This morning I had the great fortune to read a wonderful article in Yoga Journal called "boost Your Willpower" :
I then listened to Inside Out Weight Loss podcast number 2:
about towards motivation (focusing on what you want and your dreams for yourself).
I felt so moved and inspired by these two resources.
Here are some of my takeaways:
From the article, I loved how they framed positive intentions for wellness:
• I am happy and healthy in my body and live life fully
• I am my happiest self in a healthy body
• I am the most authentic and empowered version of myself, a person who has incredible gifts to share.
These three statements are so positive and inspiring. I'm going to print them out and plaster them wherever I can as reminders that when I make choices to care for myself, I'm happier, living life more fully, and I feel empowered.
Kelly McGonagil's work was the focus of this article and she has a free four week program to help boost willpower. To sign up, go to this link:
I signed up and am getting the weekly emails with fun, easy steps to follow.
According to McGonagil, true willpower is made up of three parts: what you will do, what you won't do, and what you want to do. What you will do is how you take care of yourself and move towards your goal (get up early to exercise, make healthy foods). What you won't do is what you'll avoid doing because it's harmful or blocks your goal (eat desserts, eat out a lot). What you want is the better vision of yourself, the reason you have this goal (fit into smaller clothing, feel better, have more energy). True willpower taps into all 3 at once.
This really makes sense to me. I can completely see how when I'm in a flow of caring for myself, it's because all three aspects of willpower are working together. I make good choices, avoid destructive behavior, and keep my larger vision for myself in mind as a motivator.
Similarly, in Renee Stephen's IOWL podcast 2, the focus was on that larger vision for myself, my dream self, focusing on towards motivation (what I want!).
As Renee asks, I created a vision of myself at my dream weight, in the future. She is very careful to remind us that I may have been thin before, but that something was unstable because I gained the weight back.
I know for me, losing weight this summer happened when life was a bit unreal because I was completely free from any stress, I was getting tons of sleep daily, and I had almost total control over eating situations, times, etc. It wasn't real life thinness, me living in the real world of work, stress, family, etc.
In addition, as I've mentioned in other blogs, I kept avoiding cultivating a sense of self acceptance or inner alignment. I didn't love myself fully and unconditionally.
So, back to that dream of the future me:
The new me is dealing with cancer and infidelity, but is still thin. The new me taps into all three parts of willpower. The new me has resilience in all situations and finds non-food ways to renew when under stress. The new me remembers the mantras up above and meditates on them daily. The new me is at peace, loves myself and forgives myself.
And for a little laughter...