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Help any ideas on how to grow old gracefully...really?

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

I have been thinking about the saying to grow old gracefully. It seems that now there are many people I care about having health problems that may just come with age. My husband and I were talking about this yesterday and it got me to thinking. I know that by us eating healthy and exercise we will be so much better off but there will be changes that are a normal part of our lives and the people we care about. Some people feel a loss when they retire and no longer have that career that gave them identity. Some it is not being able to do all the physical things they once did. Change is the only definite thing in life but can be hard to go through. My birthday is next month and I'm in the 60's so I am wondering how can I grow older gracefully. I do know that the only thing in life I can control is my attitude. My goal now will be to choose to enjoy today right where I am and do not use my energy worrying about what tomorrow might bring. There are no guarantees that I will even be here tomorrow. I want to be thankful for all things. Choose not to focus on things I can not change but work to improve the things I can. I would like to be a person people want to be around not a grumpy old lady that talks about her problems all the time.

Any other ideas on how to grow old gracefully??? I've never been here before and can not find a book "Growing Older for Dummies"...LOL
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EVWINGS 3/6/2013 7:41AM

    Thank you for sharing your personal journey with all of us. It always surprises me when I think of what I couldn't or ever imagined I could again until the Chair Exercise team! Our stories are much alike in general. I am so proud of you for accomplishing all you have!! emoticon

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NEWGGMOTHER 3/5/2013 6:24AM

    emoticon emoticon for the inspiration and for being such a great example to us who are just beginning

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DEERLADY45 2/28/2013 6:32PM

    Im only 60 and my knees creak and i hurt, but ive learned by working at the home that you need to do it with a smile and just take care of your self and do the best you can, so your doing it as graceful as ya can! Growing old is not for sissys , i know that but there is no way ill wallow in self pity! That brings ya down more! I will not get depressed over not being able to do what i used too! Having friends and GOD in your life helps too! Luv ya my friend, BONNIE

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ANGEL1066 1/31/2013 12:01AM

    It sounds to me like you have a good handle on how to grow old gracefully already. I am also in 60's, achy, not always able to do all I did. But each day is a gift. The challenge is to find constructive things we CAN do, then do them cheerfully, with joy, even if it is just to pray, or give encouragement, or lend a sympathetic ear. Hang in there. God Bless You!

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DEDICATED2HIM 1/30/2013 6:53PM

    I'm very challenged by your blog and by some of the comments you've received. Bitterness ages us....and I confess, today I"ve been bitter. How good to only have laughlines and no "frownies"! Acceptance I think is very important. Accepting the hand you've been dealt with equanimity . Accepting things you cannot change without anger or resentment....(again, : guilty as charged!) Thanks for a thought provoking blog.

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_LINDA 1/30/2013 4:08PM

    Age is really just a number. This is my 50th year and I do not feel any different then I did ten years ago. Its all in the attitude really. Eating healthy, getting as much activity and exercise in a day to keep you moving and finding ways to be happy and content with your life whatever limitations a disease may have put on you. Trying to get the best out of each day, living for the moment and not worrying about the future are cornerstones. Trying to be as stress free as possible. Therein comes the word grace -living it with style and dignity! Keeping the mind as active as the body -it never fails to amaze how people at the bridge club are playing into their 90's, with very few of them needing walking aids. In fact, in a club of almost 400 members, most of them retired seniors (maybe 10 who are not) only three use a walker, two use a cane and only one uses a wheelchair! Got to be something there! In my building of age limit 60 and above, most people are using walking aids or are in scooters!! They are either shut ins, or just come down to sit around and socialize. They have some games (whist, Kaiser and crib) night but only get from 6-8 tables. In a complex of 251 suites, not a huge turn out! Shuffleboard has three tables going so its the most popular activity. Puzzle making is hugely popular with six tables going constantly. So mostly sedentary stuff.
Here is to living life to fullest you can, every day!

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ANGRITTER 1/30/2013 12:39PM

    I just had a birthday Monday, so I have been thinking along the same lines. After 38 years of life, I have finally started using lotion on my entire body when I come out of the shower. Yes, I know this should have been done YEARS ago, but I wasn't worried about it then. Now I am!

I am keeping up the walking so that I am not to the point from the osteoarthritis and degenerative diseases I have that I CANNOT walk. Honestly, if I take more than one day off from walking, it feels like I cannot stand up straight anymore.

I have also just started taking vitamins about 5 months ago. Yes, I need a calendar reminder to take them, but at least I am taking them!

But growing old, I am told, is all in your state of mind. If you don't FEEL or ACT old, then you will never grow old.

And I will confirm that the option of GROWING UP is also not all it is cracked up to be. I want to be young for the rest of my life, and I am doing a pretty dang good job at it as long as I keep moving and remember not to go "Ugh" and "Oof" every time I try to stand up or sit down! LOL

Hugs and Love to you, my dear!

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-BENI- 1/30/2013 10:33AM

    My mother in law is 90.
I have never known her to whine or complain. I've never heard her say a bad thing about anyone. She's always smiling. She's generous and kindhearted. When she does for others she expects nothing in return. She is honest and rather than saying anything hurtful she says nothing.
She has happy wrinkles and not many. Every time we've gone out people cannot believe she is 90.

I guess it's attitude, behavior inside and out, outlook on life, being genuinely happy and looking at life as fortunate instead of gypped.
But it sounds like you already know what you need to do. emoticon
I know I do!!

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LJCANNON 1/30/2013 10:32AM

    emoticon Not sure what the "Right Answer" to this is. But maybe it lies somewhere in Enjoying & Focusing on the things you CAN Do and Accepting the Things you Cannot Do.
emoticon While at the same time, pushing the limits of Your Comfort Zone to learn to do things that you THOUGHT You Couldn't Do.

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