WHY OLD FAT WOMEN DON'T GO TO GYMS
Saturday, January 26, 2013
So I'm in this Biggest Loser Competiton and been sick for almost 2 weeks, gone for a week and totally frustrated. I had to skip my personal trainer on Tuesday due to coughing my head off so today I'm feeling some better and decide to go to the gym to the boot camp. Dreaded the thought but forced myself to go.
I walk in and there is an old guy at the desk who doesn't know anything about where it is going to be and what time or should I have paid in advance. I see another biggest loser member wearing her t-shirt so I sit next to her on the bike. She is frustrated as well and more overweight than I am.
There is no visible clock in front of the bikes and so I just keep rolling along. I have to turn my head to see the clock and discover it is almost 11:00 and the bootcamp was supposed to start at 10:45. So I get up and look in the exercise room but those folks in there are too skinny to be in this competition. So I ask and someone says it is out back. Out back? What does that mean, where out back?
I run into Heather who is the nutrition coach and ask her. I tell her how frustrated I am and she says that most people go up and down in weight. Then she tells me to go out back. How do I get there? I finally walk around the buiding and there are about 25 people jumping up and down and sideways in the parking lot. Another woman comes by and says she is late as well and invites me in. I watch for a min and I am totally uncomfortable and embarrassed so I just turn and leave and go home.
So why do old fat women avoid gyms
1. Old fat men don't seem to care about them and certainly not interested in helping them.
2. When you go to a crowded gym, unless you have a personal trainer, you are helpless as to know what to do.
3. I might be old and fat but I am also a strong woman who likes to be in control. I am nowhere near being in control of myself at the gym.
4. I thought I was on a team. There is no team organization, no team leader, and I haven't been contacted by anyone. When you are on a team, aren't there supposed to be other people?
5. I've pretty much decided if its to be its up to me. I am going to go to my personal trainer on Tuesdays, tell her what I think and then I am going to go to the YMCA on the other days.
First I have to get over being sick.
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I paid $19 monthly for a fitness place in our town (this was years ago) and paid for two years till my contract ran out. I went to exercise exactly 3 times, and had much the same experience as you.
Then I went to our city parks recreational gym, took a small class with a 'Weight Watcher friend, and ended up exercising 3 times a week with my friend and the trainer. We were in our 30's, 40's and 50"s (guess who was the oldest?), but became really good friends.
I don't know where you are now in your fitness search, but don't give up. It definitely helps to have people you know and like to work out with. I should add here that the younger two were tall, lithe and pretty fit. I used to tell them I stayed in the "class" to make them look good (after the first class was over, we just continued to exercise together). I was short and rounder - the "O" in LOL!" My WW friend actually met her goal weight and later took over as instructor one of the classes our trainer had to drop.
Glad your in-law problems are better; I'll check later your later posts to see how you're doing now.
1203 days ago
Doesn't sound like a great experience. But don't give up on the gym. I used to hate it but once I learned how to use the machines and the right technique for my exercises, I became an independent exerciser. It is great to go somewhere where all the equipment is set up for you. It's good to have different machines so you can mix up your cardio. And once you know what to do, you don't need a trainer, you can work out your own programme with the help of Sparkpeople.
Like you I would be flagging a programme that had been gong for three weeks, I wouldn,t feel like I could catch up. But maybe you will be feeling more robust next time the bootcamp starts. Of course there is always Sparkpeople,s bootcamp!
1206 days ago
I'm so sorry that didn't work out. That's horrible customer service and that gym should know better. Especially with a situation as sensitive as weight-loss. You should definitely file a complaint/give the owner a review. I'm really upset about this.
Gyms are really more suited for people that already have a solid exercise regimen in place. Most of the time it's more equipment than social interaction. If you have the knowledge already at hand, it's easier to pick and choose what you need to use.
I would recommend the same thing many other posters have--try taking a fitness class such as Zumba, yoga, or spin class. The great thing about many of these classes is that you don't have to be fit and you don't have to keep up.
I go to a fit club in town that uses the Beach Body fitness programs (P90x, Insanity, etc.). These are extremely tough programs and many of the members are fit, but many are not too. So I don't feel bad when I get worn out and need to sit on the floor for a second to regain my strength. It's okay to not be as good as the others, that comes with time.
Just remember, you need to do the best that you can for yourself. Not the best that others can do. Challenge yourself against yourself and once you do that, you can take on a challenge against others.
Maybe it's time the Emerald Coast Team got together for our own workouts. Because if anyone can understand what you're going through, it's your fellow sparkers.
1209 days ago
Carol - I am so sorry about your frustrating experience! Did you have to pay to be in the competition? I would contact the gym manager and express your frustrations or look for another gym that is more friendly.
I love the gym where I am at. The greeters are great and helpful. The clocks are very visible. There are a variety of people working out there and most are friendly.
I am glad you have a personal trainer.
Praying you feel better soon.
1212 days ago
Carol, how frustrating. It's too bad that you missed the first two weeks, but it sounds like it wouldn't have made much difference. The "greeter" certainly wasn't doing his job and his supervisor wasn't doing his/her job. You should have been directed "out back" upon your arrival with detailed instructions about how to get there (take the door to the left, go down the corridor past the garbage can, turn right and you'll see some doors, go through them). Unless you are a team of one (in which case why are they calling it teams?) then someone should have contacted you to make sure you are still planning to participate. I remember how excited you were about this program and it's too bad that it has left a sour taste. I'd give it one more time and if it still doesn't rise to your expectations, then I'd say "adios" and go to the "Y" (after telling the gym manager about your experience and expectations).
1213 days ago
Don't give up on working out at the gym. The idea of a work out body sounds good, may be your trainer could set you up with one of thier other clients with similar fitness levels and goals.
1213 days ago
Ugh that is so frustrating.
1213 days ago
Good for you! I have a long-term trainer, and I plan to keep seeing her as long as I can afford it.
1214 days ago
That is why I go to an exercise class. I wish you luck with whatever you decide to do. ((HUGS)) Get better soon.
1214 days ago
gyms do seem to be made for the young/strong/thin, don't they? you'll find your way.
any chance of an exercise pal?
1214 days ago
That's exactly the kind of thing that worries me about going to the gym - the physical therapist is setting me up with a schedule, and they will be my "personal trainer" for sessions throughout the year. But in between their sessions - then what? I'm planning to try to find out when it's the least busy, and just do whatever they set me up with, so I can see how it goes. But at this point, unless they have something for "over 60s" or "senior sessions" or something, I don't plan on doing any group things.
p.s. You'd think they could do some kind of challenge specifically for 50+ or seniors or something...?
1214 days ago
I just made a homemade cough syrup. It isn't bad and it did help some.
2 tablespoons dried thyme
1 Cup almost boiling water
Steep for 10 mins. and then strain.
1/2 cup honey
1 teaspoon lemon juice
Place in fridge until cool
Take 1 tablespoon as needed.
Store in fridge for 1 week.
1214 days ago
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