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Yesterday's memory run

Sunday, January 27, 2013

I posted on my status that I ran / walked 12.35 miles yesterday, but the numbers only tell such a small fraction of a run. I was running with Carol (my sister in law who passed) on my shoulder. I was talking with her as I ran. And my choices of where to turn and continue were partly guided by the process of dealing with life.

I ended up taking a turn into a neighborhood I hadn't been in to in a long time. Down that street was a house where I babysat as a teen. The mom of that family happened to depart too soon, too. At the end of that same block, the house where a math teacher I had adored had lived. He, too, it turns out, passed way too young.

I kept on running, up toward a Mall, by the site of a church (that is no longer there, neighborhood's changed) that was the place of much of my childhood Sunday School training. Past a nursing home, and into another neighborhood, where one of the church ladies who was widowed the same year as my dad had lived. Then to the gym, and back around the lake one more loop.

It was a memory run. A good opportunity to contemplate, process, assimilate the events swirling around, and for that matter, life in general. Some tears in spots (someone commented yesterday about runs with tears streaming)... not the first such run I've done. But also some smiles as the sun would break through the clouds and warm my back or my face.

Got home, stretched, showered, made the family phone calls appropriate to the day, and chilled 'til bedtime. Funeral is not until Wednesday, it will be touch and go if my son gets home, but he's working with his command chain to get exempted from one mandated class and home a shade early.

In short... took care of my own grieving needs, and made sure others have their "oxygen masks" on, too. It was a good day.

And we shall weather these life events... living them in the moment, and moving onward. Spark on, dear friends. Hug your loved ones. And nurture yourselves.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
CASEYTALK 1/31/2013 10:06AM

    I missed far too many of your blogs and am reading back. You are one of the most emotionally healthy people I've met. This memory run was just what you needed, I'm sure. Your attitude about your ex -- cutting him slack but accepting that he is responsible for his choices which, though they make you sad are not your responsibility -- is healthy, too.

You are such a remarkable woman.

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PATRICIAAK 1/29/2013 1:47AM

    Thanks for sharing the memories.
You and your family have my condolences

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LEANJEAN6 1/28/2013 7:50AM

    Very Thereapeutic Barb--yer run!! emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/28/2013 12:31AM

    Wise thoughts, liked them!

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EBEAMS 1/27/2013 10:38PM

    I love that running is a way to work through life stuff. So sorry for your loss! Many, many hugs ... emoticon

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ROXYZMOM 1/27/2013 7:26PM

    What a great run!! And totally what a run is intended to do! I love those the best!
I am glad you are taking care of yourself andvthe memories!

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LESLIELENORE 1/27/2013 6:19PM

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RUN4FOOD 1/27/2013 5:50PM

    Thanks for sharing your memory run.
Hope your week goes well.

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WATERMELLEN 1/27/2013 5:19PM

    Memory run . . . I totally get this. We can process a lot while working out and it's one of the great reasons to work out, actually. You've been dealing with a huge amount of emotion, and it can't be coincidence that your feet took you on that particular journey . . . .

(Not thinking that there's much likelihood of xc skiing in a Nebraska rain . . . but if you get a chance to try this winter, it's all in the kick/glide/pull with the pole synchronization!)

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GABY1948 1/27/2013 5:07PM

    WHAT A GREAT walk/run, trip down memory lane! You did a wonderful job of dealing! emoticon

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KARIDIAN1 1/27/2013 4:55PM

    Sounds like a great run and memory trip. Hope your son can get home ahead of schedule.

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KALIGIRL 1/27/2013 4:31PM

    Wonderful way to deal with your grief and honor you SIL @ the same time - sorry I bagged the walk today - something about the dampness that chills me more than cold temperatures....

Sending peaceful thoughts my friend.

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DLDMIL 1/27/2013 12:33PM

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ANDY_54 1/27/2013 11:59AM

    What a wonderful blog to read. And a wonderful way to honor your sister-in-law. I love contemplative runs like that, they seem to mean so much more. Take care, emoticon

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KATHIC2 1/27/2013 11:52AM

  Hang in there. I am dealing with something similiar. Movement quiets the mind and helps healing.

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_LINDA 1/27/2013 11:34AM

    It seems like you were guided during that run, a wonderful way to honor Carol and others who were lost before their time..hope things work out for your son to get there in time.
May you have a calm and peaceful day of rest today..

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1CRAZYDOG 1/27/2013 11:28AM

    Good job, Barb. The only way we can take care of others is to make sure we take care of ourselves first. That's a wise decision.

Sounds like you had a very thoughtful run yesterday. That's such a great way to work through things in life.

I pray your son can come home in time! HUGS Barb. Hang in there. So much to deal with.

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LINDAKAY228 1/27/2013 11:18AM

    That was a wonderful way to honor those who have passed on and to work on your own grief. Each of us works through grief in different ways. Yours is a great way for you to do it, based on your lifestyle and who you are. Running sometimes is the way I deal with thinks but more often hiking. And being outside helps us too. Hope your son can make it. Prayers for you and your family and her family.

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LJCANNON 1/27/2013 10:58AM

    emoticon That seems a Fabulous Memory Run and a Wonderful Way to Remember/Honor your Sister In Law and Others who have Passed Too Soon!!
emoticon Nurturing Yourself and then helping Others with their own "Oxygen Masks" is such a Beautiful Image!! And Very Good Advice!!

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MNTWINSGAL 1/27/2013 10:42AM

    This was a wonderful idea. Sometimes I like to go back into my old neighborhood and just walk the streets that I habited as a child and teenager, my schools, etc. So many of those things are gone now. It's sad to see the changes in some ways...but also, change is good.

What a great reason to do a memory run -- and I'm sure are right....your dear SIL was there with you every step of the way.

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MEXGAL1 1/27/2013 10:29AM

    what a wonderful way to honor their memories. Good for you. And so good that you are taking care of yourself so you can be strong to help others.
Have a good day today.

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4DOGNIGHT 1/27/2013 10:11AM

    Hugs to you! Are you running in NW FLorida? emoticon

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MIRAGE727 1/27/2013 9:03AM

    What a concept! A memory run! Awesome, Barb! Reflection is a beautiful thing as we embrace the moment and what we've learned from it. Thanks for sharing.

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STRONGDAWG 1/27/2013 8:38AM

    Sounds like you had an excellent run and lots of company, too.

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SLENDERELLA61 1/27/2013 8:29AM

    Thanks, Barb. I definitely will hug the loved ones. I admire your memory run very much. The grieving process is really quite beautiful and there are so many ways. Thanks for sharing some of your way. Very beautiful.

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DEBRITA01 1/27/2013 8:11AM

    What a touching memory run. Life is way too short but our memories last forever. I'm praying that your son will be home with you by Wed. emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 1/27/2013 8:05AM

    What a great blog, sitting here with tears. HUGs and a great memory walk. I am looking over at my mums urn and thinking gee wish I could have her here just one more time.

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MSLZZY 1/27/2013 7:53AM

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MAGGIE101857 1/27/2013 7:19AM

    Sending you emoticon emoticon and more emoticon . This is a beautiful walk down memory lane (the word blog doesn't do it justice). Thank you for sharing it - although it is your story, we can walk it with you and bring to mind our own loved ones. Treasure the memories always.

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LEANJEAN6 1/27/2013 7:14AM

    Oh Barb! That probably was a good memory run!!! I do hope yer soon makes it home for yu!-Lynda emoticon

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