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Parental Health Woes...Again

Thursday, January 24, 2013

My parents are still living in a huge, multilevel house a couple hours away from me...and my dad is still my mom's full-time caregiver, despite the fact that he's almost 80 and got diagnosed with emphysema last year. But things may finally be coming to a head. He told me at Christmas that he's ready to sell the house and move here, which is a huge step - though he hasn't actually done anything about it yet. But they both picked up a virus at Christmas and have been sick ever since, and it sounds like my mom is doing really badly - she has fallen four times in four days. My dad had to call the neighbors twice to help, one time he managed to get her up himself, but at 2:30am on Wed morning he had to call 911 because he just couldn't do it.

My brother talked to them last night and my dad definitely recognizes that this isn't working, but I just don't know if we can actually move him to DO something about it. I'm going to call them today and really push for them to get someone in at least temporarily, at least till they're both feeling better.

Ughhhh...I feel like I've been fighting this fight forever - it's been years - and each crisis point gets a little worse.

Sorry, I'm a downer today. I'm just really tired of banging my head on a wall, and it's really depressing to watch them go further and further downhill and refuse to do anything about it.

Hope everyone is having a good day.

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    Hang in there. We went through it with my Grandparents. So hard. They are both in a nursing home now which is hard in some ways, but at least we know they are eating regularly, getting their medications and not driving around putting themselves and others in danger.
    1881 days ago
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    Sorry to hear your parents are not doing well. Hopefully, as soon as they get over their virus, they will think more seriously about moving closer to you where you can help them more.
    1881 days ago
    As you know, my father cares for my my mother mostly but he, too, is getting on. Even though my mother barely weights 80lb now (she's gaining!), he can't lift her. I definitely can't (my weight limit is supposed to be 10lb!).

    I'm there at night but at some point, we've decided as a family, I'll have to quit my job and care-give 100% of the time. I mean, I don't have to but this is both my tendency and their expectation.
    1881 days ago
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