Letter to my 16-year old self
Friday, January 25, 2013
I can't believe your 16 years old today. How wonderful is that? You have your whole life ahead of you. Before you know, you'll be graduating from high school and going on to college. The next couple of years are going to be important to you. The decisions you make now will have an impact on the choices you make later in life.
First off, I want you to know, deep in your soul, that you are a perfectly made human being. Remember that little saying - I'm O.K. because God don't make junk. You need to start believing that. Never settle for anything less than the best for you. Ignore those girls who appear to have it all. They don't. They're just as insecure as you are. Don't listen to the people who cut you down or call you names. When it comes to your outward appearance - you'll learn that those that matter don't care and those that care don't matter! What truly matters in life is what you feel in your heart and what radiates from you. These are the qualities that God looks for. Let his Love that he has for you permeate every bone in your body. don't take that love at face value. Believe it, drink it in. It is yours for the taking. All you have to do is believe with your heart and soul.
And don't worry about finding someone to that loves you. Oh, you'll go through relationships were you think the person "loves" you. If they truly love you, they won't put your down, they won't say that you need to change your appearance, or you need to lose weight. They'll treat you with respect and honesty. They won't need alcohol to communicate. They won't threaten to leave you constantly. They won't make you beg and plead for love. They will give it freely and unconditionally. Eventually, after you've learned these lessons the hard way, just when you have given up on finding that special person, you will. You'll meet someone who becomes your best friend. He'll make you laugh at the silliest things. He'll have shoulders big enough for you to lean on and to cry on. He'll love you for you, no matter what size, shape or hair color for that matter! You'll forge a relationship with this person that can withstand the winds of trouble and despair. You'll go through the darkest times with this person and you'll emerge together to view the most beautiful sunrise.
You'll go through trouble times with your parents and family. Never forget how important those relationships are. No one has the perfect family. That is something that Hallmark created to make the rest of us normal people feel inadequate. Every family has its dysfunctional quirks. Embrace them and love them even more because of them.
Express your love for your friends and family at every opportunity. Before you know it they'll be gone. Some sooner than you expected. The memories from these friends and family will constantly touch your heart and soul. They'll leave an impact on your life long after they are gone. Never forget their smiles and widsom.
I'll leave you with the last paragraph from the great Dr. Suess -
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
you're off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!
Your future self (who is still learning these very same lessons!)