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Monday, January 28, 2013

Well, it's been a tough few weeks.. My friend Mike has turned his back on me, won't talk or give me reasons, I guess I said something to his sister, and one of my neighbors. I know what I said to his sister, I let it slip he borrowed money and won't return it to me, his dad gave him a check forme, he put it into his account, is telling people I saw the check, I didn't, and told him to put it in his account, I didn't. He put it in, then told me, I raised the roof then, but he didn't return it. He also has my investment papers, said to keep them safe, without asking me he took them to a friend to keep them safe and paid the friend with some of it, he can't do that, can he? I never told him to, have been asking for them to be returned, he just kept them. Now he has used some of them to pay a stranger to keep them in a safe, and yep, he used them to pay him. I have been up and down for weeks, ended up at the ER one night with chest pains..they found nothing. This man was my best friend, told me he would always be there for me, have my back, and protect me, who will protect me from him?

One good thing happened, I met someone on FaceBook, we will see, and John still comes over.

The funny thing is, he now has befriended the woman who used me, and he now agrees she did nothing wrong.

Sorry it's been so long, I spent several days in bed crying, but now I am mad, and I will find a way to get my property back.

Missed you all.
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MICHELE142 1/30/2013 11:35PM

    He is by no means a friend. If your name was on that check that was written to you, If your name was on the papers of yours and he used money for his personal use - you've got him. Contact the police, get an attorney and let the courts handle him. You know now that HE can not be trusted! He may have done this to someone else.

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PATTYKLAVER 1/30/2013 9:22AM

    I'd call the police, take him to Small Claims Court, do anything you can to get your stuff back. Good luck.

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NEWKATHYNOW 1/29/2013 6:13PM

    This man will continue to steal from you and do whatever else he can get away with because he does not believe you will call the police. This will continue only as long as you allow it. You need to call the police and seek some legal help before he ends up owning your home or something. HE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND - BEST OR ANY OTHER KIND! He is looking out for himself at your expense. You have wasted enough of your life on this man!
And for the love of God, please don't get involved with anyone on facebook. There are all kind of preditors lurking there waiting to ruin some honest trusting person's life! emoticon

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NAYPOOIE 1/29/2013 12:06PM

    Definitely involve the police. This guy is not your friend.

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BLOORP 1/29/2013 11:18AM

    I would fight to get it back, legally of course. There are many ways to keep your property safe that don't include trusting someone. Safety deposit box for one. Good luck.

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NELLJONES 1/29/2013 9:54AM

    I'd call the police, too. Theft is theft, friend or no. And you might want to redefine "friend". The problem with Facebook is that it call feel like being a friend is clicking a button. It's a lot more than that.

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PINK-SOLDIER 1/29/2013 9:24AM

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ITSREALLYONLYME 1/29/2013 8:48AM

    Who will protect you from him? Only YOU can protect YOU. If your investment papers were in your name and he cashed them in it is a CRIMINAL offense. Please stand up for yourself, nobody else can do it for you. Please remember that you can't love or take care of anyone else unless you love and take care of yourself. Good luck!

Comment edited on: 1/29/2013 1:23:05 PM

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KUTEY5041 1/29/2013 4:39AM

    I agree with the others. Talk to the police and/or a lawyer. He is really taking advantage of you and you should be able to find some recourse to get it stopped and hopefully what you have lost. That is no friend that would do that to you. Good luck

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DRASADAF 1/29/2013 2:03AM

    you certainly need to call the police....

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SHERRYGAYL 1/28/2013 10:52PM

    Sweetie... seriously... do you have emoticon tattooed on your forehead? As the others who posted have said, this criminal needs to be dealt with legally! He STOLE the check and then STOLE your investment papers. How much can he STEAL from you and you'll still call him your "best friend"? WE DON'T NEED TO BE PROTECTED FROM FRIENDS! This is terrible!

And are you still taking crap from those other people you talked about before? Have you evicted the freeloaders?

You have a SPINE, not a wishbone. It's time to act like it!

Go to the police station and report this theft. Depending on how much money was involved it may even be a felony. He is no friend to you and deserves to be arrested! Remove the other people who take advantage of you from your house, your car, and your life. If they were your friends you wouldn't resent their behavior so badly that you spend most of your days crying.

And please, please, please be careful about who you let into your life right now. You are apparently very sweet, trusting, vulnerable, and gullible at this time and that makes you a very soft target for every type of predator out there. Haven't you been hurt enough now? Maybe you're paying penance for some perceived transgression in your past but how much is enough?

Deal with this now before he gets away scot free and before you're left with nothing. YOU DESERVE BETTER! These people aren't going to help you. You have to be your own best advocate!

I know you can do it! emoticon

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2BEHEALTHYAGAIN 1/28/2013 10:43PM

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/28/2013 6:48PM

    I agree - call the police. And don't ever trust strangers again with your private financial papers. If you need advice or help go to an investment counselor.

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SEAWILLOW 1/28/2013 6:41PM

    Tell everyone what he has done and report it to the police.

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JEANNE229 1/28/2013 6:30PM

    Call and report the theft. You cannot continue to be used or you will be homeless, penniless and alone. There are many, many predators out there, and unless you call them out, they will continue to prey on you and others. There are low-income attorneys. Seek one out and tell your tale.

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GLC2009 1/28/2013 5:41PM

    ladymoonwillow --

call the police (at least tell him you will call the police if he doesn't return your money and papers). he is stealing from you. to deposit a cheque that is in someone else's name in your account is stealing. my bank would not allow that to happen. even if your signature was on it, my bank would not deposit it into his account.

taking your investment papers is stealing. using your investment papers to pay someone money is stealing.

the man is a thief. C-A-L-L the police.

AND--you've met someone on facebook?? sounds like your setting yourself up for a new problem. you are a person who should NOT be meeting people on facebook. until you can stand up for yourself and set limits on what you allow people to do to you, you run a real risk of getting seriously ripped off and hurt by expert cons.

you perhaps should get counselling to figure out why and how you let people use you. because they do.

hear this, and really think about what it means--PEOPLE TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU TRAIN THEM TO TREAT YOU.

google that phrase and you will find things like this --

taken from: http://christinekane.com/you-teach-
people-how-to-treat-you/
>"You teach people how to treat you means that it all comes back to you. It’s up to you to allow or not allow certain treatment. It also means that you have to first get clear about how you want to be treated. It means that you have to take responsibility enough to write your own owner’s manual. And you are accountable for living by your owner’s manual. For some of us, it may be the very first time we ever even gave this any thought.

(Remember that accountability and responsibility have nothing to do with blame. They are an entirely different energy and intent than blame. Blame seeks to shame and belittle. Responsibility seeks to un-victim you.)"

another bit of wisdom i think you should hear -- when someone shows you who they are… bee-LEEVE them the FIRST TIME!”

these "friends" that live off you even though you are poor. the "friend" who uses your vehicle even though she has her own. the "friend" who smokes in your house even though you say not to. and the "friend" in this blog? OMG, he's got to be dealt with. NOW!!

THESE PEOPLE ARE NOT ACTING LIKE FRIENDS. YOU NEED TO TAKE A STEP BACK AND TAKE A HARD LOOK AT YOURSELF AND DEFINE LIMITS AS TO WHAT YOU WILL ALLOW PEOPLE TO DO TO YOU.

please, please stand up for yourself and be your own best friend and quit allowing all these mugs to continue to take advantage of you.

you won't find people who truly love you unless you make room for them by getting rid of the disloyal deadwood floating around you. emoticon

Comment edited on: 1/28/2013 5:55:07 PM

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SOLOMUA 1/28/2013 3:22PM

    Ladymoonwillow - you need to seek some professional help if you want your property back, otherwise you will continue in this cycle of helplessness. No human being should be made to feel inferior to another unless you allow it, take back your respect and peace of mind, and deal with it with the appropriate authorities. Good luck!

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