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Just Can’t Decide!!!

Thursday, January 24, 2013

Just Can’t Decide!!!

I just can’t decide if I should call my doctor to get a referral to a psychiatrist (I can’t remember if a psychiatrist or a psychologist can prescribe meds), or call a psychiatrist directly myself (I don’t have to have a referral); or if I all of this is just in my head & I need to just “get over it.”

I have days that I feel great, which is normally days that I work both jobs; I have plenty to keep me busy so I don’t “think.” Then on the days I don’t work, or just work one job, those are the days that I tend to sleep away!

I have been reading the book “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise L. Hay. It seems to be a pretty good book. It’s just hard at times to sit those negative feelings aside & replace them with positive thoughts. I have been working on it!!

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    Lots of great info for you here....... emoticon
    1780 days ago
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    1869 days ago
    Now I'm always against the grain and think that meds are in most cases just one more part of the problem. Not saying in EVERY case...but remember they do have warnings that should scare the bejabbers out of you.

    I think a lot the problem is that you don't have alot of really close friends that you can bounce things off of. Sometimes just hearing ourselves talk through things out loud is
    VERY helpful. Heaven knows I blog my heart out...the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.

    Even having a vast array of fleshie friends doesn't give me the comfort and support that my dazzling sparkies do. Sooooo something to think about.

    Then too...I don't know if you are still guzzling those Diet Dr. Peppers...BUT...when I kicked soda to the curb..a good three years ago...my outlook definitely brightened...even with the poop storm that we are continually walking through in our quest to save our home from the slime ball lenders who are attempting to steal it away from us. This had been an all out WAR for the past three years...and let me tell you...NOTHING depresses you like the thought of not having a roof over your head the next day.

    Soda actually has been proven to depress people. It has so many chemicals and toxins in it...why wouldn't it play havoc with your brain.

    Just check out Dr. Oz's site and if you can tivo his show DO IT...he is a medical doctor and a brilliant heart surgeon...but also an ENLIGHTENED human being that doesn't believe in just prescribing meds that do nothing to help the symptoms...just mask them and push you closer to the edge.

    I've always thought that medication IS necessary in some cases...but I also think that it is a boat to take you over the water...NOT to keep you in the ocean forever.

    Of course in some cases it is a life saver...so NO HATE mail please. Our son was extremely depressed and I tried every med under the face of the sun, they flat out DID NOT work for him. In the meantime his diet was total CRAP..and that is what the world pretty much exists on these days...its a REAL challenge to find REAL food...just sayin'.....

    Read Christianne Northrup's book "The Wisdom of Menopause" I actually sent a copy off to a good friend that totally thought she was going mad...helped her immensely!

    You've been through a poop storm yourself...you SO deserve to feel better...you will..and it all starts with your DIET...girl.

    Love you...spark mail me ANYTIME!


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    1873 days ago
    Oh darlin, sending love. Others have given good advice and I see from your status you've made an appointment, which is so good. I am glad you're taking this step and will be sending positive energy your way.

    Not sure if others have recommended this but I strongly recommend talk therapy too, with a psychologist or licensed counselor, as well as meds that the doc thinks will help. Psychiatrists who normally prescribe meds are too expensive to do talk therapy but they often work with counselors. Insurance doesn't always cover as much (and I know you said you're struggling financially too) but even a few sessions would likely help. I have been there, and both my kids too...and it helped so much.


    1874 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/4/2013 2:30:22 PM
    I'd probably ask my primary care doctor if I were in your shoes. If your doctor, as I suspect, is someone you've been going to for a good while he/she may be a good place to ask whether you should start with a phychologist or a psychotherapist or a psychiatrist.

    I definitely agree with the suggestion you get bloodwork done by your doctor and a physical as a first step. Not sure how old you are, but menopause and peri-menopause hit over a broad span of years anywhere from age 35 to 65 in the normal course of things. Not saying that is the situation here, but it is a totally normal part of a woman getting older that can make your whole system (and emotions) go totally bonkers. The cause could be as simple as that, you know.

    Hang in there. This too shall pass - really!
    1879 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/29/2013 6:35:23 PM
    So sorry it has been such a struggle for you lately. I think you should definately see a counselor as soon as possible. Take a sick day and go talk to someone, but I also I really believe you need to see a debt counselor as well. Financial matters can be huge burdons and it sounds like you are not winning the fight. For me, I felt so hopeless and distraught it seemed to cause alot of physical ailments. Our relief came in the form of a bill consolidation loan, but it may be a different solution for you. Most times it doesnt cost to go talk to someone, but I think that is VERY important for you to do to get a handle on your finances. Sounds like you are so busy working and looking for a way to make more money it is consuming you. There is no room to focus on health or joy of any kind. Think about your life if you didnt have all of that to worry about. I hope there is a perfect solution for you, but make it a priority. It is as important as your health...really. You will be amazed how much better you will feel. I will be praying for you. God Bless! emoticon
    1880 days ago
    I totally recommend talking to your primary health physician. It is a strange conversation to have but it's worth it in the end. Make sure to get some blood work done to rule out any issues-- for me it was low vitamin d and hypothyroid.

    At that point your own doctor can prescribe you medicine without even seeing a psychiatrist. Maybe seeing a psychologist might be cheaper so you have the best of both worlds. Look up the different medications and see which one might work best for you and be open with your doctor about treatment plans that you think will work best for you, after all you know your body/mind better than any doctor would.

    I will warn you that ADs are not quick fixes, sometimes it takes many months of trial and error to get where you want to be. There are awful side effects, like mine has been uncontrollable crying at the most inconvenient times. Sadly you don't take the pill and automatically feel better. But they can be a great tool, like with me it has helped cut down on my emotional eating by a lot. But it is always a work in progress. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and it is a difficult decision to make. As much as I've been dealing with these medications I don't regret ever telling a professional how I've been feeling.

    I wish you much luck in any decisions that you make! :)

    Edit: read your other blogs and see you're already on cymbalta. When I went to my doctor I specifically told her I did not want an SSRI because of the numbing feeling. She was open minded enough to start me on Wellburtin SR instead. So don't be afraid to tell your doctor that the Cymbalta is not working! If they don't agree then at that point I do recommend a psychiatrist. Many people take cymbalta and it just doesn't work for them. No matter what I'm not sure they will help your self esteem, I think that is something one needs to find within. I feel the more I lose weight the more I feel better about myself, and am actually starting to like myself a little. It just takes time. Anyway this got way too long. Hope you the best and good luck on your journey. You're not alone in this!
    1880 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/29/2013 10:52:53 AM
    If your insurance covers it, you may have to get the referral. I would take that step toward feeling normal again. Your heath should not wait.
    1880 days ago
  • LYNNA1968
    Go talk to someone, can never hurt and the sooner then better that way you don't have a chance to talk yourself out of it emoticon
    1882 days ago
    No advice, just emoticon !!!
    1883 days ago
    I would see a good psychiatrist. Maybe your primary care physician can recommend someone based on what you tell your primary care physician.
    I tried various psychologists on many different occasions and none of them helped. I could talk to a good friend just as well as paying to talk to a psychologist. Just my problem. It might work for you.
    You might want to see both.
    But seek guidance from the medical profession soon. Don't let these things fester.
    Good luck.

    1883 days ago
    There's nothing more I can add that isn't already written here. Just know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope you've made a phone call to talk with someone (either your doctor, psychiatrist or psychologist). Sometimes we just need a little help dealing with things that we can't handle alone. You deserve to be happy!

    1884 days ago
    I think you should do it. Even if you go for a few sessions. I went through some stuff with my famly last year that I went to one for a few months. I feel better. emoticon
    1884 days ago
    I agree with the suggestions and comments you have received. Don't wait, do it and you will be on the road to improvment. Even start with your family doctor, but do it!
    1884 days ago
    Well, I feel like I am missing a big part of the picture here ... But, regardless - at this point - if you need meds ca a psychiatrist - of you want to chat and not get meds call a Psychologist. If you are questioning on a public site - you need to see someone.
    1884 days ago
    I had to visit my doc (here one doc is almost everything) to get some anti -depressants. I could tell that I wasn't handling all the crap in my life by myself. Sometimes you do need a (chemical) nudge... Good luck and God bless.
    1884 days ago
    I'm sure if you go visit your regular doctor, she can give you some medication if she feels it will help and give you a name of a doctor s/he recommends.
    1884 days ago
  • RUNGRL2013
    Good advice here; just wanted to add an air-hug from me! emoticon emoticon
    1884 days ago
    I too think you should seek help. I think you have to be ref to a professional from your doctor. God be with you in all this.

    I will keep you in prayer. Just because you cannot see it the problem like a person who has a cast on his foot . It doesnt mean you don't need help. Nothing wrong with that. You may just need relaxing methods or youor may just need to take time for you. Perhaps you have given out to all and never to self. Time for self. Maybe you can be over active. You dont know untill you seek.

    And the doctor knows fast.

    1885 days ago
    A psychiatrist is an M.D. (went to medical school just like your regular doctor) and can prescribe meds. However, any good clinical psychologist or therapist will be able to tell you if you need to see a psychiatrist. Most of them work closely with one or two psychiatrists and will be able to refer you if necessary. A lot of times, people with severe depression see a psychologist or therapist regularly and also see a psychiatrist for medication every few months (most psychiatrists don't do talk therapy). It can't hurt to go and talk to a therapist-- they'll be able to help you figure out the best course of action. Good luck!
    1885 days ago
    Psychiatrists can prescribe meds. I, too suggest seeing a professional (a referral from your dr if possible) if for nothing else than to just talk. That alone can help. I saw a psychologist back in 2010 after I learned of my husband's internet affairs. Although he and I are still a work in progress in many ways, to have someone not connected to the situation that I could bounce off what I was feeling, helped me a lot. Also I have read the book "You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise L. Hay. Good read however I am still a work in progress when it comes to changing the way I think. It will take time as with anything. Take care my friend! emoticon emoticon
    1885 days ago
    I agree that you should call a professional soon. The right one for you will help you. Good luck to you my dear. emoticon to you, Karen
    1885 days ago
    I say your doctor. What is going on may have a physical cause. Go soon dear. God go with you.
    1885 days ago
    I agree with what the others have said go with this:)
    And let us know how it comes out for you please.
    1885 days ago
  • -POOKIE-
    What are the pro's and con's of each option?
    Which will be faster?
    Who would you prefer to see?

    Write down the pro's and con's of each option and see what would work best for you, I have no idea how your health care process works, so I cant advise other than writing it out to see whats best.
    1885 days ago
  • LYNSEY723
    I would say get in touch with a professional!! Sometimes depression is something that people can't get through alone. Getting to the root of the issues and working on the foundation again can be extremely helpful! Maybe you just need to talk it out with someone........

    Good luck!! emoticon
    1885 days ago
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