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What would you do?

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Yesterday started out a nice relaxing day.
The weather is cold here in NJ,
but I have my thermostat set to 68 and I'm comfy.
I had roasted some chickpeas for lunch, and they had burnt a little,
the smoke alarms went off (they're very sensitive),
and I opened 3 of my windows about 2 inches to get the smell out.

I was minding my own business, working on a little project I have going.
30 minutes later I get a knock on my door from one of the maintenance guys.
My windows are open....
I explain to him I burnt something I was making and they're barely open
and I was trying to get rid of the smell.

Again he tells me My windows are open....
and he just finished fixing a frozen pipe in the complex.
I explain to him that my alarms went off and
that's why I had the windows open.

Again he tells me My windows are open but that he's not trying to 'bust my chops' , he's just warning me that my windows are open.
Now I'm getting annoyed...again I tell him I was trying to get rid of the smell.

He turns and starts down the stairs, annoyed at my response,
Telling me all the way down the stairs that my windows are open.
And as he leaves I tell him he's mad but he keeps telling me about the windows even when I keep explaining to him that I burnt something.

I don't need this garbage.

It ruined my mood and bothered me all day and all night.
First of's my apartment; if I want a little fresh air, I'm going to get it
Second, I don't like being harassed
Third, once I explained the situation, that should have been the end of the conversation.

I'm not about to live in a vacuum sealed apartment,
just to make someone happy.
Next time I'm just going to act dumb,
yes him to death,
but just continue doing what I want.
I feel like someone, once again, is violating my safe haven, my home.

It's aggravating and I'm still annoyed.
I came very close to wanting a binge.

What would you do?


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
BOOTYLICIOUS83 1/25/2013 2:57PM

    tell him once then tell him to leave NOW.

you are free to open YOUR windows if you choose.!

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PATTISTAMPS 1/25/2013 1:11PM

    If a similar situation happens again, tell him once. And if he says it again, tell him you will not tolerate harrassment, and you will call the housing authority. Then follow through. There are laws protecting tenants.

I'm proud of you for not binging!!!

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KANOE10 1/25/2013 7:53AM

    Go on Spark and vent. You are right to feel invaded. This is your apt and you should be able to do what you want.

My sister lives in an apt complex area. I was talking on my cell phone in the street and a guy signaled me to be quiet..and told me voices carried. So now you cannot talk in the street?

Sorry that happened to you. He was rude. emoticon

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SPARKFRAN514 1/24/2013 1:07AM

i have to agree with everyone and the response s . Next tell the MAN I have a timer set so I don't forget to close therm so i won't forget thanks for the reminder though I won't forget to close them I promise.

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ARTJAC 1/24/2013 1:02AM


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1MYSTERY_LADY 1/23/2013 10:23PM

    I have the same hassles too. I just says oh ok and close the door and leave the person talking to the door.

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CHOCOHIPPO 1/23/2013 9:47PM

    Not binge but give him a piece of my mind what a jerk

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    OMG!! Was he on something? Some people leave their windows open even in winter. My neighbors down the road leave their bedroom window up a couple of inches all year. Maybe I should call the police. LOL. emoticon

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ANNESYLVIA 1/23/2013 8:23PM

    Yikes! Is it a co-op or condo? Because if you are renting it might be some rule that you can't have the heat turned up at a certain degree if you want your windows open.

It has been a while since I rented but I know the landlord and their employees can get pushy.

I hope you get back your good mood.

BTW: It is real cold here in up-state NY too!

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IAMAGEMLOVER 1/23/2013 8:21PM

    I go through this constantly with my landlord. Not so much since they have gotten older, in their 90's now but I have been here 16 years. I have had the woman landlord come up into my apartment and add clothes to my washing machine because she says I don't fill it enough and they pay for the hot water. Then she says I snuck the washing machine in after I asked her right in front of section 8 and my Mom. She practically called my Mom a liar. When I did 2 sets of sheets one day because it was nice and we had a rainy week, I didn't have a dryer, just a clothesline, she asked me if I wet my bed. They both tell me when my windows are open to close them because they pay for the heat. They have even come upstairs to shut them. I just reopen them. If it rains, they call and tell me to shut the windows. I think the greatest thing I have gotten is caller ID. If it is them I don't answer the phone. Now they stand downstairs and scream my name but I ignore it pretend I am sleeping. It is really getting annoying now since they have gotten so old. I am thinking about moving when my lease is up which is a shame because I just repainted and finally talked them into putting new floors in.

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TERMITEMOM 1/23/2013 8:07PM

    I would have said - Thank you! and do whatever I wanted to do... Good for you not to let it sabotage your day! emoticon

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GOSPARK45 1/23/2013 7:57PM

    I hate it when people don't listen to what you say. They have made up their mind and nothing you say matters. I want to scream! But then I have learned that I'm the one getting into the bad mood. So now I try to just ignore it. Let them have their STUPID opinion and I'll go my merry way. (But I'm not always successful!)
Why do people insist on butting into your life?? why oh why?
Good for you for not binging. It would have only hurt you, not him. So keep up the good work. Hope you don't have ot deal with him anytime soon.

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THESEEKER2012 1/23/2013 7:39PM

    i just would have said yes thank you for telling me . Good bye thanks again
and leave my windows open." My apartment, my rule" No need to try to justifie yourself to anyone one You had your reasons and that is good enough. People who don't want to understand,never will.

Keep smiling :D

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    as frustrating as he was maybe you should have offered himthe burnt chickpeas. in all honestly i wouldnt have thought of it at the time either.

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SNOWYOGA 1/23/2013 5:49PM

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CHACHAOREO 1/23/2013 5:41PM


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DALID414 1/23/2013 4:32PM

    I would have closed the door after I explained myself twice, but then again I'm rude that way.

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GLC2009 1/23/2013 3:09PM

    i love the reactions you stirred up. almost everyone would have handled differently then someone else. thanks for the great reading.

btw, my vote would be to "thanks for letting me know. bye." emoticon

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WALLAHALLA 1/23/2013 2:54PM

    Hmmm...I seem to remember requesting someone running down and fetching me a smoke vaccuum so that the smoke and smell could be sucked out, and that the faster he got it for me, the sooner I could get my windows shut. I said sure they make 'em, they're stored right next to the shop vacs.

Don't let any one else's mood have power over yours. Sometimes stupid just can't be fixed.

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PATRICIAANN46 1/23/2013 2:00PM

  Hi Sheryl.........
I would guess that he was NOT happy about having to repair a frozen pipe, didn't want to have to fix another one, and took it out on you.
It's always easier to think of what you should have said after the fact, but in this case, I don't think you would have changed his mood. I guess I would have said that I would close them just to get rid of him and then done whatever I wanted to. If you pay your own heating bill, opening or not opening your windows should be up to you.

Take care. Your incredible sense of humor will get you through.........

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MOTHER-NATURE 1/23/2013 11:57AM

    I would have said emoticon and went and closed my windows as I would not have wanted another knock at my door saying you called and said for some reason you have no water.

Things like this are going to happen in life, people are at times going to ruffle our feathers ... if you allow them to ... in all honesty I would really have gone and thanked him ... that's what I would do emoticon

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BUTEAFULL 1/23/2013 11:13AM

    say 'if and that's a big IF, my pipes freeze, you'll be the first to know' actually I probably would have said F You they are only gonna be open long enough to air our the smoke smell and I'll close them, won't take long at all.

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 1/23/2013 10:52AM

  I would have said oh well, have a nice day!!!

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HEALTHY4ME 1/23/2013 10:48AM

    I presume like slimmerjesse. he didnt want to have to fix any more broken pipes. But man can't he understand you didn't plan to leave them open on purpose any longer than needed GEESH

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LEANMEAN2 1/23/2013 10:26AM

    Good for you in not letting it push you to seek comfort food.

Your producing enough smoke to require opening windows reminded me of whenever I was using my grandmother's OLD waffle iron. It was manufactured before electricity so I had to adjust the heat under it manually. Every time I made waffles, it meant that we tested our smoke alarm.

I hope today treats you better.

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NEW-CAZ 1/23/2013 10:02AM

    I wonder if the guy was English speaking or had a hearing aid!!
Or music playing on earphones- whatever it was he wasn't hearing you.
I'd have just shouted I KNOW , THANK YOU! and left it at that.

I might also have punched a few cushions and muttered some expletives, took a deep breathe= and forgot it.
Certainly wouldn't let him mess with my head enough to turn me to binge!!

GLad you didn't!

Comment edited on: 1/23/2013 10:03:26 AM

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SLIMMERJESSE 1/23/2013 9:51AM

    I think I would've said thanks, I know. Bye. Sounds like his real message was that he didn't want to have to fix any more frozen pipes, so shut the windows.

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TERRI289 1/23/2013 9:44AM

    That was an odd confrontation with a person who was having an OCD moment..that is my best guess.You stuck to youer guns, you did well.

Shaking off funky encounters is can do it.. Munch those chickepeas and Zumba and shake that booty...that should be a step in the right direction!! emoticon

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MICKEYH 1/23/2013 9:06AM

    Is he insane ? Or is he paying your heating bill? Who care about my window huh?? What a annoying guy.. But I would not let this guy ruined my day. No binge eating.. I will not let this guy take away my happiness. Have a nice day!!
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ANNIE924 1/23/2013 9:03AM

    That sounds really annoying. I might have told him yes I realize they're open, I needed to clear the air after burning some food. I will close them within the hour. Might not have shut him up, but would show you were aware, you knew it would be a problem if they were open in error, but that you were in control of the situation.

Hope you have a wonderful day, keep warm.

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EDWARDS1411 1/23/2013 9:01AM

    I'd probably react and do the very same thing. Agree with you 100%! However, just looking dumb and saying yes to everything, closing the door and then continue doing the same would have been a lot less aggravating - lesson learned. I've never heard of getting complaints from management because of opening windows in the winter time.

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HI-NRG 1/23/2013 8:54AM

    I try to look at these incidents, while they are aggravating, to make some great stories to tell others and blog about later. Sometimes, when irritating things happen to me I try to think how funny or ridiculous this will sound when I relate the tale. There are so many strange (different) people out there that I'm glad I have such an interesting topic for conversation. Then I remember that I'm probably the dinner conversation for some folks, and don't even know it.
Keep looking on the lighter side.
Love your blogs!

Let us know when "window man" visits again!

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WOUBBIE 1/23/2013 8:29AM

    Grrrr. I hate people who just HAVE to have the last word, even when they're wrong. Grrrr. I STILL remember a phone conversation from years ago with a doofus at Comcast when I wanted to cancel my account because I had already changed suppliers and he couldn't deviate from his sales script. I should have asked to speak to his manager and recommended some re-training, but it ended up sounding like one of those ridiculous arguments between David and Maddie on Moonlighting, minus all the humor!

Good going for not letting it push you into self-defeating behavior!

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    Gosh, really? I didn't notice. Thanks for letting me know. Goodbye, have a great day! (Meanwhile, thinking to myself, go AWAY, doofus!)

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TAFODIL24 1/23/2013 7:57AM

    emoticon "Yes, sir ~ thank you for letting me know." Then gently close the door and go about your biz breathing in the fresh air from your open windows.
Don't let him ruin your mood ~

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1CRAZYDOG 1/23/2013 7:55AM

    UGH! Your whole complex is full of cra-cray's arent they! I suppose I would have said with a smile, "Yes, thank you." Simple Who knows what was really on his mind, because he didn't tell you "You have to close 'em" or anything like that. Oh well . . . done, over with, and I'd try to just ignore it. I KNOW I KNOW . . . easier said than done.

Hope today is a better day. Cold here too for sure. Yesterday the high was 6 degrees. Brrrrr!

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MALEXANDER4 1/23/2013 7:52AM

    You did the right thing. It wasn't your fault the pipes had froze and he had to fix it. And besides...a open window doesn't freeze pipes....not enough insulation does. So your fine he was just upset that he had to get out and fix a pipe in the cold. Just smile and move on.

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APPLEPIEAPPLE 1/23/2013 7:51AM

    Are the utilites like heat and air paid by you or included with the rent? How is the window being open affect the pipe he replaced? Perhaps asking questions of him to explain his actions might be the answer. Yes, if something is burnt-opening the window to shut of the smoke alarm is needed and you do need clean air to breathe. Perhaps he was frustated by having to fix the pipes.

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NANNABLACK 1/23/2013 7:35AM

    Maybe he wanted a thank you or just a nod to see if you understood him. I would never have thought of anything to reply except to say what you said. You did good and you pay rent and fresh air is always needed.

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COCK-ROBIN 1/23/2013 7:34AM

    Probably ask if he understood plain English, or if you were speaking in Egyptian or something.

But I know the feeling. Yesterday I was so down, I wanted to find the nearest Mexican restaurant and drown my sorrows in the biggest plate of nachos they had. I didn't, but I really wanted to. But that doesn't solve anything, or make the idiots like that moron go away. But we have each other to bear each other up.

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CHRISTINASP 1/23/2013 7:27AM

    I tink what I would have done is smile brightly and say 'THANK YOU FOR WARNING ME!'. Turn around, close the door. (And maybe, open the windows a bit further).

My impression is that the maintenance man either does not speak English very well, or is not gifted with a lot of mental capacity.
Maybe he was expecting you to thank him for letting you know your windows are open.

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KASEYCOFF 1/23/2013 6:56AM

    I would try to shrug it off, but in reality, I'm pretty sure the run-in with the idiot would've lingered much longer than the smell of burnt chickpeas...

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AMSPARKER 1/23/2013 6:41AM

    wow, that is VERY frustrating! I agree with you, yes him to death and do what you want....even close the windows while he is there and then, just open them again. And then, DON"T answer the door. I'm not really a passive agressive person, but really, you are not a child, 2 inches is hardly going to freeze the pipes. Now that you know what you are dealing with (a person who has major issues), don't get swept into his issues! I find that there are some people that you just can't reason with, so you shouldn't try. With these people, I just nod my head and smile. HUGS to you! Sorry that this ruined your mood, and happy that you DID NOT binge!!!

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