Going from child to caregiver
Friday, January 25, 2013
My parents are starting to fall apart. Their bodies are not working as well as they used to. They are no where near needing full on daily care, but there are things that they are starting to realize they need help with that they won't always be able to do for each other.
I'm still not needing to do much work for them, but it's starting to look like I'm going to need to do a few things for them to make their lives easier. Yesterday my mother decided that I need to get used to driving her car just in case I'm the only one that will be able to drive her home from certain appointments, and the way her eyes are going, she'll need to be driven home from her eye appointments.
They're starting to think about these things because the last of their parents passed away this last year and they're still dealing with the legal issues from it several months later because of assets that the government wants their share of first.
So this means I get to have more responsibility toward their well being. I knew it would happen eventually. I guess driving Mom's car is just the first step and I'm glad she knows her limits for driving, although I know she's not all the way at not being able to drive yet.
I've been starting to think that I should be doing more for them, like a weekly house cleaning because vacuuming is too hard on mom and dad is of the mindset that the woman needs to take care of the house, and perhaps a little of taking care of the yard to make things easier on mom.
I guess it's going to come down to sitting down with them and finding out what I need to do to make their lives easier, but I know that the day is coming sooner than anyone expects. They may only be in their mid-60's, but I can already see the need for a little help. I'm just hoping that major help won't be needed for at least 10 more years.