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Who Wants It Most?

Saturday, January 26, 2013

If you are anything like me then there are people in your life.
People who want you to lose weight.
To get fit.
To be healthy.

I've got my lovely bride.
And my children.
My parents.
My friends.
My co-workers.
My employer.
My physician.
My insurance agent. (Well, the jury is out on him.)

Lots of folks.

How about you?

You probably have SOMEONE who wants you to lose weight, get fit and be healthy, right?

Few of us are COMPLETELY alone.

And if you ARE alone at home,
Know this...

Your SparkFriends want you to lose weight, get fit and be healthy.

So you're not REALLY alone, are you?

But tell me something, OK?
Itís a bit personal.
Iím not trying to pry...

But your answer to this question is critically important.

And that isnít hyperbole.

Itís a fact.

My question is...

Who wants it the most?

Who wants to see you lose weight, get fit and be healthy the most?

Is it your mother?
Or your spouse?
Your kid sister?
Your children?
Your best friend?

If you answer anything but "me" then I'm going to say that



I see you looking at this right now and getting that little snarl on your face

That ďHow dare you tell me what I need, you know-it-all jerkĒ snarl that says Iíve touched a bit of a nerve.

Iím quite skilled at that but Iíd ask you to indulge me for a second.

Hear me out, OK?

I mean it is WONDERFUL that Mom or Aunt Flossie or your kid sister Velma or your best friend Dieter wants you to succeed.


But If Mom or Flossie or Velma or Dieter wants it MORE THAN YOU DO then...


If your boss or your co-worker Betty Lou or old Doc Jones is more concerned about your physical condition than you are...

Then I'm going to say boldly that







Yes, Iím direct and blunt.
Suck it up and deal with it.
Iím trying to help you save your life here, OK?

"But, you don't know anything about me, Matt."


"You should shut your yap because you are wrong."

Am I?

I don't think I am.

You see, unless and until YOU decide that losing that excess weight is important.

That getting fit is a priority.

That your health is job one.

And that YOU want it the most.

Then you aren't making yourself a priority.
And you are probably making excuses.
And you probably think it simply isn't possible to lose the weight.
And youíre likely to just sit there like all the other folks who make excuses and tell themselves it isn't possible.

Are you hanging onto your current life and mindset with a death grip?

And telling yourself that you canít do it because it is too hard?

Then I want to tell you something you might not like.

But I'm going to say it anyway.

Suck it up and DO something about it rather than continuing to jaw about how lifeís not fair and youíve got a sweet tooth or a food addiction or you canít get motivated to work out!

Look, sustained weight loss IS hard.
If it were EASY youíd have already done it, right?
But it IS something that you CAN do.

But only if YOU want it the most.

Because despite the fact that your spouse might soak the pillow with tears over your physical condition, THEY CAN'T MAKE YOU FIT.

And even though your kids might hope and pray that you lose weight, THEY CAN'T MAKE YOU DO IT.

And old Doc Jones might be at wit's end from telling you year after year that you need to focus on your health, BUT HE CAN'T MAKE YOU HEALTHY.

YOU have to want this.

And I'm not talking about some "Oh, I'd sure like to lose some weight." mealymouthed rhetoric.
Some weak statement... some wish... some desire... some passing yearly resolution that gets heaped up on the pile of failed resolutions that went nowhere because you really werenít serious about it.

I'm talking about wanting it enough to DO something about it.

Because it is only through ACTION that things are accomplished.


You MUST want this more than anyone else because if you don't...

(And you might not like this part but it IS the truth.)

You are likely going to die an obese individual.
You are likely to have trouble getting around in your later years.
You are at an increased risk to have terrible conditions like diabetes, heart problems, joint problems, neuropathy.

And if you DO NOTHING about this, recognize this:

YOU are making the decision NOT to change.
YOU are making the decision to put yourself at increased risk for host of medical conditions.
YOU are RESPONSIBLE for your weight.

Look, I donít write this stuff to get comments.
Or SparkGoodies.
Or recognition.

I write it because YOU need to hear it.
And *** I *** need to hear it.


Do something now.



Track your food.
Start there.
Everything, each day and be honest about it.
Start there.
It is 5 minutes a day.
Ten tops if you are new to do it.

Youíve got 10 minutes, right?

Youíd better.

I GUARANTEE YOU that you arenít too busy to do this.

Trust me.

Because MY life is BUSY.
And I make time to do it.


You are strong.
Do you realize this?
Strong enough to beat this.
Strong enough to take control of your life.
To lose the weight, get fit and be healthy.
WAY stronger than you might think.

You just need to want it the most.

Do you?

Then what are you waiting for?

Look, I donít know what youíve been through.
I donít know what your life has been like.
What kind of things you deal with on a daily basis.
I donít know about your home life.
Or your upbringing.

But I DO know this:

You MUST decide that YOUR HEALTH is a PRIORITY.

Or you will NEVER change.

So DO SOMETHING right now.

TODAY is the day.

What are you waiting for?

Iím pulling for you.
Because you have value and worth.
And while it might not seem like it right now, there is a fit, healthy person inside you that is just waiting for you to decide to dump all the excuses and get your backside in gear.

This isnít about your mom or your kids or you best friend or your spouse.

This is about YOU.

And YOU can do this.

Make it a great day!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
REDVELVET21 1/29/2013 6:42PM

    I would give you 10 thumbs up but I only have 2! Lol great post felt like you was talking to me! I am glad you did this!

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DEBRA0818 1/28/2013 5:28AM

    There may be people who harbor a secret desire that I'll lose the weight (finally), and there are certainly friends and family who encourage me, but since I am the one who controls what goes in my mouth (which is conservatively about 85% of the reason for weight loss), I am the only one who can right this ship, I am the only one who can REALLY care. And, I do.


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    Awesome, you are so right. This actually brought a smile to my face, twisted right? lol

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HOLLYM48 1/27/2013 8:41PM

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It is for me, myself and I!
Thanks for the great blog!
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WASCALLYWONE 1/27/2013 12:56PM

    Well, slap me in the face with the cold, hard facts. You are right, of course. Thanks for the reminder and, yes, I SHOULD want it most. At the moment, however, I am being wishy-washy and I need to kick myself into action! Again, thanks, Matt! emoticon

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INTHEGAP 1/27/2013 11:50AM

    Great blog, Matt. I started this because I wanted it most ~ and I continue it because I still want it. It has to come from within to be successful. :) emoticon emoticon

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CELIAMINER 1/27/2013 11:01AM

    What a great pep talk!

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CHOOSE2LOSE2014 1/27/2013 9:12AM

    emoticon I have several people in my life who want me to lose the weight and honestly Ive always thought Id do it for them but your rite we must do it for ourselves...Because Nobody thats wants us to do this is going to do what it takes to lose the weight ...Im going to make this all about ME from now on...Thanks for another great post Matt..You always say what needs to be said...

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MARGARITTM 1/27/2013 8:26AM


Yep me ..............sometimes it REALLY is all about me!

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WRITEMANN1 1/27/2013 7:32AM

    I, Me, Mine!!!!!!

Great post!

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MICKEYH 1/26/2013 11:07PM

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LADYABIGAIL627 1/26/2013 10:44PM

    I want to be healthy so bad for ME I can taste it! It is a taste that is no calories, only energy and drive. Excellent blog post. You always inspire. I like your straightforward no holds barred kind of message. You give tough love!


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HEALTHIERKEN 1/26/2013 10:39PM

    Who wants it most? I do! I do! Pick me, pick me!!

Call me narcissistic but I want my weight to be right because I want to look good anywhere and everywhere. Church, office, home, hiking, gym, pool, change room. EVERYWHERE, EVERY TIME!


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TIMOTHYNOHE 1/26/2013 10:35PM

    Good post, thank you.

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DOVESEYES 1/26/2013 10:28PM


oops I got so carried away with the encouragement :)

I can answer Yes to this, it's for me and by me.

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SUGAR0814 1/26/2013 10:11PM

    Love it! emoticon

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RG_DFW 1/26/2013 10:09PM

    Good post!

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    Love it! I was reading your list of people, going "Me! i want this for ME!" emoticon

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BOOKAPHILE 1/26/2013 8:59PM

    Thanks Matt! You're right.

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JESSIELABRAKE 1/26/2013 8:53PM

    Very true! I have tried before many times and it was never really for myself. It was always to stop the stares and whispers I would get. Now its for me and my family of course but I want it bad this time and I know thats why I am successful so far. Great blog never really sat down and thought about it before.

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 1/26/2013 8:48PM

    THIS is an excellent blog! I tell people all the time, I can't do this for you, I can't want it for you, YOU have to want this. Great blog!!!

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DARLY55 1/26/2013 8:23PM

    Great blog, Matt. Right on target. I, too, most want it for me. I want you to succeed as well, and all my fellow Sparkers. You are fortunate to have a good group of backers at home. emoticon emoticon

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MOTHER-NATURE 1/26/2013 8:15PM

    I want it !!! I want it !!! I really do want it emoticon I'm well on my way to getting it too .. this is the year i reach my goal ... watch me emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon I am on my way , I'm going to do it ... that's my story and I'm sticking to it emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Go Niki !! Go Niki !! emoticon

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JPONCIN 1/26/2013 8:12PM

    Great blog. I'm pretty sure I'm the only one who cares about my health right now, but I really needed to hear this! I've been so frustrated with the number on the scale this week, and I've been losing my will the past couple of days. Thank you for the kick in the pants.

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CAKEMAKERMOM 1/26/2013 8:12PM

    Of course I want it the most. My spouse, my parents and my kids love me no matter what I look like and aren't treating me any differently than when I was at either my highest or lowest weights that they have seen me. I wouldn't still be here if I didn't want it this badly. I've already proved that I can do it and I will continue to keep on doing it so I can get around when I get old.


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BOGUSANNIE 1/26/2013 8:09PM

    I am not sure there is anybody other than ME who wants me to lose weight....and I am ok with that!

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