MOTIVATORS, you can find that on my SP page poke around and see if you are interested.

We deserve to be happy and find out what is going on that makes us "check out" or disconnect.

Hoping things get better for you.

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MAGA99 1/30/2013 3:30PM

    I m a massive depressive n I dont usually realize the disconnection until its too late

the fact that you realized there is a problem is great cause then u can work on it

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ASTRA58 1/30/2013 2:54PM

    I've felt that way. It's scary and yet you don't feel scared because it's like seeing everything through bubblewrap. My family finally convinced me to see my doctor about it and she diagnosed me with depression. I'm taking something for it now and the disconnection has gone away. Between the meds and how supportive everyone is on Spark People, I feel so much more connected to people.

You may or may not be depressed, but I would suggest you consult your primary care doctor to rule it out, at least.


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CARROT143 1/30/2013 2:10PM

    I definitely understand what its like to feel that way - but hang in there because the feeling will pass. However connecting to others via SP or trusted friends will guarantee the disconnection will go away.

Don't let guilt or shame keep you from exercising - we sometimes run from the things that help us most. Or in my case waddle because I don't run..LOL.

Thanks for sharing I hope you can "reconnect"!


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AMBERK_2011 1/30/2013 1:16PM

  depression can feel like that... you talked about cutting out other drinks - I've found cutting out sodas makes a huge difference in the amount of anxiety I feel (anxiety and depression run in my family.) Maybe consider talking to someone and trying an Omega 3 supplement.

Hope you feel better... recognizing it is a step to getting better.

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CAROLINAKIWI 1/30/2013 1:09PM

    Please contact me. It sounds like you need someone to talk to. I'm here for you.

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