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It's not about being bad.....

Monday, January 28, 2013

I am a member of an online virtual running club on which I run the weight loss group. There are about 60 members of the group, all ages and sizes, all wanting to lose for many different reasons, be it a couple of stones to improve general health or a couple of pounds to improve race performance.

One of the things that makes me cringe on an almost daily basis is when members describe their actions as "being good/bad".

"I've been really good today", or worse, "I've been bad, I ate a donut".

Life is about choices. Sometimes we make poor choices. We all do, it's part of being human. But if you were driving your car somewhere and had a choice of 2 routes and picked the one that ended up with you sat in a jam, you wouldn't tell yourself that you'd been bad! You would maybe sigh to yourself and think you chose the wrong route, next time you'll go the other way.

Healthy eating is just the same. We are constantly faced with choices. Sometimes we choose the wrong route. But instead of beating ourselves up about it, we should look forward and resolve to choose differently next time. Put the bad choice behind us, draw a line, move on.

The quote from the Best of SparkPeople email I received this morning :

Coach Nancy says:
Guilt and shame only make us feel bad, but do nothing to change our behavior.

Sums it up nicely!

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

UNSWEETMAMA 1/31/2013 5:04PM

    Well said!

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ALIHIKES 1/30/2013 6:52PM

    LOVE this blog, very true! I am trying to change the way I think about food choices myself! emoticon

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WILSONWR 1/28/2013 7:53PM

    How true!! (And I enjoyed the food at New Orleans without a bit of guilt!)

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NELLJONES 1/28/2013 8:24AM

    I think what is really going on is the problem people have with finding themselves doing something they really don't want to do. If you really don't want to take that route in the car'll drive past the store you don't want to have to ignore, or the casino you just can't stay out of, then yes, you'll feel guilty. But how do we do what we really say we want to do? I know that when I put myself in temptation's way and give in, I kick myself. The better part of valour is staying away from temptation whenever possible.

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    I definitely agree. Thanks for mentioning this.

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LOVESTOWALK49 1/28/2013 7:49AM

    Very true. Great blog.

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BLUENOSE63 1/28/2013 6:59AM

  Very well said! If you make a poor choice one day, just make a better choice the next day and soon it will become second nature.

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STONECOT 1/28/2013 4:31AM

    I know people that act as if having a slice of my lovely chocolate cake is tantamount to supping with the devil! If you don't want it, don't eat it, but don't call it bad!

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GHOSTFLAMES 1/28/2013 4:09AM

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