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Forgiving myself and this time ... Moving On

Sunday, January 27, 2013

I am a great believer that everything in this world is connected and happens for a reason. I think sometimes it may be years in the future (or maybe even never) before we know the "whys" about some things. But I believe that, somehow, each action we take in life contributes to a very large, broad community set of lifetimes ... and there is a ripple effect, reaching out and touching many.

And, believing that, it's pretty easy to have faith, forgive, move on, and try again when things don't go exactly as you expect.

There is one thing that (even though I have forgiven) I still have not moved on from. An old friend from high school days - my best and closest friend until the year I turned 40 - just dropped out of my life. No explanations that make sense; no discussions; not even a period of time where we kept in touch less and less. Just one day when we weren't friends any more. And then a lot of unreturned calls and emails.

Ten years later and I still don't understand why it happened. But I'm ready to let it go. I'm ready to approach new friends without being wary or holding back. I'm ready to believe that sometimes it doesn't have to be somebody's fault and sometimes there doesn't have to be a reasonable explanation.


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LYNKIN 2/7/2013 6:34AM

    I do understand. Going through a divorce 6 years ago was difficult with some mutual friends that my ex and I had for many years. I have moved on from some friendships that I had or thought that I had. I am thankful for my true friends and my SparkFriends too! I appreciate your SparkFriendship!!! Take care! emoticon

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RR1_RR1 1/29/2013 10:38AM

    Right on! Im reading a book right now too on how to let things go- been having a hard time lately with letting all my crazy job experiences go and not be so bitter and negative. Ill let you know how the book is, its called the secret of letting go. Your right I hope everything does happen for a reason and maybe one day we will find out the whys of things and it will be like a big rainbow of Ohhh, whew- it was all worth it! I bet this friend will show up again one day though, just a feeling...

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THEMRSH 1/27/2013 11:30PM

  It takes a lot to let go and it is so freeing! Here's to many new wonderful friendships!

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KRZYKAT3 1/27/2013 11:18PM

    Learning to forgive and move one was one of the greatest lessons I learned, glad you are moving on U KNOW it had nothing to so wiht oyu, you are awesome!! emoticon

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VISUALLYRICS 1/27/2013 10:16PM

    Oh yes....I can relate. .....this happened to me when I graduated from high school, we never spoke after that....I was so hurt. We were the 'bestest' of friends, but just like that - after graduation, she was gone. I finally let go and forgave her for hurting me, and experienced my own peace.
Years later I saw her at her father's funeral. We embraced and the years melted away....that is true forgiveness. It was a blessing. She looked startled as I returned her hug, but what had happened was Grace. She didn't deserve Grace, but I desired to give it to her anyway on the basis that I too often don't deserve Grace either. I love how God works things out in His time.

May you also enjoy that inner peace that letting go brings, emoticon Laura

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LILYGAL 1/27/2013 8:25PM

    Oh, wow! I had that happen and I know just how you feel. Lonely. Abandoned. I felt all of those. So glad that you have forgiven and are moving on. I really need to go blog about mine. Thanks for posting this. I'm sure that it helped you too. emoticon

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DOLPHINSINGER72 1/27/2013 7:25PM

    Sounds like what you are talking about is the "Butterfly Effect". I agree with you on that one.

As for your friend, something like that happened to me. It can be difficult, but yes, you must move on. It is sad that your former friend didn't have the strength and respect for you to at least let you know "why". It could have been a misunderstanding, but you know it is her loss.

It is good that you are ready to move on. Good for you!

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