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VERY bad news... for someone very dear to me...

Sunday, January 27, 2013

I don't know how to start...

Brian's mom, my surrogate mom, was hospitalized briefly for observation and tests... this afternoon, Brian called me... She was recently diagnosed with what was assumed to be cervical or uterine cancer, and her new gynecologist was waiting for lab reports to come back... but the tests at the hospital showed something else.

It's in her liver, her lungs... everywhere. The doctors apparently told the family maybe six months, and that there's nothing they can do for her except make her as comfortable as possible...*sigh*

It's too sad. I love her and now I'm going to lose a mom all over again.

Brian blames her primary care physician, who has repeatedly misdiagnosed her with things that later tests by other doctors would refute... giving her drugs for nonexistent illnesses, drugs that made her sick --until she'd stop taking them and feel better. Now this... he's very upset.

I'd go down and see her if I had the fuel, but I'm not sure about getting to my doctor appointments even at the moment, and I KNOW her daughters will be there-- it gets a bit hectic when they're all there, and she really doesn't like crowds. I certainly don't want to add to her discomfort. I'm going to call and see how she's doing mid-morning tomorrow...

Even though I know it's part of living, and we're all in God's hands, right now the tears just won't stop... when I do see and talk to her, I want her to feel free to express whatever is in her heart, and not be concerned about me--and I want to help celebrate life with her during the time she is still with us...

...I need to be calm for her... and that's going to take a bit of work.

I'm going to go to bed and see if I can dream up something we can do together for fun. Something meaningful and/or frivolous...just because she deserves it.



Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MISSM66 2/2/2013 5:40AM

    So sorry to hear this,but as you said she is in the lord hands he will take care of her,at the same time you take of your self,I will keep you and your family in my prayers. emoticon emoticon

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SAMI199 2/2/2013 5:23AM

    I'm so sorry,Kathy.

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STEPHLOKI 1/29/2013 2:08AM

    That is a tough one. But I know you will tackle it. Brians reaction to blame the primary Doctor is also natural, but doesn't really help. He needs to work himself through it.

Knowing you, you will be there for your surrogate Mum and do everything you can to make her enjoy her final months.

Unfortunately it is true once cancer is in the lung & liver there isn;t much one can do. Since Cancer is quiet and usually does not have any symptoms until it has progressed far, it is also VERY difficult to diagnose early. The preventive tests we do, are not 100% either,

Don't forget to get some me-time in all this as well.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/28/2013 11:03AM

    GF, I am so sorry to hear this. I know you have talked before about how close you are to Brian's family and were afraid they would not be around much longer. I hope that they are to keep her comfortable.

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ORCHIDLADY56 1/28/2013 8:14AM

    So very, very sorry. emoticon

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I.M.MAGIC 1/28/2013 7:49AM

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WENDYJM4 1/27/2013 6:18PM

    emoticon so sorry Kathy. Be strong.

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sending hugs long distance and my prayers wrapped around you
the lady mary

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1CRAZYDOG 1/27/2013 11:40AM

    emoticon So sorry. **SIGH** Life just isn't fair sometimes. ((((HUGS))))

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PYNETREE 1/27/2013 9:21AM

    So sorry! It is hard to go on everyday with this diagnosis hanging over you.
My sister was just told in December, that her cancer had returned and was in the lymph system and base of her spine, and that she has a about a year or two.
It is devastating to live this everyday.

Sending prayers for strength, to Brian, his family, and you.

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DBELLE39 1/27/2013 8:58AM

    Such a sad blog, will be saying prayers for your family, you will need strength that only God can give.

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NASFKAB 1/27/2013 4:29AM

  this is such sad news praying for all of you be strong hugs

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HONEYCOMBS2002 1/27/2013 3:37AM

    I would like to tell you how sorry I was to read this. I hope you are handling it as well as possible and you will be in my prayers. Stay strong!

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