The horror stories of abuse hurled at overweight girls/women are sadly numerous. I read them all the time here on SP. They are very visible in movies and on TV as well.
Unfortunately, mean comments about our bodies aren’t limited to cheerleader types.
I regularly hear remarks about being flat-chested and having no boobs. Sometimes it’s directed at me. I prefer a serious sports bra which squashes down whatever I’ve got. I’ve even heard it directed at Michelle Obama. Granted that was probably sour grapes and politically motivated, but still, when will we stop putting down women based on some ideal body image?
Would I accept a few extra pounds of fat if they could be deposited right on my chest? Sure I would, even if it increased my body fat percentage, but we know our body puts the extra fat where it wants and for me that’s my hips and thighs.
I could buy myself some bigger boobs. I understand they cost about $4,000. Nah, Victoria’s Secret gives me options a lot cheaper and I can put them in a drawer and happily sleep on my stomach or run comfortably.
For the record I’ve never responded with “too bad those boobs come with a big stomach and a butt that could stop a Mac truck.” And I never will. Negative comments about our bodies are hurtful no matter who is making them.
Then there’s the backhanded compliments.
My related blog entry: “That’s a great suit for someone small on top”
Is this just a gender thing?
Do adult men treat each other this way?
I’ve heard opinions that this sort of ill treatment teaches you how to deal with life and makes you stronger. I can understand wanting to be strong enough to “take it,” but I don’t understand the mindset of someone who wants to “dish it out.”
Note: I make an exception for military drill sergeants. Their environment and goal is quite different from those of civilian life.