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How to stop the whirlwind?


Friday, January 25, 2013

OK sparkfriends, I need help. I feel like my life is spinning around me, like a tornado, with me sitting in the eye looking up, afraid to move because i know I can't control what's going to happen. Previous blogs: Boss/friend dying of cancer, my job?, torn rotator cuff awaiting word from workman's comp carrier to see if they'll accept the claim, surgeon?, out of work for how long?, finances, and a lot of little nit-picky things that pile up into one big worry-monster. Eating? Yes. Everything. I didn't think I was an emotional eater, but I was wrong. So is this inabillity to get a grip a result of menopause? I feel like I need my Mommy. Any advice would be appreciated
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SIMPLYAMY 1/28/2013 7:15PM

    I have absolutely NOTHING helpful to say. No advice. No tips. No wisdom. I thought we were on the same page after the first sentence...but my whirlwind comes in black, has four feet, brown eyes and is 9 weeks old (a lab/border collie puppy!). Yep she's freaking adorable. And exhausting, and causing stress. And peeing on my floor. I haven't slept in pj's for a week because I need to go out ever three hours in the BITTER cold...and weight loss. PSHHHT! Whatever.

I am really sorry that you are in the eye of the storm...is there ANYTHING positive to cling to? Even if it's just that God is there with you? That I am there with you. You can vent to me any time. I can virtually hold your hand and let you water my shoulder? Or you can try to focus on the idea that if you are in the eye...that means it's half over? One moment at a time is all you need to get through...

I don't know. I should shush up now because the more words I type the more stupid and cliche I sound. I feel your pain, and it sucks. I'm sorry. Even though I have never met you, I still consider you a friend. So I hope SOMEone has good advice for you! emoticon emoticon

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EABL81 1/27/2013 12:50AM

    Cherione - I'm so sorry that you're feeling like the world's spinning out of control right now. The most important thing is for you to be good to yourself. You've just suffered a big loss, and you're dealing with a medical issue as well. While it is important to make sure that you're getting the nutrients you need, I wouldn't stress too much over diet for a little while. You can only deal with so much at one time, and there are times we need to cut ourselves a bit of a break. Catbefit mentioned how therapeutic walking can be. Just getting out into nature for some quiet time can be a great stress reliever. Maybe starting and ending your day relaxing with some music you enjoy might help as well. If you are worried that menopause may be a factor in your current situation, you might talk to your doctor about it. If it turns out that menopause is the source of some of your difficulties, she might be able to advise you on some short-term aids, just until you're feeling better. Finally, asking for help is the best thing you could have done. Ask your Spark Friends and your loved ones to help you through this time. If need be, don't be afraid to seek professional help. Sometimes just a few sessions can help you feel stronger and more in control. You will get through this - hang in there!

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BLITZEN40 1/25/2013 9:37PM

    Take a deep breath and remember: This too shall pass. I am so sorry about all your stress and pain, my heart goes out to you. Hugs!

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2BDYNAMIC 1/25/2013 8:29PM

    Ok .......... Where to start ..........
First ............ I do not want to say: "Only stress about ...... blah blah ......... But it really is best not to stress over any of it ................ I know ........... sounds easier said than done ............
I am sorry your friend died to cancer ................. That is most sad always, but right now you are the most important ................ Getting a diagnosis ......... MRI on the agenda? ................ And lets say what IF the claim doesn't come thru ............. What about your insurance ........ will it if the work comp does not? ..............
(Believe me ............... I have been in some pretty hard places thru this 'journey' and it has not always been Easy street ....................... so take one thing at a time ...................
Know WE ARE HERE for you!
And ............. re: eating out of stress ............... etc. ................... I know it is hard, BUT maybe you could start tomorrow FRESH using the food tracker ................ and stay within reason ................... otherwise, you will 'pay later' ............ not funny, but we all do ......................
Next .................. I have a chronic pain condition going on in my body (plantar fasciitis) ............ so painful ............... and for quite some time, could do NO wt. bearing exercise, and had to STOP Zumba and more ................... I finally decided .......... I have to 'roll with this stuff ................ stressing will only intensify the pain and cause me more problems ........................
AND IF you want ............. you could do an 11 or 12 min chair workout for lower body w/ Nichole ........ in the video section ..................... It is amazing how revved up you get quickly and let that shoulder rest .................. only use what you can ....................
LAST ................ I don't have a Mommie either ................ and came home sick today w/ a nasty bug, have fever, and I wished I had one ................... But don't ................... so again, we're here and please feel free to 'stay in touch.' ..................... We need one another ....................... emoticon

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CATBEFIT 1/25/2013 6:31PM

    Ahh -- sounds like me about five years ago -- lost a brother to cancer (and ohh, I understand the pain and feeling of "no control" over that), work was totally cockeyed, and broke my shoulder . . . Why is it that major hits come all at once. Wish I could tell you I handled it all calmly -- but that was then, when food was my major "blankie".

Some of the things I have done more recently to help with the stress -- Walk, walk, walk -- raises your endorphins and you feel better without realizing it -- also is slightly meditative; Breathe deeply when the worries are swirling (meditate if you can -- I've never gotten the hand of it); Listen to meditative music or spoken meditations -- you can get these on podcasts free (I used to wake up at 3 in the morning and these put me back to sleep); Get with a compassionate friend, who is willing to listen to all your grief, and pat you on the back (unless you still have your Mommie -- in which case, head for her); and keep on reaching out for support. Brave and Smart thing to do. If you can "Let Go and Let God". I had a hard time with this -- cuz I have real control issues, but the reality is that you can only control what "you" do, and the rest of it is going to play out in its own good time.

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MRLDCTYGRL 1/25/2013 11:00AM

    I was sure by now
That You would have reached down
And wiped our tears away, stepped in and saved the day
But once again, I say, Amen and it's still raining

As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain, "I'm with you"
And as Your mercy falls I raise my hands
And praise the God who gives and takes away

And I'll praise You in this storm and I will lift my hands
For You are who You are no matter where I am
And every tear I've cried You hold in Your hand
You never left my side and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I remember when I stumbled in the wind
You heard my cry, You raised me up again
But my strength is almost gone
How can I carry on if I can't find You

As the thunder rolls
I barely hear Your whisper through the rain, "I'm with you"
And as You mercy falls I raise my hands
And praise the God who gives and takes away

And I'll praise You in this storm and I will lift my hands
For You are who You are no matter where I am
And every tear I've cried You hold in Your hand
You never left my side and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth

I lift my eyes unto the hills
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord
The Maker of Heaven and Earth

And I'll praise You in this storm and I will lift my hands
For You are who You are no matter where I am
And every tear I've cried You hold in Your hand
You never left my side and though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm
And though my heart is torn
I will praise You in this storm

Sometimes you have to CHOOSE the promise of His provision and protection. I'm not talking about the kind of "name it and claim it" theology that turns God into a short order cook for cars and wealth and happy children, but I am talking about choosing to believe that He is good and has a plan for your future that is full of promise and is better than anything you can imagine.

I've been here, and I'm so sorry you're still reeling in the wake of all the chaos swirling around you. There's only so much "concrete" stuff that you CAN do. Number one you already managed, which is to reach out for support. GOOD FOR YOU! :D

Number two is to guard yourself from the schemes of the enemy bent on your destruction. So carve out some time to plan meals for at least a week or two, make a SHOPPING LIST of what you need to prepare them, and DON'T go shopping without that list. ONLY GET WHAT IS ON THE LIST. Go through your pantry and freezer and put together all the stuff you know you shouldn't eat and call a friend who is struggling to put food on the table and bless their socks off. It's so much easier to choose not to eat something if it requires a significant effort to get access to it in the first place.

And crank up some praise music. Praise Him in this storm, not because you feel like it, but because He is worthy anyway, no matter how you feel. Turn your eyes upon Jesus, look full in His wonderful face, and the things of earth will grow strangely dim, in the light of His glory and grace. Jonah didn't end up in the whale because he was bad, it was a rescue mission. The last place the enemy wants you to be is flat on your face at the foot of the throne choosing to thank God for the last breath and asking Him to provide the next one. The enemy wants you to be wrapped up in the storm and distracted from the Source of your help.

Hang in there! You are LOVED.

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SPARKLINGME176 1/25/2013 10:50AM

    Hello! Wonderful Lady! I am so sorry you are 'going through it'! It sounds quite difficult. You asked for advise! That in it's self is a courageous thing to do! I am SURE you will get it! My advise is, make a list of ALL the little things that you love, have fun with, enjoy, like, things that you are grateful for, things you want to see happen, with the reason why you want them. What are your intentions? My idea is that you find the 'bounce in your bungy' as Wallace & Grommit would say. This is the time for YOU! What do YOU truly want AND why? If you are short on time, then give yourself permission to take a 'playtime' say 20 minutes a day, & DO 1 of the things from your list. It WILL help, I promise!

Have a grateful day!

Sparkles,
*~LIGHT (I'm on your team, SP largest weight loss group)

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MORGANSMOM52 1/25/2013 10:46AM

    AHHHH! MY heart goes out to you. You certainly have a lot on your plate (no pun intended). My guess is not menopause but one heck of a lot of stress!

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Been there and just passed the aniversary of her death on the 23rd. Nine years but feels like days. It can be hard.

My suggestions: learn to meditate. Gives you a specific time to just get centered.
If you're going to find yourself munching- don't buy the junk! Stock up on vegies, fruit, string cheese, etc. If you're looking for something to eat and that's all that's there and you want something else, you'll know it's not real hunger!

Exercise may cause problems with the shoulder-so walk.....up the street, pace the hallway, up and down the stairs.

I hope the workmans comp comes through for you and soon.




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