Monday, January 28, 2013
I was out with sister and honey yesterday and at the table next to us was an older couple, a little girl and a young woman in a wheelchair. We were getting ready to leave and I picked up on the statements of the young woman (about and to) the youngster and it just ticked me off. The lady was announcing loudly how lazy the little girl was...over and over again. She actually looked at the child, who was red faced, squirming, and trying to look away, and said "I love you dearly but you are so lazy you just stink.!" Wheelchair or not, I wanted to slap that woman. I was standing and caught the kid's eye and winked at her. She looked relieved and like she just wanted to run. What a way to drill a negative attitude into a person. My daughter wasn't perfect, but I worked to develop in her the attributes I expected...I would let her 'overhear' me telling others about her best traits and what I expected her to accomplish. I can't stand parents and caregivers who take time to emphasize the negatives they see in children.
We on this site often read statements from people declaring self loathing for not losing fast enough or sticking to some streak or for some self-perceived imperfection or flaw. A blog I read this morning quoted someone who advised us to love ourselves and avoid self demeaning behavior because there would always be someone out there waiting to do that for us. I am determined to bless and brag and encourage and praise and support others for the rest of my life. When I die I don't want to be remembered for pointing out the negatives ...I want to be remembered as a person who knew how to bring out the best in others. Life is too short...get a grip and get over taking it so seriously that laughter and acceptance are lost in the perfectionism. Take time to make someone smile. It will reflect you.