There's a reason I do this alone.
Sunday, January 27, 2013
Over the last couple of months, I've reluctantly responded to requests to be someone's "accountability buddy". I knew off the bat that this probably wasn't the best idea, but I did so anyway thinking that it might help me.
Here's what I've found (which is basically what I already knew):
The people who claim they want it the most are the ones who stop writing first. People who claim they want someone to keep them accountable tend to be people who don't want to do the work at all.
I've had workout buddies that bail on me, or don't want to work out as hard, or even claim that they've "earned" a fast food lunch because they've worked so hard. I guess I'm just frustrated with that whole thing. I've never been into buddies, or workout partners. Even when I do workout with other people, I still do my own workouts first. That ensures that I get the right intensity for myself, rather than just taking a 20 minute walk and thinking that it's going to be enough.
You can't rely on someone else to motivate you. No one is going to care whether or not when you lose weight, but you can bet that when you do, people are going to suddenly show up and act as though they've had some hand in it. I can guarantee that my family isn't going to love me any less if I do or don't lose weight, and my fiance isn't going to leave me if I don't lose weight. He was there while I ballooned out to my worst weight, so I'm pretty sure we're safe.
My point is, people need to understand that no one else is going to do this for them. Excuses need to be dropped. I understand that this is in fact a lifestyle change, but at what point do you admit that maybe 20 minutes of slow paced walking isn't enough!? I understand not cutting foods out of your diet, but when you eat a half cup of ice cream, a serving of cookies, and then a serving of chips followed by a serving of chocolate pudding, is that still 'moderation'?
I guess I'm just SOOO completely annoyed right now. To the point where it's probably not a good idea for me to be social. I have friends who have wanted to be workout buddies, and then say that they're too tired, or they only want to walk for 15 minutes. Sure, that's great, but obviously, our goals are different. Which is why I'm better off alone. I've always been better off alone when it comes to this. Friends quickly become snarky doubtful brats who doubt you more than you even doubted yourself, and then they act like they've supported you all along.
Well SCREW that!
I'm going to go to the gym now-ALONE.