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Taking a breath

Friday, January 25, 2013

A woman I greatly admire, Carla Savetsky, of Natural Healing for Women, sent me this beautiful email today. I've been working with her to feel more grounded and balanced, after learning about my husband's illness.

She said,

"Here's what's happening when you binge:
Your being feels like what's happening in your life right now is all too much, is totally out of control, you can't cope with all the feelings of what's happening. Who could??? It's all too much. So, this coping mechanism allows you to lose consciousness for those few moments and obliterate consciousness. And then, you have some place to put the focus other than the horror of what's really going on. That is what you are looking to do - obliterate consciousness. The feelings are all too much. That's what binging is about.

Here is a gentle way to work with it, if you're up for it. There is a moment when you are eating where you recognize that it is going into a binge. In that moment, stop and take a deep breath. Just commit to that. Nothing else. Tell yourself that you will go back to binging in a moment, and that's fine. No judgement. But for this moment, you are just going to allow yourself to breath, and to see if you can tolerate being in that moment with whatever feelings arise. Because in that moment, what you probably really need is to cry deeply or scream or have someone hug you. But if you can allow yourself to tolerate the feelings, there is no need for a binge."

I'm posting this here because I think it's such beautiful advice.

I'm going to try it today, should I have that afternoon/early evening urge, and see what happens.

For more information on Carla Savetsky, see

  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

HDHAWK 1/31/2013 8:09PM

    Thanks for sharing this. What good advice!

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DAYSPRING-STAR 1/31/2013 7:19PM

    I found your blog so inspiring that I posted it to another of my SparkTeam's Inspiration and Affirmation thread. Thank you for caring and sharing. I send intentions of healing and peace your way... emoticon

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TRIANGLE-WOMAN 1/30/2013 6:10PM

    Julie, you truly amaze me. With everything that is going on, you find time to look inside and share with us the wisdomethat you find there.

Thank you so much.

Yes, I would agree that I am obliterating consciousness when I binge. I'm breathing deeply even as I write this and I love the feeling.....


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NIXY72 1/29/2013 7:32PM

    That is truly beautiful advice. It is also incredibly true. I can certainly vouch that binging is a seek of control and comfort in my world which is over-stressful and often out of control. I will attempt to take a moment and breathe as well. Thank you so much for posting this and I'm very sorry to hear of your husband's diagnosis.

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PIXIE-LICIOUS 1/26/2013 10:12AM

    Thank you for sharing this!

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WATERMELLEN 1/25/2013 6:36PM

    I love this wise and kind advice and will tuck it away on an as-needed basis. Like drinking to the point of blacking out . . . I truly believe food can work the same way and for the same reason and with the same next morning "hangover" consequences (plus longer term "hangover the belt gut"!!)

Hope it helps YOU. I believe it will.

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CHRISTINASP 1/25/2013 12:44PM

    Thank you. I will try it. I have tried it though, but maybe not long enough for it to work. Many times I binge though I do not feel a need (or: am not aware of it) to cry or scream or to have a hug... Often there's just a vague feeling of disappointment or frustration or sadness that I cannot really 'get a hold of' and that keeps pushing to 'eat to forget it' until I finally give in.... Hmm. Interesting. Thanks for making me think about this.

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