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What do you want to do tonight?

Friday, January 25, 2013

I am a very social creature. On the average night I am out singing karaoke, or playing bar trivia, out to dinner with friends, birthday parties, etc. In the summertime, I am down the shore in a house of 18 or so friends every weekend. Life is hectic and crowded and good.

All of this translates to booze and food and food and booze. Repeat.

There are also many circles of friends so when I try to politely say I am working on myself and I would prefer not to spend the 4th evening in a row around beer and nachos, I get the response "you can cheat once in a while" or "you already look great" or "coooommmeee OOOONNNN!" and it's tough to hold down an argument against fun.

I have been managing mostly by meeting up later in the evenings, after I eat a sensible dinner, and playing the "I can't, I'm driving" card (even when friends offer to pick me up). At the end of the day "I have too many friends" is not a valid complaint and I should quit whining. I know.

Anyway, my friend says to me the other day "well, you're driving, you pick, just not a movie please" (she just gets too antsy and I don't think it would be the same without the popcorn anyways). I couldn't think of a single fun thing to do with her that didn't involve a temptation. I went the traditional "pool. . . bowling. . ." route at first, but, again bars and fried foods are 10 feet away. "how about that coffeehouse the next town over" *google* closed 6 months ago. "how about the other one" closes at 9. "Ice skating?" "remember last time when you fell ON TOP OF that little kid" "Arcade?" "Great idea!. . . Where?"

It was getting so frustrating that I needed a drink!

We eventually ended up at a karaoke bar because I couldn't come up with anything. We had a great time over barcardi and diet cokes and fried calamari. Better luck next time.

Is there some underground subculture of night things to do that I just don't know about? Late night Jamba Juices? Meet me at midnight at the rock wall? Saturday night painting classes? And if there are, how do I get at least a couple of my circles on board so my cheat days can be less frequent, but, I can still have a bustling social life?

Or is this just what life is now? Reinventing the words "no, thank you" over and over again?

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40PUDDLEJUMPER 1/27/2013 5:35AM

    i know exactly what you mean, it really is hard... everyone you are with thinks that they should be the exception to your rules... my partner is the worst with the "but you love these, it mean i can't if you won't!!!" but i keep going!


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GRATEFUL_BEING 1/25/2013 5:59PM

  Lol I remember the same thing in my 20's and 30's. Its hard to balance health and fun.

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SASSYJK 1/25/2013 4:10PM

    I'm right there with you! I've found myself telling them I drink only once a week, or that I have to be up early the next day helps with excuses for why you're not drinking. I haven't found anything else to do either, seems like we always end up at bars. I try to drink slower, and eat before or order a salad right away so I'm not tempted by the "bad" food. Also, if you order a water between every drink, that'll slow down the calories. :)

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