Wife, Health, Fitness, and Drinking
Monday, January 28, 2013
Would like to make a few comments concerning my wife Melissia (yes, there is an extra i). My last blog was a change for me. I let myself openly describe her or something she did in a negative light. This wasn't meant to bash her, but more to tell a story. The way things have been lately let me turn my filters off. Wed night was going to be talk night. That happened on Friday daytime. Nothing was truly resolved, but info, opinions, and feelings were shared. Will talk more on Tuesday night. After 17 years, there's no rushing things anymore. I know I have let things slip before ,but please don't believe I'm the kind of person that trashes on his wife, or that she is a rotten person. It is/was a rough time we're working on.
That little blood pressure mishap had more effects than I thought. Why it happened- I was really putting exercise pressure on my body, (Monday was Huge), cleaned and cooked all Tuesday, then hit Wednesday hard. Forgot to factor in the lack of drinking which was about 3000 not tracked calories a week. Add that with my regular shorting of calories and you get 5 pounds of weight loss in ten days. That is way too much when I'm already in the healthy range and burning 1100 to 1300 calories per exercise session. Then I did something really stupid. I missed my minimum calorie range by over 1000 for Sun/Mon/Tue. Tue being down 600 alone, drinking lots of coffee, not much water, and cleaning house all day. Started Wed way in the hole. Then skipped lunch to take son for doctor check up. Felt bad earlier and took BP on one of those store machines. 78/51. Hour later my wife (nurse) took it at sons Doctor's office. 78/48 and feeling very very slow/dizzy/headache. Drove home, finally ate, took kids to wife, and me to ER. BP was still in the tank and pulse was sitting around 42. Not Good. Waited too long. Was tired and muscle/head pain all Thursday with a very hard day at work. Tired with no body pains but poor vision Friday with a 53 top party. Saturday finally felt good, but eyesight was still a little fuzzy. Exercised today 10 min walking, 10 min rowing machine, 5 min walking. WOW- I think I was honestly set back a month. Fed myself anything I felt like over weekend, will start back gentle today.
Found out- don't do too much at once. ((Gabby- yes, I told me so)) Jan= not drinking. So I'll make Feb my fitness month. Will take next three days to line everything up.
This is long gone. Believe it had some influence on health bump, but don't know to what degree. Will need some studying to figure that out. The addiction wasn't like I figured. It was nothing like portrayed on TV and movies. Yes, I had withdrawals like headaches and insomnia, but no shakes/outbursts/anger/mood swings. Looking back- mine was just as much a night time habit as it was a dependency. Either that, or I had the easiest mental transition ever.
EVERYONE HERE WAS A HUGE PART IN THIS!! I used my promise to you, and your thinking of me as a reason to not cheat my plan. THANK YOU!!!!
That's my communication for now. Will use the next few days to get myself lined up for February. Have a wonderful Monday and end of the month. Next blog might not be for a while, until the Spark On My Splendid Friends!!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
A few things -
Never would consider you one to bash your wife, considering one of your past goals was to make yourself less of an island (ie involve your wife more). Sometimes it's just hard being married, as I've been married 17 years, too. I'm sure my husband thinks it's hard to be married, too. Advice that you didn't ask for - you guys need to go on a date night, and it doesn't have to be one where you eat, and don't go to the movies where you will essentially ignore each other. Go out together and walk through a nature preserve, or something where you have to spend time and recognize why you love each other. I know how hard it is with young kids and working, but you have to make time just to be together. Just take it one day at a time (hubby and I just got through one, too, where I was angry for about 2 weeks).
I'll pray for you that your BP gets figured out. How scary. The emoticons below are to remind you to get your recommended intake! ;-)
1646 days ago
Congrats on overcoming the drinking. I think that's absolutely amazing...you really did it! Sorry to hear of the low BP and problems associated with it. I hope that is all under control now. Take care. You're doing a great job of moving forward with the goals and positives in your life. Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on!
1661 days ago
Agree with you and everyone. Relationships are hard, change is hard and life isn't perfect. I appreciate the fact that you respect your wife enough to want to stand up for her too, even if you don't always love her behavior. We love people, not behaviors. I am glad that you are taking a bit of a break and going a bit easier on your body. No race here - and you are doing awesome!
1662 days ago
Awesome blog! Looking forward to a successful February for both you and I!
1663 days ago
I think you are definitely on the right path. Your optimism and energy are contagious!!! I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, good and bad. Good luck, and just be good to you. If you take care of yourself, everything else is affected (ripple effect?).
1663 days ago
You are doing great and we all have our times. I think that you are a motivated individual who is strong and wants to make positive changes in your life and your wife as well I am assuming.One step at a time and we will get there.
Get ready to Gear up for the 30 day shred challenge and we will kick February's butt together! Woot!
1664 days ago
I enjoyed this blog, and I am glad you are going to be taking your own advice and not do too much at once ! :) My fiance and I have been together for 4 years now and have a 2 year old child-no where near 17 years, but I completely understand where you are coming from. Relationships have hard times, and it is hard to work through them because both sides have opinions and feelings, but I am sure you guys will work through it, and stay positive ! :) You are doing so well with the drinking, from a person who had a grandfather with a grand father who used to have a serious addiction to alcohol, you are doing very well ! Keep up all of your great work !
1664 days ago
for sharing this wonderful blog. I do think that we tend to go hard and heavy in hopes that we get results faster.....not a great idea. Slow and easy and yes MODERATION is everything.
1664 days ago
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