Are we okay with just being "ok"?
Tuesday, January 29, 2013
well, the writer's advice (which was great because I have always used it) was that spending time with your significant other should be a time to relish each other and being in their company is something that is NOT a given.Keeping that in mind, being able to appreciate the other's choosing of YOU as their company is important.IN other words, we choose our partners, so therefore we will choose to love them each day.If we stop, well then we chose to stop.Sometimes, even women need reminding about how wonderful it is to have such a great man in their life.I have friends who take their man for granted, they rant about what he did waaay back when and I have cracked down on them with the question:So if you can't love him now, then leave him!If you won't forgive him, what are you keeping him for?If you can't have him no one else will??And those are things we need to ask ourselves as women, and some men fall in this category too.Why be, and why not?
So after giving up the idea that I would ever want someone that close to me again I embraced the idea of forever being single, which is awesome!I mean, being financially independant and having a strong mindset, it all works very well, to this day.
Still, I wondered if I could find a lover who was consistent and at the least, kind, respectful, dependable, (jeez I really ask for alot, huh) so I ventured online after trying blind dates thru friends that didnt work out, everyone suggested to try online.So, at first, I was scheduling "mini dates" to just meet for dinner, or coffee, and that went on for a couple of weeks, on almost every evening- most kept my attention thru an appetizer or a soda but other than that, 45 minutes TOPS was all I could stand.
At the same time, I decided to work more to get some home projects done (for that I needed extra money) so I decided to help out with some weddings (the place I worked for was a non profit and that is how they make their money with a party event hall).First, I love weddings.So very romantic, that VERY moment in time that is THEIRs and THEIRs only.You know?
Aaaanyhow, I started to realize that the only way I was going to find my own love was to just be surrounded with love instead of pushing it away.So I started to download the songs I "loved", I started to read the things I "loved" and started to spend time with those I cherished the most.Without guilt for shunning those "others" to the side, I just had to do what felt good and right for me, from here on.