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Leaning Into Sharp Points

Friday, January 25, 2013

I've learned this lesson before. Or I thought so. Last year - when I wanted to pull away from hard, pull away from the difficulty of this journey, pull away from the thought of doing this for the rest of my life, when I didn't know if I wanted to go on - and the two words "embrace it" were a surgical knife in the cascade of information and advice that flowed across my path.

And embrace it I did – life changing!

But once again, I find myself coming full circle with words that cut like a knife: "leaning into sharp points." I've once again drawn away from embracing the journey.

The book has nothing to do with weight loss or healthy living. It is a book for caregivers. But this concept so gripped me again. We pull away from the things that are painful.

“Tibetans say that, to get over the things you fear most – the sharp points of your life – bring them closer instead of pushing them away . . . Bringing the sharp points in life closer (is) an opportunity for healing. . . our greatest fears are like dragons guarding our hearts . . . Personal growth doesn’t seem to occur when life is pleasant.”

Stan Goldberg, PhD, Leaning into Sharp Points: practical guidance and nurturing support for caregivers (California: New World Library, 2012), 4

I face the challenge once again of embracing hard, leaning into the sharp point of the season of pain on this journey.

Will you lean into it with me?

p.s. And by the way, I do highly recommend the book if you are a caregiver.
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    What an inspiring blog and great timing as I'd been thinking thoughts along these lines just earlier today. Thanks so much for posting it!!
    1850 days ago
    What a beautiful blog! Anni (Andrea) emoticon
    1850 days ago
  • KITT52
    I'm always right there with you..
    In reading your blog a few insightful thoughts came to me....
    I have learned that being over weight was more painful than loosing or keeping the weight off..it helps me to read how I use to feel, the pain the humiliation of being a 350 pound women.....
    Hang tough dear friend, I am here for you every step of the way....

    praying our almighty Lord gives you renewed strength every day
    1850 days ago
  • -POOKIE-
    emoticon You are brave my friend to face the future, I hope I can support you x
    1850 days ago
    This is gripping . I am not there yet; in God's mercy I have come to be at peace with an Everest of sorrow and difficulty that has encompassed my last year and a half. Acceptance, some days more, some days less......but not leaning in. I will have to meditate on this. Reminds me of Jacob wrestling, holding on actively, "I won't let go until you bless me." Or Paul, "Most gladly therefore will I glory in my infirmities, that the excellency of the power may be of God and not of ourselves." 2 Cor 12:9. Hmmmm.....Most gladly......glory in it.......sounds like leaning in. I will keep working on the giving thanks in everything; I suspect that is a stepping-stone.

    I pray you have the vigor and tenacity of Jacob to keep wrestling on.
    1851 days ago
    I'm so happy for you to be at this place of learning and growing. Its awesome when we find a resource that really touches us, isn't it.
    1851 days ago
    Glad to know a good resource that I can refer others to. If you recommend it, that's all I need to know; it has to be good.

    I am struggling with something similar. Which is totally different. Jesus said, "When you lose your life FOR MY SAKE, you will find it." I find the concept of losing your entire life, everything you know, to find the real thing, to REALLY find your life, to be thrilling, enticing, and terrifying - all at the same time. The promise is I will find the life I never had. Implied is, the life I never had but always wanted. Getting over the things you fear most by bringing them closer, has such harmony with losing your life to find it.

    "Losing your life to find it", is haunting me.

    Do I want to find it?

    Yes of course.

    Oh - really?

    Are you SURE?

    There is a price to be paid. First you must lose it.

    This is stirring my soul and I am haunted by it.

    Hope you didn't have bra sales seekers coming to your other blog(s), LOL.
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    1851 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon embracing it with you (hugs)
    1851 days ago
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