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All kinds of beautiful

Friday, January 25, 2013

I used to have a damaging relationship with one of my salsa teachers. Sounds a bit awkward doesn't it, especially considering she's a girl.

The problem was she's one of those girls with so much self-confidence it practically shines out of her, and I was one of those girls to whom self-confidence seems some kind of mythical creature only seen by the favoured few. The miniscule bit I had was instantly halved whenever she walked into the same room.

I hated her.

Yet at the same time I kept telling myself that one day I would be exactly like her. She was my image of perfection that I was (pointlessly) aiming for. Even though I hated her. Messed. Up.

However, last night the bf and I went to a salsa club and this teacher was also there.
I waited for the usual kick in my gut followed by the 'woe is me, why do I even bother blah blah' that normally runs through my head. But it didn't happen. I was wearing a beautiful black and white dress I bought specially for new year, I had done my hair and it was actually behaving, and my calves were a wee bit sore from rocking my interval run earlier. I felt amazing and even she couldn't knock that down.

And THEN I had a revelation. This girl has a definite style, kinda B-girl, hip hop style. And whatever she wears she looks really good. But she doesn't look girly. Last night for the first time in my life I realised that I have a style, and it's girly.
I will never ever look like my salsa teacher, and it turns out I actually don't want to. I'm pretty darn sexy (in a cute, girly way) as I am.

As if that wasn't enough it struck me that, although we are completely different and dressed completely different, we both looked beautiful to me. And the girl covered up in a plain cream top looked beautiful. And the skinny girl in the boob tube and leggings looked beautiful. And the short girl in the baggy red jumper-dress looked beautiful.

What an incredible world, to have so many kinds of beautiful.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
4AMAZINGME 2/1/2013 6:29PM

    What a beautiful perspective!

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BARBARASCH 1/31/2013 5:54AM

    totally love this!!

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HEALTHY156 1/30/2013 4:29PM


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PKBOO3 1/28/2013 10:46AM

    Love this. Very encouraging for all the girls who think they're not beautiful.

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MERRY_XMAS 1/25/2013 5:15PM

    It's am amazing realization... When you say about yourself that you are beautiful, then you are definitely doing something right... Most of us fight our reflection in the mirror... When you come to a point where you can say "hey! I'm beautiful!" then you are a winner already!

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JILLYBEAN25 1/25/2013 4:27PM

    Love this!!!

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DALI3519 1/25/2013 4:10PM

Just in case, you need to hear it from another girl... "Your beautiful and that is not just your looks, but also your personality!" I wish I could confince dh to take lessons with me... I love to dance!... Keep on stylin and profiling YOU! emoticon

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CAITGOESGREAT 1/25/2013 4:02PM

    This will sound really cheesy, but I think your blog is beautiful. You're absolutely right that there's many kinds of beauty, and I love that you were able to find yours, accept others', and stop comparing yourself! The self confidence is shining out of you now, girl!

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