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Saturday, January 26, 2013

I learned a lesson at Wal-Mart this morning and it humbled me.

I go grocery shopping with Joan and we have an understanding: I stay out of her way and she lets me go grocery shopping with her. Usually I wander the electronics aisle or sporting goods or DVDs or something to just occupy my time. Joan phones me when its time to check out. I think its a win-win. Im not really concerned with what paper towels we use and she has no desire to compare hack and slash movies.

After she called this morning I got stuck in the slow lane, lol In front of me was a lady with a cart and you could tell from her posture and pace she was on a mission. Blue tooth firmly planted in her ear she was talking to someone as she quickly advanced on two people side by side, with carts that were moving at a leisurely pace. Shed edge close to them and back off, edge close and back off. I decided to make an illegal pass and use the adjacent aisle usually reserved for cart traffic going the other direction. It was then Id heard the crash. Shopper on a mission ran into shopper out to brose. Ever been hit from behind by a shopping cart? It usually runs up the back of your ankles and to use a scientific term sends you skittering- catty -wampus in an unknown direction. The offending party turned bright red and began offering all sorts of apologies. Her daughter was here, her son was there, she had to pick up her hubby and they had a movie to go to and dinner with friends and she needed fabric softener and dont you know I DONT HAVE ENOUGH TIME. By the way, Im sorry I hit you.

Who does, have enough time that is? Isnt this our eternal excuse? Id love to exercise, but I dont have the time, family and work comes first. Who the he** argues with that logic? Quiet time is nice John but are you kidding? With everything I have going on Oh, I forgot, stress is a natural part of our lives, no?

The impact of what happened didnt hit me until I arrived home later this morning. Im that shopper with a purpose. Im in such a hurry to get.? Where am I in a hurry to get to? I put 10 pounds of sugar in a 5 pound sack. I claim to be mindful but I let circumstances dictate how I use my time. What kind of stuff can I live without but choose not to because it rubs against social norms and dictates, so I convince myself I need it? Smart phones, IPads, social media all make it easier to cram more stuff in and then I wonder how come I over eat emotionally at times.

For those of you over 50 you might recall a really great Broadway play called Stop the World I Want to Get Off. When I reach the point in my life, where I physically or emotionally run over other shoppers its time to take inventory.

So I was humbled my dearest reader. Humbled that I too hop on the treadmill and often judge my worth by how busy I truly am. I didnt see it coming Life isnt worth that, is it?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GIRANIMAL 1/30/2013 1:09PM

    My every morning feels like this, and then, at least half of the time, so do my days at work. (Lunch break? Seriously?) I find myself getting annoyed and feeling "abandoned" by the one coworker who takes her lunch breaks religiously. Logically, I know that is ridiculous! Evenings are more of the same: rush home from work, clean up, pack lunch for the next day and then it's pretty much time for bed. Lather, rinse, repeat. It's kind of awful when I stop to think about it too long!

I've been longing for a way to at least make my mornings feel less chaotic, to better set up my mood for the day, but I have yet to find an answer. Ten minutes to just sit quietly (meditate) in the morning seems like a great idea, but I'm usually fighting so hard to stay awake that it seems implausible! It's really, honestly true, and yet, it still sounds a bit like an excuse. Priorities! I always have far too many of them at equal levels on the list.

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CC3833 1/28/2013 4:07PM

    Oh I think everyone uses that excuse. But like you said it is a vaild one. You just need to write everything down and take a look at what really comes first? Thanks for reminding me!

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NASFKAB 1/27/2013 4:37AM

  thought provoking thanks for sharing

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 1/27/2013 12:53AM

    Very interesting Blog John! Thanks for sharing!

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REGILIEH 1/26/2013 11:30PM

    Very thought provoking!!! emoticon

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MORTICIAADDAMS 1/26/2013 10:30PM

    After years of being overly busy at a demanding job I like to be as unbusy as possible. Not total sloth but not on a treadmill 24/7 either.

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MOBYCARP 1/26/2013 8:39PM

    Time is the ultimate scarce resource. Use more of it on one thing, and you must perforce use less on something else. Sometimes I can do this purposefully; but most of the time I'm an observer noting what got squeezed out.

One of the big surprises in my life after finding SP is that most of my pleasure reading of fiction got squeezed out. Where did the time go? Some into participation on SP, but more into being active and spending more time messing with eating healthy than it took to just eat without paying attention.

Is this worth it? You bet it is. I miss reading fantasy; but not badly enough to go back to reading a lot of it, if that means not being active or not eating right.

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LYNMEINDERS 1/26/2013 8:34PM

    Brilliant blog John...
This is something I changed last year....go on missions but not to that extent anymore

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MARITIMER3 1/26/2013 5:19PM

    A good friend and I used to spend our "girls' nights out" one-upping each other about how busy our jobs were. I finally realized what we were doing, and have seen less of her recently. How busy we are doesn't matter. We're all busy, each in our own way; what matters is how we use the time that we have.

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MKPRINCESS007 1/26/2013 4:29PM

    I know those moments soooooooooooo well! It isn't always easy to take a breath and slow down, but man, it is so much better for a our mental and physical health!

Thanks for the great blog!


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CRYSTALJEM 1/26/2013 4:26PM

    So true. I find it incredibly hard to let go if the things I know truly don't serve me as much as they cost me time. It isn't any easier than stopping over eating. Slowly I'm learning not to start in the first place. I hope any way.

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ONEKIDSMOM 1/26/2013 4:07PM

    One of my favorite Spark calendar pages recommends, "Do less". Love it. Good insights, John. May you slow down and smell the roses!

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VICKI-BISHOP56 1/26/2013 1:14PM

  Bob will get very impatient with the "senior citizens" when we go shopping. He doesn't stop and think, "HE'S A SENIOR CITIZEN HIMSELF"!! LOL!
I much prefer shopping alone. Goes much quicker and we save money since if he stays home, a lot of stuff neither of us need, will not go into the cart. When he shops with me I can expect at least an extra $25.00 worth of spending. emoticon emoticon

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ANATASHIKI 1/26/2013 12:50PM

    lol , I went shopping today too . I can't say I was in a hurry but the shop was full of very old ladies letting their carts in very odd angles. but waiting a little and " please may I pass" worked wonders. I hate when I have that " busy" feeling. the " busy " time is stolen time from my real life, the one where I read , relax , feel good , talk to friends, take a walk, exercise , cook real food, track everything, meditate, did I mention read ? :D

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ANGJENN822 1/26/2013 12:40PM

    I'll be honest, John...if I tallied up all the time I spent doing 'other things' (i.e. facebook, gaming), I would find the free time to work out, to plan my meals, etc. But that stuff is work and I'm all about fun. I need to reset my priorities. Thanks for the reminder!

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HDHAWK 1/26/2013 11:57AM

    I am guilty of being impatient when people are piddling up and down aisles walking at a snail's pace. I want to get in and get out and move on to the next thing. I'm hoping that's because I don't enjoy grocery shopping. I'm much more patient while driving believe it or not (usually)!

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