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Perfection? that's not happening here.

Saturday, January 26, 2013

I learned something else about myself this week. I made a mistake at work, which was pointed out to me. I was so upset! It was a scheduling error, and I had to go back and redo next week's schedule, which I was afraid would make my coworkers upset.

But I realized the reason I was so upset was just that I had made a mistake. I had spent a lot of time making the schedule and all that time was wasted, because now I had to spend more time to fix it. I was way more upset than the mistake warranted and I couldn't get over it.

A few days later, I was telling a friend about my emotional experience and had a revelation--it was because of my dad! My dad hated it when we did something wrong and had to go back and redo it. He hated it at his work and he hated it at home. No matter what we were doing, he expected us to do it right the first time. So even as an adult, I expect it of myself. And its RIDICULOUS! There is no way to do everything right every time!

So I forgive myself for making a mistake and having to redo the schedule. And I forgive myself for everything else I didn't do right the first time, this week and forever. Life is full of mistakes and our job is to learn from them and become the best person we can. That is a much better goal than expecting perfection.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MOBYCARP 1/26/2013 8:26PM

    Heh. I just got done with a shift of doing Quality Review for a VITA site. Why do we do Quality Review? Because people make mistakes. Even very experienced, very competent tax preparers make mistakes. A second set of eyes to find the mistakes prevents most (but not all) of them from getting through the process to cause problems for the clients.

What I find scarier than someone pointing out my mistakes is, someone telling me they don't need to check my work because I don't make mistakes. I know better than that!

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DAS92687 1/26/2013 7:21AM

    Carolyn, Mistakes are probably the only things we DO learn from :-)

A man should never be ashamed to own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying... that he is wiser today than he was yesterday. ~Alexander Pope

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DEBRA0818 1/26/2013 6:21AM

    There's no question that overly demanding households raise unforgiving perfectionists and the beatings continue until ... we figure it out. You have! Congratulations!!!


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KMCARROLL316 1/26/2013 1:37AM

  Way to go!!! You are so right, we all make mistakes and your dad did too. You stay focused and everything will work out...

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