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I miss having friends

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Pretty much any military wife or wife who has ever had to pick up and leave all that she's known relates to that. I miss my best friend I grew up with more than anything. It's crazy ridiculous how fiercely I miss her some days. But today, quite frankly, I miss all of my friends. Even the ones I've only hung out with a few times. I miss having friends I could call up and say " Do you want to go to the movies, or go get a coffee and catch up?" Most of them are having babies now and 95% of me is entirely happy for them but the last 5% is mixed of jealousy and frustration that I know 2 of them shouldn't be parents (considering one spent a night in jail at 7 months pregnant for a rather stupid thing I will not discuss due to not wanting to offend anyone's personal choices about what are legal drugs). But most of it is I miss the people who used to be so important in my life. Who I saw ATLEAST once a week.
Maybe I should start skyping with everyone. I mean, new technologies, why not? Then again I am 30 lbs heavier since everyone but my best friend last saw me. I don't know...

I love my husband and would follow him to the end of the earth if required (let alone a battlefield if the Air force would let me) but since our schedules have been completely opposites, I've missed having friends. I have a few nice co-workers, but their never really friends, ya know?

Any who, part 1 of my weekly goal is done: Did abs cardio which was rather boring, but it is done. 50% to new headphones. Hope everyone has a magnificent Tuesday!
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CKMATHERLY 1/31/2013 11:28AM

    I feel the same way lot. Back in college I had friends and a circle that I did lots of different things with. Then we graduated and well, that all went away. I am shy and it's hard for me to make friends. Even harder to keep them. I go antisocial and fall off the face of the earth. Plus add my beloved who apparently hates everyone I know and I have to choose between time with him or my friends.

Feel better!

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MERCHRIS 1/30/2013 2:09PM

    I understand what you're saying for different reasons. Two years ago I became a stay at home mom, and all the people I talked to, my work friends, are sort of few and far between these days. No one calls, and I don't do anything. I miss talking to adults and sharing things. Much like you, I just want to go out and do something every now and again. I would most certainly call your friends, or skype them. I was afraid of skype too because I hate the way I look on camera, but once I sort of got over that, I like it because it's like your friend is right there. Give it a go!

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LAURALOOP 1/30/2013 9:51AM

    I don't have military background, but I do know how you feel. My very best friend married an Army guy, and she moved all around the country for about 5 years. We would call and chat for hours on the phone or facebook each other, which was fun but it wasn't the same as hanging out. I feel ya.

It sounds like some of the other Spark commenters have excellent advice about the squadron's spouse groups in your area though! You could give them a try, maybe even find a work out buddy? :)

I'm sure your friends from home would love a phone call or chat with you! It never hurts to just give 'em a ring. :)

And you'll always have friends to talk to on Spark People. (Even though I know it's not quite the same) Chat me up anytime lady! :)


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FAT2GAINHEALTH 1/29/2013 5:20PM

    I don't relate to military life but have been in a military town(FT.HOOD) Tx in college. I had classmates who were married to army guys. I went on a travel nurse job to So I remember how it felt to be away from home and hubby without friends. Of course I made friens with other travel nurses. Hope uou try skype or church or something it really can help/\.
Marcia

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HEATHERFREE 1/29/2013 4:56PM

    I can totally relate to missing friends.....I really don't have but a couple, and we are always doing our own things....living our lives..never much time to see eachother. And all of my old friends (who still live in the same town!) are in compoletely different places in our lives.....they are still back in the (hangout = party) stage and I'm in the (grown up I want to get married and have kids) stage. Thats why I'm SO thankful for my spark friends, because I have no friends here with me to talk to about my weightloss and other things! emoticon

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LIVIN2LOVE1 1/29/2013 1:19PM

    As a military spouse for 10 years, I found better friends, a stronger network, than I ever had prior to that. Everyone is in the same boat. Reach out. You will not be disappointed.

I also found that after having children, I was very lonely, even with a good network of new friends. Reach out to your new parent friends. They will appreciate your friendship.

Friends at work are the best. Nurture them. If you ever decide to become a parent yourself, you'll find that your best friends are parents of your kid's friends and your co-workers. They are all that you will have time for.


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BESTMEPOSSIBLE 1/29/2013 1:11PM

    I have never had to pick up and move like that before - it has to be difficult. I agreee with prior posters, utilize technology; Skype, email, text! I hope you find a true friend where you are to help you with the transition.

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BRIDGIEEE 1/29/2013 12:42PM

    Get involved with the squadron's spouses group! There are so many women living right there where you are who feel the exact same way and they want to meet new people as well. My group meets once a month and it is a great way to meet new people and forge new friendships. No, they will never replace your old friends but you will be able to expand your group of friends. Also, get out and take a class of some sort. Michael's and Hobby Lobby both offer all different types of crafting classes and it is a good way to meet new people. Even if you're shy you need to get out there, you'll be so much happier when you do.

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DLBROWN93 1/29/2013 12:22PM

    Try communicating with your friends by email, or text, that way they will focus on your conversation, not the way you look.

Good luck with your healthy lifestyle.

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PICKIE98 1/29/2013 12:21PM

    I have skype and I love it.. I can talk to my friend from here, MIchigan, to Mustang Island, TX!!! Who cares what you weigh??You aren't planning on a bikini workout while talking to her are you??LOL!!

Life is short, get your friend to sign up to skype, put on your best smile, make notes ahead of time what you want to ask her, put on a funny hat or goofy shirt or glasses.. give her a ring, she will be thrilled.
Put two cups of coffee out hold them both out in front of the screen and aske her if she wants a biscotti!!
Instant visit.

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